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Do your partners follow the same religious beliefs as you?

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Contributor: SmutGeek SmutGeek
I recently was looking at Pagan Polyamory, a book by Raen Kaldera and some video interviews with Oberon and Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the couple that coined the term polyamory and was thinking about how grateful I am that my husband and girlfriend share my religious beliefs and curious if there were many couples/groups out there that also shared their beliefs and felt that was important or if they differed and simply agreed to disagree.
Is sharing religious beliefs important to you?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes, we are all of the same faith/path and it is very important to me
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18  (22%)
Yes, we all share the same beliefs but it's not as important to us
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16  (20%)
No, we do not share the same faith/path but it is very important to me that we do
Noelle
1  (1%)
Ne, we do not share the same faith/path and its not very important to me/us
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36  (45%)
Other (please explain)
Beck , Airen Wolf , finnimbrun , gsfanatic , P'Gell , freshbananas , MissCandyland , Strider , NightNight
9  (11%)
Total votes: 80
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Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I'm pagan, my boyfriend/primary is Catholic, and my Sir is also pagan.

Religion isn't why I pick partners, so what gods they follow doesn't matter to me.
03/19/2012
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I'm a (mainly) Catholic with interesting ideas on the matter. My man is agnostic/spiritual, but has a real distaste for organized religion. This caused some issues at first about me feeling looked down on, but we've figured it out. Mutual respect for one another's intelligence and reasons for having such beliefs keeps us sane and happy.
03/19/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I went with other because we share each other's disbelief. We agree on what our lack our faith is. This is important to us.
03/19/2012
Contributor: anonymouse58 anonymouse58
I'm agnostic and my partner is Christian. It was a bit difficult at first, but understanding the reasons for my partner's belief helped us get through it easily.
03/19/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
We are both Christian and it is very important to both of us. I honestly don't think I could be with someone who did not share my beliefs.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
My partner and I /basically/ are of the same faith. I am an atheist and he is an agnostic, but neither really dictate our actions, so the difference has never really mattered. It makes for some great discussions on theology, though.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by SmutGeek
I recently was looking at Pagan Polyamory, a book by Raen Kaldera and some video interviews with Oberon and Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the couple that coined the term polyamory and was thinking about how grateful I am that my husband and ... more
My husband and I are Pagan but our life psrtner is Catholic. We respect each other's faith and the conversations can get very heated but we are also failry tolerant even at the worst of times. We don't really disagree as much as we simply have an understanding that we venerate different aspects of the creative force.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
I think its important, but I don't think I would say"I can't be with you" just because someone religion is different.
03/20/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
She's Catholic, I'm a humanist, a hedonist, and spiritual, but not religious. We work out well together.
03/23/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm an agnostic, I have one atheist partner and on partner who was raised Episcopalian but has her own beliefs that coincide more with practices like attending Queer Bible Study than with attending church, so... nope, different beliefs. None of us push our feelings on the others, though.
05/12/2012
Contributor: finnimbrun finnimbrun
My primary partner is Jewish, I'm Pagan and a witch (which I consider part of my religion), and my other partner is Pagan-ish (starting out on a path recently and figuring things out). It's not terribly important to us, to be honest. We're all respectful of everyone's beliefs, and all three of us actually did a Seder with a few other friends one time, so we share some things, but it's not something huge in any of our relationships. It's nice to be able to talk to at least one of my partners in depth about pagan/witchy stuff, but other than that, yeah.
05/31/2012
Contributor: Poly Polly Poly Polly
Quote:
Originally posted by SmutGeek
I recently was looking at Pagan Polyamory, a book by Raen Kaldera and some video interviews with Oberon and Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the couple that coined the term polyamory and was thinking about how grateful I am that my husband and ... more
Dating three Christians and I'm a Buddhist. Doesn't matter much to me as long as we share core values.
06/01/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by SmutGeek
I recently was looking at Pagan Polyamory, a book by Raen Kaldera and some video interviews with Oberon and Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the couple that coined the term polyamory and was thinking about how grateful I am that my husband and ... more
not that important
06/01/2012
Contributor: vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
I'm Muslim and all my partners have always been either non-practicing Christians or atheists. Not really a thing for me. If I could find a Muslim partner that'd be awesome, but I won't hold my breath.
06/05/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
We are both Christian and it is very important to both of us. I honestly don't think I could be with someone who did not share my beliefs.
^This. Except I have been with people who don't share my faith and I believe that was one of the reasons we didn't last. I think it is very important to share the same faith.
06/05/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
We are both Native American, spiritually speaking, but it's not as important to us as it used to be.
06/05/2012
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
Quote:
Originally posted by SmutGeek
I recently was looking at Pagan Polyamory, a book by Raen Kaldera and some video interviews with Oberon and Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, the couple that coined the term polyamory and was thinking about how grateful I am that my husband and ... more
I only date those absent of relgion. I am "spirtual" but not relgious and can't date anyone who is. Just my perference
06/05/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
It was kind of hard to answer. My Man and I were both raised Catholic. My rearing was very heavy duty Catholic, with all the details, while his father was just into appearances, making sure his boys went to CCD, and showed up at Church etc. I was raised with all the Dogma etc. My husband didn't even KNOW what Baptism meant. He thought it was "welcoming the baby" while in Catholic Dogma it actually meant to erase Original Sin. He claims he has never heard of Original Sin. Freaked me out, as being raised Catholic it was one of the things I could never get on board with. HOW could a little baby be sinful? I was happy when the whole "Limbo" thing was gotten rid of. (How I wonder? Did G*d email the Pope? ) (It also just occurred to me, if little babies, according to Catholic Dogma, are born FILLED with Original Sin, why are Catholics so opposed to abortion? I mean, if they are SO sinful what's the problem? I don't think babies are born filled with sin, but according to the Pope they are. I don't get it.)

Anyway, neither one of us practice actual Catholicism. We pray before meals and I probably pray more than he does, but I can't adhere to the sexist Church Doctrine, and neither can he.

For a while he was a "ChristEar." A "Catholic" who only goes to Mass on Easter and Christmas, but I pointed out how inconsistent and even hypocritical it was, and he stopped.
06/05/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
We are both agnostic. I don't think I could have been with someone who wasn't.
06/05/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
My husband and I are Pagan but our life psrtner is Catholic. We respect each other's faith and the conversations can get very heated but we are also failry tolerant even at the worst of times. We don't really disagree as much as we simply ... more
Considering a lot of people consider Catholics "Polytheists" he may be closer than you think.

I know some Evangelicals who, when I was younger, called my parents "Pagans" due to the value Catholics give saints, especially the Blessed Mother (who many believe is the Earth Mother) and many Catholics are re-recognizing the role Mary of Magdalene played in the early Church and perhaps even as the Life Partner of Joshusha. (Who some people call Jesus.)
06/05/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I've been with people of all races, income brackets, personality types, pretty much you name a spectrum I've dated someone at more than one place on it. Except religious belief.

Religious belief is the only thing I'm aware of that is a first-date-dealbreaker for me. I am not interested in sleeping with theists. So, I've never had partners who were of different belief systems from me. All kinds of different "raised as" religions, but always agnostic by the time we start hanging out.

We've all got our boundaries, I guess.
06/05/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
right now both of my partners are atheists and I am a spiritual agnostic. I have dated several Christians, Pagans, and one person who was Jewish so.... *shrugs* religion isn't a huge deal, as long as everyone is respectful.
06/05/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
He's Christian but he practices what he preaches so it's fine by me.
Actually he doesn't preach at all, which is great.

I wouldn't mind dating anyone of any religion, as long as they don't try to shove it down my throat. (that applies to you too, hardcore atheists)
06/05/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife and I are both Christians. My wife tried to be an atheist for a while, but she just couldn't not believe. I still loved my wife when she wanted to be an atheist which is why I became the reason she turned back to her faith. If she had remained an atheist she probably would have left me. My faith is very important to me.
06/05/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
We are both Christian and Southern Baptist.
I was raised in a Baptist church, got out during the teen years and when we got together, he was going to Assembly of God. I started going with him and was baptisted there. Later, when our kids were young, the AOG church was so small there wasn't any other kids their age. We had some good friends going to the Baptist church so we started going there and have been there about 19 years.
I can't imagine not being with someone of the same faith and not being active in our church..our faith is very important to us..
06/05/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
We're both agnostic and I can't imagine being with someone that was heavily religious.
06/05/2012
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
I am eclectic pagan, My boyfriend and his wife are Jewish. *shrug*

Religion isn't that important to me as far as relationships go, as long as everyone is respectful about it.
06/20/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
We like talking about the flaws of all religions.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Quote:
Originally posted by brevado
We like talking about the flaws of all religions.
Us too, or just discussing all religions rather than having one set belief.
06/20/2012