The thing is most feeders don't want their partner to be immobile or completely dependant just large and exciting. Immobility feeders are a very small segment of the feeder/foodie fetish community. Most times a feeder wants to watch their partner eat decadently and in large amounts and then they work off the sexual energy with sex...the same as a person fixated on seeing a partner work out and then jumping them after the session....or seeing their partner put on lingerie...you get the idea.

As far as I have seen and heard the fetish isn't about control it's about food, weight, and flesh. Feeders love to feed their partners, get sexual thrills from the feeling that feeding a partner gives us all and the excess weight reminds them of that pleasure. OR they simply like the feel of a large partner's fat rolls and fetishize them.

Feeding to immoblity is a kink that isn't there for all feeders just as not every person who likes a nice round butt wants to have anal sex! One thing that being here in this accepting and open community we should have all learned by now is the easy answer to why a fetish is popular is probably not the real or even correct answer.
Feeding isn't all about unequal power/control. Feeders don't see their partners as weak or under their control...they see them as powerful and LARGE, again a power connection.

I know that as a society we see weight as being unattractive and unhealthy but the reality is there are PLENTY of large people who are incredibly healthy and plenty of thin people who are one step from the grave. I would hate to think that someone who actually likes this type of fetish being scared or shamed into silence because of the negative talk here in this forum.

Awwww your guy sounds like he agrees with mine! While my guys love the idea of me being soft and warm they want me to feel sexy and be able to act on how I feel. Arch has admitted that if i should ever want to get into extreme body building he'd join me but it's just the opposite side of the coin cause he still wants me to be large, just muscular. He admits though that he loves my cooking and my body so if I am happy, he is happy.
Sigel is a bonefide chubby chaser...he LOVES a BBW and has NO problem telling her so. What he finds as attractive as catnip is a woman who is large, eats with obvious pleasure AND is confident in her sex appeal. He wants all women regardless of how they look to own their sexuality and LOVE it. As I talk to more people who fetishize food and weight I find that this is a really prevalent theme in their fantasies and desires, quite a far cry from the idea that they want a completely dependant slave who cannot leave them because they can't move.