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Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
OrbitalLover
1  (3%)
TheToyGuy , Gunsmoke , whenitallfails , ReverieReviews , EthicalSlut , merc41 , Heavymetalchick666 , ZakL , FelanMoira , Perspicace mais érotique
10  (27%)
Lena Eden , DancerKittyKat , wicked48 , Aly91 , Devz , C&K0143 , LoganSanguine , konicaguy , Stormysmagick69 , Missy27 , Glitterlips , Soundside46 , SidneyGirl , GingerAnn , iovys , JennyLA , QueenofEverything81 , madame macbeth , frisky069
19  (51%)
OH&W, Lovebears , poetprincess , RonLee , Nanuk , AmethystQueen , 20yearstogether , Gr8pumpkin
7  (19%)
Total votes: 37
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01/10/2017
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Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
I love brutal fantasies of hot and heavy sex where the guy or girl is plowed into the mattress. But I enjoy a modicum of the sensual better. So rough and hard suits my style of fantasy better.
01/10/2017
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
Can we have an "other" category? I think it depends on the mood and needs of both partners at the time.
01/10/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm a little down the spectrum from you - rough and hard is my style. But I should add that it's been a progression. I started out as the romantic type - gentle and soft, but as time passed I moved to the middle, the hard.

Will I get to extreme - I suppose it's possible - have to wait and see
01/10/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by Lvstoplay
Can we have an "other" category? I think it depends on the mood and needs of both partners at the time.
Too late. But how can you not fit on that spectrum? Unless you are going to say soft/brutal or sensual/rough?
01/11/2017
Contributor: OrbitalLover OrbitalLover
Well, my fantasies are all down the spectrum, like i imagine most people are. Usually the variable that changes the most is the person.

Buuutt, saying that, the most common sex I get to experience is usually soft to hard,so I usually fantasize about the extreme because I suppose its more unlikely and taboo and such.

I also like extreme sex. So, there's that too.
01/16/2017
Contributor: DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
For me, I have many fantasies that would probably be considered extreme, like rape fantasies or golden showers. However, whenever I think about these fantasies in detail, I also imagine the person doing all of these brutal, rough things to me is my Dom, who I love and trust. I would honestly probably do most extreme things. However, I would want cuddles after and to know that afterwards I will be loved, not shamed.
01/16/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Lvstoplay
Can we have an "other" category? I think it depends on the mood and needs of both partners at the time.
Ditto,

I did mark "gentle and sensual" but at times like brutal and rough and other times rough and hard, and at times .... guess you get the picture. All kinds.

What category would getting plowed by aliens and or science fiction space creatures be ? I know someone who likes that.
01/17/2017
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
Mine depends on my mood and the guy I am with...
01/18/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by poetprincess
Mine depends on my mood and the guy I am with...
Do you have destructive moods too?
01/18/2017
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Even though I prefer to "make love" gentle and sensual as the penetrative partner, I also very much enjoy brutal and rough sometimes when getting fucked as the receptive one.
01/31/2017
Contributor: Nanuk Nanuk
Soft. Because as a sex abuse survivor, it's just necessary.
02/01/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
I enjoy all points on the spectrum some in small doses some in large amounts.
03/13/2017
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Too late. But how can you not fit on that spectrum? Unless you are going to say soft/brutal or sensual/rough?
Depending on what we both want or need at the time, several of the choices listed can be okay.
03/29/2017
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
hard and/but gentle. cannot get into the extreme rough stuff.
05/30/2017
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Definitely gentle and sensual. I'm a woman to be adored, worshipped and cared for in the sweetest of ways. I deserve your full attention to what will benefit me and please me thoroughly.

Now, when it's my turn, I do tend to give in a more brutal manner , but that's a whole different story...
05/31/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by AmethystQueen
Definitely gentle and sensual. I'm a woman to be adored, worshipped and cared for in the sweetest of ways. I deserve your full attention to what will benefit me and please me thoroughly.

Now, when it's my turn, I do tend to give in a ... more
Amazon position, riding your man into submission... ?
08/19/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Amazon position, riding your man into submission... ?
No takers it would seem.
08/19/2019
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
I feel like all the options would work wonderfully at one point in time or another. It depends on the mood, depends on the level of arousal. We rarely have sex that might be described as brutal, but when we do, we are both invested in it, we are on the same page. I'm guessing that's what important - for both partners to want the same thing.
08/21/2019
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by GingerAnn
I feel like all the options would work wonderfully at one point in time or another. It depends on the mood, depends on the level of arousal. We rarely have sex that might be described as brutal, but when we do, we are both invested in it, we are on ... more
Well said - getting on the same 'page' is 1,000% better than 'simultaneous orgasm'.

Sometimes the 'page' is all about you - sometimes your partner, sometimes both. But the 'page' the 'zone' is a fabulous place to be!
08/23/2019
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
The ‘connection’ we share can be both physical and emotional. It can also be either and neither.

We all have our preferences and together we can find and explore.
08/25/2019
Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
My husband chose the category "rough and hard" for me and I also have fantasies that most would consider extreme. But like DancerKittyKat stated--it has to be with someone I love and trust like my husband.
11/01/2019
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Lets take a spectrum...

Do you like fantasies (or your sex in general):
brutal and rough (extreme)
rough and hard (heavy)
hard and/but gentle (middle)
gentle and sensual (soft)

Not doing an other category.
I've had hard and but gentle. Personally I've fantasized more on rough and hard and brutal and rough. Always been curious. I think I'd like it!
11/01/2019
Contributor: C and J C and J
All depends on the time and the place, anyone agree with us?
11/21/2019