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What circumstance lead to that "experiment" or event? Would you ever do it again. Did you find it a positive or negative experience?
Be honest, only answer if you are convinced you are "totally hetero" in your
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What circumstance lead to that "experiment" or event? Would you ever do it again. Did you find it a positive or negative experience?
Be honest, only answer if you are convinced you are "totally hetero" in your leanings.
FYI, this was a hot topic among our Friday night, free speech dinner group. One lady in the group...totally hetero, had a one night fling with another girl in college, when they were both a bit "tipsy" as she put it, and on a dare. However, she did end up having fun and it went on for a good few hours. She has no desire to "repeat it", but is still "glad she has that experience base". The other lady remained her friend for years too...but is likewise married, with kids and while they laugh about it, they have "zero feelings for each other" (so they say).
Anyone else what to chime in and enlighten us on how this works?
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Hmm... where to start this......
I met a Dom online, and had talked online with him for several weeks. Then He told me that He had a sub. She contacted me and she and I got on quite well as email-friends.
He started suggesting a face-to-face meet, and invited me to His home. (about a 2hr drive) I declined... I felt I was too tired that night, to safely make a drive of that length. He offered to drive down to me, bringing his sub, and take me to dinner. I agreed to this.
Dinner went fine. We all talked and had a good time. The topic of "Adult stores" came up. It seemed they didn't have them where He and his sub lived. But where I live, we not only have them, they stay open late. So... thinking it would be funny, I took them over to one of our stores. They had a hilarious time shopping.
By now it was late, and they decided to get a hotel room and stay over. They invited me back to potentially "play" with them.
Let me insert here..... I had not been in the lifestyle long... less than a year, and had recently split from my first Dom. I didn't know a lot of the things that should be considered for safety.
I did go to the hotel with them. It was there that the Dom let me know that the "main agenda" was that His sub wanted to explore her "dominant" side...... with me.
I'd not been with a woman before. I guess you could say I was "hetero". I'd not even been curious much, about women.... but hey, I was now in the deep end of the BDSM pool... so I asked myself "why not?".
Let me skip this rest of this adventure ... I know, I'm such a tease! LOL... Let me just say, it DID NOT GO WELL.... but that was not my issue... this turned out to be an issue of THEIR'S.
About a week after this fiasco... they both apologized to me for how that first evening went... and made an attempt to explain what had gone wrong. They extended another invitation to come to His house and this time spend the weekend.
I know what everyone reading is thinking, "RED FLAG, ALARM BELLS!"
Castigate me for what I did wrong, if you must. But I've already mentally beaten myself up more than anyone else ever could.....
Not only did I go, but I met them midway and left my car.
I had not told anyone where I was going.
I had not arranged a safe call.
I know this put me totally at their mercy. I know I was lucky to have gotten out of this alive.
His house rules were, drop your clothes at the door when you enter His house. No food unless begged for and given. No bathroom unless asked for. No toilette paper unless begged for. NO PRIVACY. Every single thing I did was watched.
After my clothes were left at the door, I was blindfolded and led upstairs to a small room. He put leather mitts over my hands and attached chains to them, and then to the ceiling... leaving me standing on my toes. Leather straps were also put on my ankles and my legs were pulled apart and secured to opposite sides of the room.
Let the flogging begin!
Let me say.... I'm a flogging addict. I've never met a flogger I didn't like.....
But remember the "small room"?... this room was so small, He couldn't swing properly, and He couldn't move around me to spread the contact areas. So, I was essentially flogged for 4hrs, strung up from the ceiling, and all contact was made from my left side, with the flogger wrapping around my right side (ribs/ass/legs)
Once this little adventure was over, it took more than 2months for me to heal.
I promise, I'm getting to the "female" part.... patience!
He had tied His sub to a chair in this room and was forcing her to watch what he did to me. She cried. A lot.
It was only later that I found out what was going on. He was angry with His sub. What He was doing to me, was supposed to be HER punishment... but He was so angry, He was afraid to do it to her. Me? I thought I was superslave, LOL... I was SOOOO dumb and uninformed.
There came a point in all this, that He managed to make me angry. An angry "me" is not a good thing (slave or not).
This is what I blame myself mostly for..... I made this worse with my anger. I decided I was going to beat this "DOM" at his own game. I would not break, I would not cry, He would get nothing from me. So, it became a battle of the wills.
I won.
He finally took me down, mostly due to his sub's pleading.
Things sort of de-escalated and we brought down the tension levels.
But here's what you've been waiting for......
He made her go down on me. She did not want to. All her talk was just that... talk. She wasn't dominant on any level... and later confessed to me, that while she liked me, and wanted my friendship, she was not attracted to me OR any other female. She only did it for HIM. HE wanted to see her with another woman.
Lucky me.
When He saw that she was less than enthusiastic over her chance for her "experience"... he got ticked.
His revenge on her, was to have ME go down on her.
*laughs*
Remember, I'd not had any curiousity in this area, much less any experience... so I winged it.
But I try to be a good slave, and do as I'm told... so I did what he told me. I have to say, I'm proud of my effort. I made her cum. While she was VERY happy over cumming, she was still put off that it was a woman that caused her happiness!
*laughs*
It seems his little "sub" was prone to temper tantrums. She threw several that weekend. While he was attending to one of her tirades, I managed to find my pants/cellphone.. and slip into the bathroom unnoticed and make a call to my former Dom and tell him what city I was in, and the address (finding the street and house number was a bitch!) I told him where my car was... and that if he'd not heard from me by that evening, call the police.
I did get back safely.
Now... would I ever do this again? (I would never go anywhere under the above circumstances... I'm smarter than that, NOW)
But the part with another woman? I honestly don't know. I still don't feel that I have any attractions to women (but I've also found out that I'm not a homophobe, either!)... but I do try to keep an open mind... with the thought that things could someday change. But, do I ever look for a female, for myself (Domme/sub) ... No.