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Do you stop calling it a "fantasy" once you've fulfilled it?

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Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Nope. It is still a fantasy.

Cause every time I fulfill that fantasy, it is always a little different and unique than the time before it.
01/25/2011
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Nope. It is still a fantasy.

Cause every time I fulfill that fantasy, it is always a little different and unique than the time before it.
01/25/2011
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
No. Of course not, silly! It's still your fantasy, still a sort of fetish in my opinion. Plus, that's an excellent question.
01/29/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
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Originally posted by Woman China
Nope. It is still a fantasy.

Cause every time I fulfill that fantasy, it is always a little different and unique than the time before it.
This.

I'm looking forward to fulfilling and (later) improving on some of mine this weekend with Sir.
01/29/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
I was going to say yes, but I suppose it's still a fantasy if you want it to happen again!
01/29/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
Wow, I dreaded voting just now because it was perfect 50/50.

But I say I still call it a fantasy.
Fantasy does not mean uncharted territory. Fantasy is just fantastical to me. Out of the ordinary, something I dream about doing. And if I've done it once, it doesn't mean that I can no longer dream about doing it again.

And referring to it again, past tense, you'd still say: "I had this fantasy once to do XY and Z while ABC happened. It was great. I'd love to try it again."

I suppose if you kept repetitively doing it, you might want to call it a fetish lol
01/29/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I still call it a fantasy because just because I've tried something doesn't mean I don't fantasize about it happening again. I tend to fantasize about the same handful of things some of which I've tried and some that I haven't.
01/29/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by Taylor
I still call it a fantasy because just because I've tried something doesn't mean I don't fantasize about it happening again. I tend to fantasize about the same handful of things some of which I've tried and some that I haven't.
Agreed. A fantasy is just something you fantasize about, which you can clearly do regardless of whether you've actually done the thing in real life or not.
01/29/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
Yes and No. I am not completely sure, but I am leaning towards yes
02/07/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
To me, a fantasy is just something you think about to get off so.. having done it or not does not apply.
02/15/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
It's still a fantasy but you just do it again and again.
03/19/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I never really thought about it, but I've never used fantasy to refer to something I've already done. Food for thought.
03/19/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i don't really call my fantasies "fantasies" now that i think about it. i refer to them as fun ideas; i still like to call them that even after they've been fulfilled.
07/04/2011
Contributor: MJ1337 MJ1337
The fantasies are still awesome.. to relive over and over and over again (would be even better!)
07/04/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
What an interesting question. I think that fantasies can still remain as such because in your fantasy things are probably going to work out in a more ideal way than how they pan out in real life. Like you can fantasize about a situation or doing a specific sexual act, but it's also about *how* that situation goes down. Get my drift?
07/04/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Eh to me, fantasizing doesn't always mean longing after something you haven't had. It also means wishing for something you want to have again, or replaying something you've done in your mind. But what do I know?
Hey that's true too. Fantasies can be replays or desiring after something very attainable.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
A couple I have gotten to do...and quickly learned they were better as a fantasy, and not so great as reality. Others,well, the memories create NEW fantasys.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Haha, of course! Because now it's "reality" not "fantasy"
01/25/2012
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
No, because usually my fantasies are on going.
01/28/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
No we still call it a fantasy, because there are different ways to go about the fantasy.
01/28/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
i think it can be
01/30/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
1. imaginative power: the creative power of the imagination
2. mental image or dream: an image or dream created by the imagination
3. impractical idea: an unrealistic and impractical idea
She has this fantasy that someday she'll write a novel.
4. psychology creation of mental images: in psychology, the creation of exaggerated mental images in response to an ungratified need
5. literature genre of fiction: a type of fiction featuring imaginary worlds and magical or supernatural events


I guess technically, yes. But I don't, I still call it a fantasy if it has or hasn't happend if its something I fantasize about
02/05/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
I wouldnt.
02/05/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
Nah it would still qualify as a fantasy to me- because it's one of the things to be thinking about during masturbation etc. But I suppose it could be called a fetish or kink after, fantasy still works well
02/07/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Yes, unless it changes or wasn't that good of a fulfillment.
03/09/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
It's still a fantasy; it just goes from being "unfulfilled" to "fulfilled."
03/09/2012
Contributor: purple579 purple579
I don't have any fantasies
03/18/2012
Contributor: plaidvulva plaidvulva
Depends if I still fantasize about it afterwards; which I typically do.
03/18/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Silly question perhaps, but I'm just wondering
Hmmm. Maybe "fantasy" is not the right word to describe my... "fantasies." Lol. Mine actually only ever involve my partner and we've done nearly all of them except maybe something we've never had the chance to yet. We actually done one of my fav "fantasies" again today! Since mine have came true and they only involve me and my partner (no other people) they may not be what most people consider a fantasy today. But either way, my "fantasies" have come true and continue to every so often so that's all I need I suppose.
03/18/2012
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
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Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I would say "yes." If it's been fulfilled it would then be reality, not fantasy.
I agree once you have fulfilled the fantasy, it's been a reality.
03/18/2012