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How close are your fantasies to your real life turn-ons?

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Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
For some reason sex in front of an audience pops up a LOT in my masturbatory fantasies. Like, more than two people kind of audience. Like sometimes a room full of people. It's not something I've ever done and it's also not something I even believe I would like in reality. But on some symbolic level this apparently seems to get me off. Odd, no?

Sex is all about symbols, I'm convinced.

And yeah, some other things that I fantasize about would be unethical to act on, so they remain fantasies.
09/28/2010
Contributor: trios trios
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
For some reason sex in front of an audience pops up a LOT in my masturbatory fantasies. Like, more than two people kind of audience. Like sometimes a room full of people. It's not something I've ever done and it's also not something I ... more
Yes, I agree. Sexual tension is definitely related to the psyche. That's why everyone is different as far as their fantasies, the fantasies probably come from past experiences, unfulfilled desires, repressed feelings, etc. (A psychologist probably would do a better job of explaining I'm sure). I do believe that sex play is a way to get out some of these 'tensions' or energies in a safe manner. It's just a matter of how far one is willing to go towards that reality that is the danger (maybe)...
10/04/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Some fantasies I can see me doing but others....not so much. Some just aren't a part of the person I am or that hubby would ever be but still entertaining to dream about.
10/22/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
Most of my fantasies are BDSM centric. They often revolve around things I have done before to get me in the mood, or are not too far off from activities I have actually experienced. Some of my more far out fantasies I would act out with a partner that I totally trust.
10/23/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i love making my thoughts come true
10/23/2010
Contributor: trios trios
Sometimes my wife says that she likes to fantasize about being spanked. But then when we are in the mood, she would rather not!
10/29/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
None of my fantasies are too out there, so I would do all of them at least once.
11/14/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I think pretty much all my fantasies are within the realm of possibility.
12/20/2010
Contributor: darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
I have a few that I have no idea why they turn me on in the moment then I am almost disgusted as soon as I get off. I have no idea why.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
For me, things like forced sex are hot in a roleplay/fantasy situation with a partner that I trust with a safe word and such. Conversely, forced sex is something that completely terrifies me in a real-life situation. I have a few fantasies like that: ones that are great in roleplay, not so great in real life. Or like group sex is something that is fun to watch, but not something I think I would be comfortable participating in.
12/30/2010
Contributor: null null
I may pursue my fantasies, but my SO is not necessarily up for the ride. I keep some things secret because it's just better that way.
12/31/2010
Contributor: [Red] [Red]
It's all about the mentality. Recently discovered my lover and I closely share a fantasy and that knowledge alone is an enormous turn on. I want to act out my fantasies very, very badly. It's all about being able to do so.
08/29/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
There are SO many fantasies that are perfectly tame and doable (but still hot!). And then there are the ones that I would never, ever, in a million years, really want to be involved in.
08/29/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by darkkitty
I have a few that I have no idea why they turn me on in the moment then I am almost disgusted as soon as I get off. I have no idea why.
Oh, my gosh! Me, too! I thought I was the only one who had that happen.
08/29/2011
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
Degrees of things I fantasise about turn me on during sex.
08/29/2011
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I've acted out many but have no desire to do some of them. And a few I've had the pleasure of acting out, but it usually just involves me and one other person. That's enough.
08/29/2011
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I always thought forced sex was hot and then we tried it and not so fun. I am not good with all that.
10/05/2011
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
Most of them I would go for, but a couple are a bit much.
08/22/2012
Contributor: Ramona Ramona
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
Fantasizing about public sex is a lot different than actual public sex, for me.
08/27/2012
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I seem to have a lot of stuff I masturbate to that I would never actually consider in real life. But I do think about real life situations at times too. Some of mine would be impossible.
08/27/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
Only two would be okay to act out.
08/27/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
almost 100 percent
10/25/2012
Contributor: quantumspork quantumspork
A lot of my fantasies don't even involve me—I get off to thinking of gay cismale sex quite often, for example. Some of my favorite BDSM porn involves things I'd be hesitant to try in real life, although I could see myself warming up to it.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
We share our fantasies with each other and try to incorporate them into our play.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
Most are close.
10/26/2012
Contributor: butts butts
There's a few we just won't do for one reason or another, but the tamer ones we've done/are going to do. Some things are just better left in fantasy.
10/26/2012
Contributor: inkky inkky
I have a few dark twisted ones, but those probably won't leave my head
01/31/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Mine tend to be pretty close to what I like in real life and while I couldn't act out all of mine, I would love to act out most of them!
01/31/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
I have been lucky enough to have done most of my fantasies with my husband. There are a couple that we won't do.
01/31/2013
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
There are a few that go too far, but I have/would do most of them
01/31/2013