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Contributor: giftdgecko giftdgecko
So we have decided on having a threesome with another woman. We've talked about boundaries and all that and are now at the point of how do we make this happen? We don't like the idea of random sex and would prefer an ongoing thing if possible. She has friends that may be game but we are worried if they regret it, it could strain a friends ship.

So what would you recommend, a friend or a person off a website/bar?

And if we are going to use a website where would be best?

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10/16/2013
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Contributor: Holly Wood Holly Wood
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Originally posted by giftdgecko
So we have decided on having a threesome with another woman. We've talked about boundaries and all that and are now at the point of how do we make this happen? We don't like the idea of random sex and would prefer an ongoing thing if ... more
Farmer, meet hayfield... the haystacks just didn't cut it... now, find your needle.

Seriously. You're probably looking for the holy grail. It exists, it's been found a few times, but mostly fumbled - just saying.

Your best bet, avoid friends, avoid bars, avoid craigslist. lol Go to a real website like fetlife or alt or even friendfinder. You'll probably find that seemingly EVERY couple there is looking for a third (99% of the time, a single, unattached female to be their lifetime play partner), but there's more opportunity in those places to find what you're looking for.

PS - don't expect a super-hot lipstick-lesbian type of scene or two women doting only on the male partner, it should be a three-way, if it's not, then something's not working properly and there's going to be some hurt feelings out there. Think about that before playing, also.
10/17/2013
Contributor: Holly Wood Holly Wood
PPS - Good luck with that
10/17/2013
Contributor: CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
I wish I knew. The most I could think of to say is: "Internet". I don't know anywhere specific sadly. Good luck to you both.
10/17/2013
Contributor: charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
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Yeah, I'd suggest Fetlife or something similar. I think a website is your best bet. But, your partner knows her friends best, and knows if that is a good idea and likely to be a success.

I've had success with using a friend, but you need to know that your friend is the kind of person who can handle it.

Good luck and happy hunting!
10/17/2013
Contributor: Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Craigslist, as long as you take the right precautions.
10/20/2013
Contributor: grrrldickz grrrldickz
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Originally posted by giftdgecko
So we have decided on having a threesome with another woman. We've talked about boundaries and all that and are now at the point of how do we make this happen? We don't like the idea of random sex and would prefer an ongoing thing if ... more
Fetlife or Craigslist. Most bisexual women on OKCupid are reeeeeally anti-threesome, I've discovered.
11/27/2015
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Good luck, very few women are willing to do that...it's completely unappealing to me, and I'm bisexual and poly-friendly. Just remember to respect others' wishes and not be pushy, you might find it eventually, might not.
12/06/2015
Contributor: NJCPL4FN NJCPL4FN
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Originally posted by giftdgecko
So we have decided on having a threesome with another woman. We've talked about boundaries and all that and are now at the point of how do we make this happen? We don't like the idea of random sex and would prefer an ongoing thing if ... more
Swinglifestyle.com is where we found our third....
02/07/2016
Contributor: Rose Unlocked Rose Unlocked
I found one of the couples I dated on fetlife and the other one on meetme. Dating couples is pretty fun but in my case one of the two normally gets a little too pushy and wants me to do things I don't want to so I end it.
03/02/2016