I'm kind of in a newer situation these days, where my long time partner who I had an open relationship with told me a few months ago that he wanted to explore a new relationship, but without me. So this is kind of a two part discussion/question.
First- I know for a fact this new woman does not embrace the lifestyle, and when they were together before, one of the major points of contention leading to their breaking it off was the fact that he wanted to be with more than one woman. I also know that this continues to be the case, and we have been sleeping together, as well as having intimate meetings over the last couple months, including coming by after I have been with someone else. I know that part of that draw for him is being with two women, the problem being is he is not sharing that information with her. (Besides the obvious issues of infidelity and lying I know that may result in that information if comments can stick to the point I'm trying to get to )
Second- I have no desire to get into a 'normal' relationship. I love having the freedom of having my sexual whims being embraced and encouraged. How does one find that again?
I guess my overall concern/question is, once you have been in a sexually free and open relationship, can you ever go back and be in a 'normal' monogamous relationship, especially without eventually letting that other person down? I still have feelings and desires for him, and I'm concerned that he is still struggling with the differences of cheating and swinging, and he is still very much a closet swinger, where I have always been pretty open about my sexuality. Even when I was with him, and since I have a very hard time finding men that are accepting of me being with anyone else. Has anyone successfully gone from one open committed relationship to another? Regardless of whether our futures cross again, I know that both of us deserve to be with someone that likes who we are on all levels, and this is one of those things that isn't as socially acceptable as other things.
First- I know for a fact this new woman does not embrace the lifestyle, and when they were together before, one of the major points of contention leading to their breaking it off was the fact that he wanted to be with more than one woman. I also know that this continues to be the case, and we have been sleeping together, as well as having intimate meetings over the last couple months, including coming by after I have been with someone else. I know that part of that draw for him is being with two women, the problem being is he is not sharing that information with her. (Besides the obvious issues of infidelity and lying I know that may result in that information if comments can stick to the point I'm trying to get to )
Second- I have no desire to get into a 'normal' relationship. I love having the freedom of having my sexual whims being embraced and encouraged. How does one find that again?
I guess my overall concern/question is, once you have been in a sexually free and open relationship, can you ever go back and be in a 'normal' monogamous relationship, especially without eventually letting that other person down? I still have feelings and desires for him, and I'm concerned that he is still struggling with the differences of cheating and swinging, and he is still very much a closet swinger, where I have always been pretty open about my sexuality. Even when I was with him, and since I have a very hard time finding men that are accepting of me being with anyone else. Has anyone successfully gone from one open committed relationship to another? Regardless of whether our futures cross again, I know that both of us deserve to be with someone that likes who we are on all levels, and this is one of those things that isn't as socially acceptable as other things.
