Tell us what you think it means to be in a Polyamorous relationship.
Polyamory...What do you think it is
05/25/2011
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The ability to love and be loved by more than one. This can be emotionaly, physicaly, or both.
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
Tell us what you think it means to be in a Polyamorous relationship.
05/25/2011
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This, also freedom to be who you are, no need to hide attractions to someone on tv or feel guilty because you find someone at work attractive. There are many other things to it for me but I am blanking right now, might get the husband to help me make a more detailed answer later.
Originally posted by
Kassi
The ability to love and be loved by more than one. This can be emotionaly, physicaly, or both.
05/25/2011
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Would you care to answer the question yourself? I am curious as to why you ask actually since there has been so much written about the subject in this forum alone, let alone other forums! Do you have an interesting view about what polyamory or polyamorus relationships mean or entail?
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
Tell us what you think it means to be in a Polyamorous relationship.
For me being poly means I am free to build lasting relationships that may or may not include sex (since that seems to be the incredible bugaboo for most people). I am free to love the two most amazing men I have ever had the pleasure to meet and have them love me equally intensely in return. It is the amazing feeling of loving and watching two men work so damn hard to build a family with each other and overcome their incredibly hard dealings with other 'friends' and learn to trust and care for each other. It means having many hearts and hands to hold onto in times of incredible joy and equally incredible sorrow.
Poly also means I am free of the burden of trying to be the one and only everything for another person. This lovestyle means each member is enjoined to take ownership of their emotions and needs and fulfill them in a manner that is productive and loving to all the members of the family.
To be in a poly relationship is to be open, honest and free to love many deeply and sincerely. It is having the right to be openly sexy, openly loving and openly giving without fear of loss.
It's also having many adults who share your vision of the world and who broaden your horizons with their uniqueness. When you find someone who share the visions you share with your other partners it is the most amazing thing to know your children are safe, your home is secure and you will never wonder if you are loved.
On the flip side it means working everyday to better yourself so you can be the best self you can be for your partners and working with them to do the same. It means extreme time management! It means being open to the possibilities no matter how unusual they become but being able to put the hard stop to abusive and negative behavior. It means working to overcome jealousy and adversity everyday and putting it all aside when your kids need you to stop your adult processing and spend time with them. (One of the nicest things is in a poly relationship there is usually a trusted adult who can drop everything and be with the kids at any moment.)
In short, to me polyamory is just a relationship that can either be a blessing or a horrible curse. You simply have to be committed and have partners whoa re equally committed to a shared vision...you know the exact same thing you need in a monogamous relationship.
05/26/2011
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I asked this because in these post I have read posts by people that seam not to have a clue. I was hoping that people would maybe open there minds a bit to other options for life. Since you asked and I did post this question I'll give you the best answer I can.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Would you care to answer the question yourself? I am curious as to why you ask actually since there has been so much written about the subject in this forum alone, let alone other forums! Do you have an interesting view about what polyamory or
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Would you care to answer the question yourself? I am curious as to why you ask actually since there has been so much written about the subject in this forum alone, let alone other forums! Do you have an interesting view about what polyamory or polyamorus relationships mean or entail?
For me being poly means I am free to build lasting relationships that may or may not include sex (since that seems to be the incredible bugaboo for most people). I am free to love the two most amazing men I have ever had the pleasure to meet and have them love me equally intensely in return. It is the amazing feeling of loving and watching two men work so damn hard to build a family with each other and overcome their incredibly hard dealings with other 'friends' and learn to trust and care for each other. It means having many hearts and hands to hold onto in times of incredible joy and equally incredible sorrow.
Poly also means I am free of the burden of trying to be the one and only everything for another person. This lovestyle means each member is enjoined to take ownership of their emotions and needs and fulfill them in a manner that is productive and loving to all the members of the family.
To be in a poly relationship is to be open, honest and free to love many deeply and sincerely. It is having the right to be openly sexy, openly loving and openly giving without fear of loss.
It's also having many adults who share your vision of the world and who broaden your horizons with their uniqueness. When you find someone who share the visions you share with your other partners it is the most amazing thing to know your children are safe, your home is secure and you will never wonder if you are loved.
On the flip side it means working everyday to better yourself so you can be the best self you can be for your partners and working with them to do the same. It means extreme time management! It means being open to the possibilities no matter how unusual they become but being able to put the hard stop to abusive and negative behavior. It means working to overcome jealousy and adversity everyday and putting it all aside when your kids need you to stop your adult processing and spend time with them. (One of the nicest things is in a poly relationship there is usually a trusted adult who can drop everything and be with the kids at any moment.)
In short, to me polyamory is just a relationship that can either be a blessing or a horrible curse. You simply have to be committed and have partners whoa re equally committed to a shared vision...you know the exact same thing you need in a monogamous relationship. less
For me being poly means I am free to build lasting relationships that may or may not include sex (since that seems to be the incredible bugaboo for most people). I am free to love the two most amazing men I have ever had the pleasure to meet and have them love me equally intensely in return. It is the amazing feeling of loving and watching two men work so damn hard to build a family with each other and overcome their incredibly hard dealings with other 'friends' and learn to trust and care for each other. It means having many hearts and hands to hold onto in times of incredible joy and equally incredible sorrow.
Poly also means I am free of the burden of trying to be the one and only everything for another person. This lovestyle means each member is enjoined to take ownership of their emotions and needs and fulfill them in a manner that is productive and loving to all the members of the family.
To be in a poly relationship is to be open, honest and free to love many deeply and sincerely. It is having the right to be openly sexy, openly loving and openly giving without fear of loss.
It's also having many adults who share your vision of the world and who broaden your horizons with their uniqueness. When you find someone who share the visions you share with your other partners it is the most amazing thing to know your children are safe, your home is secure and you will never wonder if you are loved.
On the flip side it means working everyday to better yourself so you can be the best self you can be for your partners and working with them to do the same. It means extreme time management! It means being open to the possibilities no matter how unusual they become but being able to put the hard stop to abusive and negative behavior. It means working to overcome jealousy and adversity everyday and putting it all aside when your kids need you to stop your adult processing and spend time with them. (One of the nicest things is in a poly relationship there is usually a trusted adult who can drop everything and be with the kids at any moment.)
In short, to me polyamory is just a relationship that can either be a blessing or a horrible curse. You simply have to be committed and have partners whoa re equally committed to a shared vision...you know the exact same thing you need in a monogamous relationship. less
Being Polly...it is a way of life that is open to the concept "Of loving many" (Not Fucking many). To being totally honest with yourself (first), your mates(second)and then the world. To put it in a nut shell..read Airen Wolf's post. I have no better words then those.
05/28/2011
Poly is a lifestyle that people are allowed to be able to love freely and openly. It is a lifestyle, though, and many people are not polyamorous. Polyamory is often confused with "whoring around" which is something completely different in an of itself. Polyamory gives people the opportunity to explore relationships with their primary partners as well as explore and develop relationships with those outside of their primary relationships. It's something that both partners need to feel comfortable with and, like I said before, it isn't for everyone.
05/29/2011
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Thanks for answering So many times these posts are abandoned by the original poster...I've pretty much posted all over the forums and sometimes I get curious what others think as well. I hope I didn't come across as an ass, I really WAS curious what you thought.
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
I asked this because in these post I have read posts by people that seam not to have a clue. I was hoping that people would maybe open there minds a bit to other options for life. Since you asked and I did post this question I'll give you the
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I asked this because in these post I have read posts by people that seam not to have a clue. I was hoping that people would maybe open there minds a bit to other options for life. Since you asked and I did post this question I'll give you the best answer I can.
Being Polly...it is a way of life that is open to the concept "Of loving many" (Not Fucking many). To being totally honest with yourself (first), your mates(second)and then the world. To put it in a nut shell..read Airen Wolf's post. I have no better words then those. less
Being Polly...it is a way of life that is open to the concept "Of loving many" (Not Fucking many). To being totally honest with yourself (first), your mates(second)and then the world. To put it in a nut shell..read Airen Wolf's post. I have no better words then those. less
While it is true that we have a vocal portion of the community who are totally committed to monogamy, generally they ARE pretty open minded but many times in trying to explain something like emotions we poly folk CAN become a bit preachy. Int trying to insist we are "normal" people committed to our lovestyle we can sometimes make our monogamous community friends feel like they are being attacked and the reverse discrimination starts.
While I'm not naieve to believe that there aren't a few of us with an adjenda for the most part we should all realize that happiness is the real goal and whatever woks for you is what YOU should do.
05/29/2011
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