thanks for the info. I have had 1 in the past with my ex and a friend of hers but didn't enjoy it that much but I didn't have a say so in the 3rd party either. honestly idk if my wife would ever want to go thru with it but I might consider it if she did under the right circumstances

ok thanks for the advice. I know most men like the 2 women fantasy and I assume women are just the opposite.

whats the difference?

I certainly agree 2 women is not the 3some of choice as someone always gets left out .... So I prefer 2 men and that was a fantasy come real but don't romanticize it it's messy and one must be ultra mentally prepared to SHARE his mate/lover/wife... If done with passion and her pleasure creates your pleasure in seeing her in a myriad of not with you positions and she is treated to hands-on caresses and kisses and add some sensory deprivation-stimuli IE: a silk blindfold ,you create mystery and a tantalizing sense of anticipation and ,whose touching me thoughts under her blindfold ,you two and he? will be in a heightened sensory of adrenalin and endorphins running sooo hi you'll wanna burst but then you still have to picture and be ready to hear throws of pleasure from another's touch upon YOUR wife's body and oh things in her mouth you see from a new perspective . Might I say step outside yourself enjoy but be present in that you are seeing from a new point of view how she looks as you picture he as you!
I 've no idea if your wife is tiny or not but check a page called hipsandcurves.com , buy her something new to begin thee evening but go to liberator.com and buy a throe for your bed or furniture and maybe buy a hawthorn love swing to give her complete physical liberation from the fuss n muss of positions and beds and pillows in the way etc... look up those , Remember fantasy as reality is like a child ...once born is there for ever and much different from before it was born ,if ya get me...Go in wise and knowledge wide open and no judgment never to be a thorn used against one another...talk agree on certain absolutes of yes an no's of what can and cant be done or said or touched licked kissed ,ya feel me I'm sure. But all that said your minds made up ,now talk of it in bed as you cuddle her how you feel she is the perfect creature you have a secret u just must share ...It's her!!! AS we entered our new life I share that knowledge with you and maybe look at polyamoryalt.com forums good perspective there fr those in the lifestyle of this venture your headed for. Remember it's not cheating its an alternate to the morally ineptitude of all those afraid to step outside the status dull of everyday boredom and retreating inward from that they fear and envy... When done while two who love one another both agree no coercion on either party it is a solemn oath to look with eyes bright mind wide open and pleasure is but a moment away and fuck the so called "normal" cuz my neighbours normal sure ain't mine or my hubby's I don't live like no one else and I live to be honest open loyal trust the man/men I am with to honour me as I honour and respect myself as well as they so be you , as I say u do u let them do them .... We share everything including our bedroom has three beds into a massive monster king , and just a note ...u may find many in the life are bisexual etc... but my husband and lover are best friends before me ,now with Moi and they r very very homophobic lmao in a guy guy way , very straight men lol but yet never a query amongst one rolling over and gettin busy with me and the other either snores on thru' or rolls over joins in .... For sure not a solid easy way but free'r than any other monogamous marriage I know of and we r by the by monogamous as he is my Husband and , He is my significant other but never does occur to us that we should be like the pope and deny our natural human basic need.... .

That is to share ones emotions and self and to enjoy spreading love differently but equal as no 2 are alike therefore each is loved COMPLETELY differently but with greatest depth as to be EQUAL upon the scales if ever a time came to be shown it would weigh even on the scales of life and why cant you enjoy sharing of your love for her to share her as she is the wonder of it all is she not therefore no matter what unexpected thing may or not transpire just know you just joined those of us who live in the real world not where life is like tele but where life really is REAL and for all it's many threats of things never regret ,as you learn from all things ,but most assuredly you learn you can love outside the box and be perfectly happy and regret is an emotion requiring substance and constant nurturing ....shite who has that sort of time when life is waiting for you to do it,it is LIVE and live it we should , If a gay couple can thanks to us BC canadiens Marry and share their lives with a child now a days why is what we do even blinked at . As long as she's your international queen to be treasured and pleasured making you happy to do, see, feel, watch an participate why then wait you could just slip in a shower and die without ever having gotten up n out of the box and breathed your first intentional pleasurable breath of life , don't hesitate but be sure in your knowledge that your air tight in love that a problem u may have cannot be fixed it will further break so again I say remember she is the get'eee and you 2 will be the getters to give and have her be then as she is in your mind ...'perfection' let her know beyond ,beyond this finite world that infinitely she is ADORED by your soul and your heart of heartS shall never shame her for enjoying such a natural gift as eroticism in a life less boring made by your adoration of her.... and if she is petite or slim,young and you see she oozzes sexy to you TELL her whisper playfully and never let her glance up to you as she may think he hates me now remind her always it was for you both ,the other is merely a means to fulfill a non harmful fantasy that believe it or not is a 88% fantasy of most men in serious relations and most will never tell they love their wife or significant other in a way that is so life affirming that they shall never feel that excited thrill of the energy brought into ur lives by just merely saying you love ,trust and respect and adore her to want this to be a VERY shared experience ....Happiness is never truly achieved its the pursuit of such that is in being and staying HAPPY aw to have someone you can be open and share such deeds and deviance oh how wickedly FUN life's begun .... I say take it run with but never ever look back accept it and anything that may or may not arise but .... Do be careful upon whom you choose as he may also become a part of this new found life , then it's a new beginning and open it must become and stay . Most of al keep no secrets fr her and share share share ur thoughts ALWAYS be clear, concise and be willing to bear the consequences as they may be some ...I doubt ... but lifes always hitting the puck at your own teams goalie , just get up and dust it off and begin anew , REMEMBER talk talk talk talk tell tell tell-all ur fantastic ideas no surprises but be sure for this you love honour respect and above all you will remain LOYAL as it eventually must be one fantasy for 2 not ,1's fantasy on her or visa versa be sure you can look her in the eyes and say without a judging tone or disappointment as you say to her I adore you and your mine forever we will share our fantasies as one, there no harm done. Hey, I wouldn't take out an ad or advert myself let your life be just that YOURS AND HER LIVES behind ur doors is no one else bidnezz ...of unless ur killing her then well ur just nuts , but seriously lifes for the living ,necropolises are for the dead and decaying. More dreams are 6-8 ft under and never were achieved so live as full and nonjudgemental non NORMAL life as much as you can becuz it really was just a yr or 2 ago u were playing in the sand as kid and u looked away blinked and were married , and divorced and remarried and wow wasn't that quick wow where did the time go it didn't it was linear u sat still and didn't recognize the signs of life bestowed upon us ...............DO whatever makes y'alls happy so long as u break no law and well u won't be as adultery requires one spouse to not know or find out horribly so enjoy your mixed nuts and long drinks because you have a life with a wife who also adores respects and loves herself enough to love someone else and its you so enjoy it it is a wonderous world to which now opened the doors and took the 1st step in so jump now you got ya eyes wide open and heart is strong and you will share her but in essence u will be sharing a piece of your soul! To always have that with her shared together .... HA ha love hard live big , bark loud and bite hARDER BUT ABOVE ALL YOU LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH AND SHE'LL ALWAYS RESPECT AND LOVE YOU EQUALLY AS HARD BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SLAN!!!
Enjoy!!!!!!

wow those posts are very deep but informative as well. Ive never thought of all that that would go into this scenario. thanks for sharing that

ok thanks for that advice.

Your welcome and u can msg me if u likes twoplus1 but space at the ply 'space' 1

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I interpret your question to be one of concern and my response is in reply to that interpretation. If I am wrong, and you are encouraged or delighted by this prospect, then skip over the rest of my reply.

First off, to establish a proper starting point, I think you need to consider a few things. Any thing that excites us or turns us on visually (and audibly if there is sound) as in the case of a porn, is doing so using only 2 of our 5 available senses.... now common sense and biology would argue (and some what successfully) that the inclusion of any additional senses would only add to the excitement and predictably the resulting pleasure from the act in question. The only way that happens is when you take that next step and take the act from being merely on video to it being real, in front of you, ready to stimulate every sense available.

You could assume that like any other woman (or man for that matter) that your wife, being limited to just viewing this act on video, "fills in the gaps" (no pun intended) mentally to further enhance the fantasy. Now there are a dozen different points of view and trains of thought going forward from here that could make your concern lesser or greater depending on your personal beliefs, emotional state, the nature of your relationship with your wife, the level of trust as a couple and so on.

Yes its very possible and reasonably likely that the notion of a threesome with another man has crossed her mind-even if only for a fleeting instance. But lets establish a few points of consideration. First, what a person allows themselves to entertain in the quiet private corners of their thoughts is more often than not, drastically more exciting, risky and irresponsible than what they would actually decide and commit to doing in reality. Fantasies are safe and private with no possible damage to the outside world when they are kept on the "just fantasy" leash. This doesn't make her unfaithful, unsatisfied or deceitful. She innocently enjoys the freedom of constructing a reality where she can explore without guilt, shame or being judged. It's perfectly normal and well within her rights as an individual to exercise this freedom when the mood strikes her, as it is for you and each of us.

It can be a bit humbling and intimidating to think we are not at the centre and make up the whole of our partner's secret sexual desires, that is, if we are not secure in ourselves and in our relationship with that person. Ideally, both people in a mature and loving relationship, do not worry over things (or thoughts) that they have no control over and that (unless one or the other openly admits to) may not even have even occurred. The most nurturing and ironically the most complicated element of any worthwhile relationship is obviously trust. You either have it or you don't. Legitimate, healthy trust doesn't come in degrees. It's like being dead. You can't be a little bit or mostly dead. And in circumstances where your boundaries as a couple are challenged or questioned, trust is absolutely paramount.

If you have any doubts whatsoever regarding trust, then you both should really take the time to examine what issues exist and where they stem from and work on doing whatever is necessary to arrive in a place where mutual, unconditional exists and thrives. Moving in any direction sexually outside of where you two have traditionally coexisted would be severely damaging if not fatal to your relationship if you or your wife feel that trust and your commitment to loyalty isn't 100% perfect.

In reality, it is a HUGE leap from fantasizing to acting it out. And that usually only occurs after a great deal of conversations and each person being allowed to digest what is said and to carefully reflect on what they really want personally in addition to considering what they have understood their partner's desires to be. Honesty is crucial and being afraid to reveal your true feelings, or even worse, going along with what the other wants for the sake of harmony will only plant the seeds of resentment and mistrust that won't need much watering to bloom suddenly in the not too far future.

The main priority should be you as a couple -the marriage. Any decisions should benefit you both equally in every instance. The benefits may not physically be the same for each of you, but you should both be getting the same amount of satisfaction and pleasure -even if in separate ways. This means if you get pleasure from her getting pleasure then thats the prize. Too many couples allow one to "benefit" in more extraordinary ways in the beginning and then the other wants an experience to make things equal. That's not how it should work. Each decision, when made should be done so as a stand alone event. If you go along with a decision in the hopes of you getting "your turn" later on, you may be quite shocked at how suddenly, with the shoe on the other foot, your spouse may not be able to be as "charitable" as you were. Sadly it happens. Make sure any decision made is done for the right reasons -and only you will know what those reasons are and how you and your wife stand to gain from them.

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Another item to consider is that one major factor in her fantasy is the "taboo" factor. For some reason, deep down, almost all of us feel this urge to act in a manner that is naughty, against the norm, and even in some regards dangerous. Perhaps this is driven by the fundamental human need to feel alive through acts that excite and exhilarate us. We all at some point willingly settle into routine life for the comfort and stability that we generally recognize as necessary and required for our over all mental health and well being. We may not enjoy the daily grind, but we know that in return we have a steady pay check, which in turn allows us to have a home and a family. Routine ensures familiarity and with it the feeling that we are secure and are for the most part guarded against unforeseen events that could bring strife and misfortune into our lives. But the downside to all this is the unrelenting presence of monotony. No surprises means no excitement, no adventure, no challenges to test ourselves against. No unexplored frontiers -except that is, the sexual ones. The driving force behind any rewarding fantasy is the element of risk. The more dangerous or reckless the imagined scenario, the more titillating and engaging it becomes and ironically more it captivates us and holds our attention. Obviously the "taboo" facet of a MMF threesome is being physically intimate with a stranger. We all crave the new and unknown and a threesome represents one of the first attempts sexually a couple may take to explore this craving. Additional to the stranger factor, the idea of being watched by you (and presumably with your support and consent) adds to the naughtiness of the whole situation. It has nothing to do with love. She undoubted loves you and values her life with you, but the need to satisfy a physical encounter based on nothing more than lust is also potentially a very real need.

When she watches those porn threesomes, you can bet she has checked her love at the door and is running on pure basic animal desire. She has her love for you. It is safe, contained and always there. But her physical inner self is looking for relief. Either you can recognize, acknowledge and discuss this with her and take control of how you will be a part of satisfying her on that level, or you can stand to the side, be agreeable and wonder how far it will go and in what direction. As frightful as it may be to encourage her to talk about what she is feeling, it is far better to know and to maintain a clear understanding of where she is at in her mind on those matters. Otherwise, you may cause all sorts of grief to yourself fretting over what she's really thinking about and what she really wants and this of course ends up down a dead end street called "doubt".

So my advice? Encourage her to talk about it whenever it feels natural to do so and then let her talk about it as much as she feels comfortable. Don't press her if she isn't ready to spill all the beans the first time. Make it your priority to reassure her that she's not dirty or shameful and that you won't judge her (and then DON'T) regardless of what she eventually decides to reveal to you. She's your wife, but everyone has a few "questionable" parts to their nature that they may never reveal to anyone (including their partners/spouses/soul mates) for fear of being ridiculed, embarrassed or rejected. Be kind, be considerate, be loving. The marriage is first and all decisions must support the continuation of the marriage and must be equally beneficial and satisfying to both to be worth even considering. And above all else, be honest. It's about you both, equally.

Gangbands can be very emotional if it hits the rape factor.

Or some other deep seated issues.

Have you talked to her about it? If so, what was her answer?

Oh, I'm sure if it were to happen, there would be enough awkward feelings to go around. If I were you, I wouldn't push it, especially if you've tried this before and it didn't turn out the way you had hoped.

I will say that we have talked about it but as previous encounters on each side. Her side was she was asked by another couple years ago before we met to join them but said she didnt go thru with it

So whatever happened with this? Did she like the DVDs?

MFM sex is a very common sexual fantasy. It's my fiancee's dominant sexual fantasy. She's had MFM sex years ago. She said it's incredibly and intensively euphoric. She wants to initiate me to MFM sex.

Gang bang is another common female fantasy. It's one of my fiancee's many fantasies.