I am quite curious about this whole concept. Here is just a few questions I would like to ask, and I would really appreciate the feedback.
Polyamourus
Discussion Topics
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Trying it out
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Still Into it?
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Once you start you can't go back?
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Love
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How did it come to pass that you were in a poly relationship?
01/23/2012
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It's just what felt right for everyone.
01/28/2012
I fell in love with a married woman... to be with her I had to be willing to have something more open with her. I happily agreed and it has been the best thing for everyone involved.
01/28/2012
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Sounds remarkably like what happened with my partner Arch. He fell in love with me but admired my lo0ve for and committment to Sigel.
Originally posted by
zecookiepuss
I fell in love with a married woman... to be with her I had to be willing to have something more open with her. I happily agreed and it has been the best thing for everyone involved.
01/31/2012
Its seems weird but I cant think of a reason besides pride and jealousy to not do it.
02/01/2012
I was in what I would call a "monogamish" relationship with my partner L - we were committed to each other, but allowed to flirt, cuddle with, kiss, and dance with whoever we wanted, and were very open in talking to each other about other people we had crushes on. We met K, who is now our third, at a weekend retreat for queer students from our college campus and the other local colleges, and hung out with her a bit. She and my partner started to talk on Facebook a lot - they have similar "night owl" sleep habits - and it developed into a mutual crush, which L admitted to me. I was delighted by this, and somewhat surprised by my own delight, since a crush with potential to go somewhere was not something we'd experienced as a couple before. I started talking to K more as well, and it was easy to understand why L liked her so much - I started to get a bit of a crush myself, which she reciprocated. After a few three-person dates and cuddle sessions, we invited her to go to a dance with us, then brought her home and had a threesome. We all realized our feelings went beyond purely sexual and worked on establishing a triad relationship. It's new, but so far we are all very happy with how things have turned out.
05/15/2012
Fascinating topic: question? Is there a difference between a 3-some and a poly relationship? I always thought that in a poly relationship there were 2 or 3 individual relationships among the (assuming there are 3 people). Isn't a 3-some more a sexual encounter than a relationship? I am kind of thinking of the show, "Sister Wives". That's all I know, but we are fascinated.
06/10/2012
i have a bf and im seeing a wonderful married woman
06/10/2012
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A 3-some is, generally, a sexual encounter that may or may not have any lasting feelings between the participants. In a poly relationship there may be as few as three participants or many, many more. The thing that binds them is the emotional connection the participants feel for each other. So, a poly triad might have many 3-somes but a couple that has many 3-somes may never be poly!
Originally posted by
oldman
Fascinating topic: question? Is there a difference between a 3-some and a poly relationship? I always thought that in a poly relationship there were 2 or 3 individual relationships among the (assuming there are 3 people). Isn't a 3-some more
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Fascinating topic: question? Is there a difference between a 3-some and a poly relationship? I always thought that in a poly relationship there were 2 or 3 individual relationships among the (assuming there are 3 people). Isn't a 3-some more a sexual encounter than a relationship? I am kind of thinking of the show, "Sister Wives". That's all I know, but we are fascinated.
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Lots of poly folk never actually have sex with their partners with other partners present, not unlike Sister Wives. Their relationships are full and satisfying but the sex is between each individual couple. Others, like ours, includes 3-somes and individual nights. What defines the poly relationship is the desire to actually integrate another person into the day to day living.
06/11/2012
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Your triad is very much something I am enjoying getting to know. Your team work with your day to day living with each is very different but so very natural looking in from my side of the world.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
A 3-some is, generally, a sexual encounter that may or may not have any lasting feelings between the participants. In a poly relationship there may be as few as three participants or many, many more. The thing that binds them is the emotional
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A 3-some is, generally, a sexual encounter that may or may not have any lasting feelings between the participants. In a poly relationship there may be as few as three participants or many, many more. The thing that binds them is the emotional connection the participants feel for each other. So, a poly triad might have many 3-somes but a couple that has many 3-somes may never be poly!
Lots of poly folk never actually have sex with their partners with other partners present, not unlike Sister Wives. Their relationships are full and satisfying but the sex is between each individual couple. Others, like ours, includes 3-somes and individual nights. What defines the poly relationship is the desire to actually integrate another person into the day to day living. less
Lots of poly folk never actually have sex with their partners with other partners present, not unlike Sister Wives. Their relationships are full and satisfying but the sex is between each individual couple. Others, like ours, includes 3-somes and individual nights. What defines the poly relationship is the desire to actually integrate another person into the day to day living. less
As we have talked about before there is couples who have 3-somes and that is just it sex, then there are couples who have 3-somes and there have to be feelings to make it work. I am one that has feelings but never have let them go to the "I love you" feelings. I have made some very special friends and love the life my husband and I have with our special friends.
Who knows maybe someday we will become poly LOL.
06/25/2012
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Meh, you have all the benefits of poly anyhow...plus you have too full a house! ROFL
Originally posted by
Mistress Dragon
Your triad is very much something I am enjoying getting to know. Your team work with your day to day living with each is very different but so very natural looking in from my side of the world.
As we have talked about before there is couples who ... more
As we have talked about before there is couples who ... more
Your triad is very much something I am enjoying getting to know. Your team work with your day to day living with each is very different but so very natural looking in from my side of the world.
As we have talked about before there is couples who have 3-somes and that is just it sex, then there are couples who have 3-somes and there have to be feelings to make it work. I am one that has feelings but never have let them go to the "I love you" feelings. I have made some very special friends and love the life my husband and I have with our special friends.
Who knows maybe someday we will become poly LOL. less
As we have talked about before there is couples who have 3-somes and that is just it sex, then there are couples who have 3-somes and there have to be feelings to make it work. I am one that has feelings but never have let them go to the "I love you" feelings. I have made some very special friends and love the life my husband and I have with our special friends.
Who knows maybe someday we will become poly LOL. less
06/25/2012
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Very full but still room for love hehehehehehehe.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Meh, you have all the benefits of poly anyhow...plus you have too full a house! ROFL
06/25/2012
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The more Love he better it get all though the good and bad times.
Originally posted by
Mistress Dragon
Very full but still room for love hehehehehehehe.
07/15/2012
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...and this year has proven that to all of us, no? DAMN! 2012 will go down as the year of the "What the hell could go wrong with our health NOW?"
Originally posted by
Izzaba
The more Love he better it get all though the good and bad times.
11/07/2012
It's just what felt right for everyone
11/07/2012
Total posts: 15
Unique posters: 11
Are you still in that relationship? Have you changed your mind about it after being in one? Changed it for or against it?
01/23/2012
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Still happily trying to resolve the conflicts of a border between us and our life partner. Even if this current relationship structure should change I doubt I'd go back to monogamy unless I met someone who I desired to be with enough to be monogamous with. It could happen, mind you, but I wouldn't be against polyamory if it did. I would simply see it as a conscious choice we both made.
Originally posted by
Badass
Are you still in that relationship? Have you changed your mind about it after being in one? Changed it for or against it?
02/09/2012
Total posts: 2
Unique posters: 2
Would you ever be involved in a monogamous relationship after being involved in a polyamourus relationship?
01/23/2012
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Probably not but I am capable of it. I love the freedom of the poly lifestyle and flat out LOVE being between two men both between and out of the sheets. Still if I felt I was satisfied in one relationship I could just as easily be monogamous. I,personally, can be happy this way but I am happier being poly. I wouldn't feel I was losing anything that makes me who I am I would simply be making a choice and living with it.
Originally posted by
Badass
Would you ever be involved in a monogamous relationship after being involved in a polyamourus relationship?
01/25/2012
I know people who were happy poly but then went on to have successful monogamous relationships. So it's definitely possible to "go back".
01/28/2012
I am generally a monogamous kind of girl... not because I think it's the better choice in relationships, but more so because I am not the best communicator in the world and at times the poly relationship drains me in that regard. Monogamy is easier and yet harder at the same time.
01/28/2012
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Absolutely true.
Originally posted by
CoffeeCup
I know people who were happy poly but then went on to have successful monogamous relationships. So it's definitely possible to "go back".
01/28/2012
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Unique posters: 4
Do you, personally, think it is possible to love more than one person at a time?
01/23/2012
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Deeply, madly, passionately and completely.
Originally posted by
Badass
Do you, personally, think it is possible to love more than one person at a time?
01/25/2012
I do believe that it is possible, I just have not tried it myself. It takes a certain level of trust, understanding, and love, that not all people are capable of.
01/31/2012
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Ditto. Anything is possible, and the myriad of relationships and emotional ties between people are definitely proof that the connections between people are as diverse as the individuals involved. I have not experienced loving more than one person at a time, but I believe many people are fully capable and have experienced this in their lives.
Originally posted by
voenne
I do believe that it is possible, I just have not tried it myself. It takes a certain level of trust, understanding, and love, that not all people are capable of.
01/31/2012
I didn't try... but it just happened to me... and there I was in love with two people at the same time. Didn't really think it was possible before then... so much for that idea!
02/05/2012
People love more than one person all the time. Children, parents, siblings, ect. Why can't it the same for partners?
04/02/2012
I definitely think it's possible.
05/30/2012
I think it's possible.
05/30/2012
Sure
06/22/2012
I agree with Tangles. We love more than one person all the time in our lives. Why not partners.
06/25/2012
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Yes, I know I can love more than one person at a time.
Originally posted by
Badass
Do you, personally, think it is possible to love more than one person at a time?
06/25/2012
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Yes, I know I can love more than one person at a time.
Originally posted by
Badass
Do you, personally, think it is possible to love more than one person at a time?
06/25/2012
I believe so
07/10/2012
sure
10/28/2012
You can love many at once, but i do not believe that you can love different individuals in the same way as another.
11/05/2012
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Why would you want to? Each person in your life is as different as snowflakes are, you should love them differently. You can, however, love more than one person with the same intensity. I have three children and I love each of them differently and with equal intensity. The same is true of their fathers. I have been with Sigel since I was 16, he is like the breath in my lungs. I may not have that same shared history with Arch but I have other memories and he is like a limb. To lose either of them would be like losing a vital part of myself.
Originally posted by
Velocity
You can love many at once, but i do not believe that you can love different individuals in the same way as another.
I don't love them equally but I do love them with equal intensity.
11/12/2012
Total posts: 16
Unique posters: 14