It's not emotional s/m for me. When my first serious girlfriend left me for another man, I was sad and miserable - except for the times I masturbated to the thought of her having sex with someone else. I even got off stronger when it wasn't just someone else in general, but a real person who I met. About 15 minutes after masturbation I'd hate him again, but until then I was in post orgasmic bliss and actually forgetting about any anger/sadness towards my ex or that guy. I got off mainly from the idea of her liking sex (which she seemed to stop liking with me) and as a modifier to that, making her seem dirty.

Now with my current partner, who is much more experienced than my previous, not only do we talk very openly about our fantasies, but she told me right up front about nearly every one of her past sexual experiences. It almost felt overwhelming and I felt like I should run. She was just being honest but it seemed like she was testing how I could take it, so I smiled and said, "cool." She didn't know for few weeks/months that I was masturbating to her stories nearly the whole time.

A few months later into our relationship, while having sex I would go back to her stories and think about her sleeping with her most recent ex or even extending the fantasies myself to make it so she was going much further with certain men, further than she ever actually went with some of them. I would hear her moan and imagine her moaning because of some other guy, tapping into thoughts of being him and thinking about all the other guys who heard this moaning, who had the same point of view of her ass from behind, or her tits and face from above, and did the same things to her to get a rise out of her. It's like almost getting to be someone else (which is another part of our role playing) but it having an element of truth to it because she really did fuck these guys.

And then a couple weeks ago, halfway through a 2 hour romp, I finally asked her to start describing sex with other guys herself. My favorite was the one time she slept with her ex one last time while I was away on business and we were still in that introductory non-exclusive dating phase. It's not like she was cheating on me, since we weren't defined as purely monogamous and I could have slept with anyone else. But having her describe to me exactly what she liked about him, what he did to her, what she did to him, how she loved sucking his cock, how he bent her over the couch - that got me so damn hard for her.

ABSOLUTELY NONE of this had to do with degrading ME. It all had to do with her lust, her love of sex, her being a dirty dirty girl that can't wait to get another dick in her. For me, sloppy seconds isn't the right phrase, but it's the first phrase that comes to mind. And she liked the idea too, because even though we're very monogamous right now, it's out and in the open that some day there may be a third party, and the gender preference being the same for us is both relieving and exciting for the both of us.

When I see cuckhold videos I kind of like them. Sometimes too much of my minds is debating whether it's real or not, or if it's definitely amateur - the bad camera resolution, but there are definitely some videos that have really gotten me off.

The ones I don't like are the sad ones where while the wife is getting fucked by someone else she's looking over to the husband saying "You could never please me like this man, your dick is so small, I love fucking him more than you". That makes me sad. For me, cuckholding is more about watching my woman getting gangbanged and less about me being inadequate.

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I really enjoy the fantasy of it with my wife. We haven't done it, but it is my biggest fantasy to watch my wife having sex with someone else. I think of him doing things that maybe I can't do. My wife and I use dildos quite a bit, and it always gets me really horny when my wife has a massive orgasm while she is getting penetrated by a dildo that is larger than I am. The look of bliss on her face is so beautiful. Afterwords she lets me have sex with her, and the feeling is absolutely amazing. She just feels different down there afterwords, and it is an awsome sight to see her really relaxed and dripping wet. Her vagina has that freshly fucked look to it since we us the liquid silk lube that looks like cum.

I just cant imagine how it would feel to watch that live with her having sex for real with someone that is hung even more than I am. The fantasy might not be for everyone, but it is awsome for the people that do get off on it. I would never let someone talk down to me, but I just want to share different pleasures with my wife.

I am in to cuckolding. I think it is hot to have a bull and my sub has to watch. I love to be in control and tease him.
Sometime is go bull hunting in Manhattan with my sub and it is so sexy.
He has to prep me for my bull ...