I've been in closed poly relationships, but for the last three years I've only being practicing open poly. It fits my desires and beliefs better. I've lost count of how many poly relationships (open and closed) I've been in, and I absolutely enjoy practicing polyamory better than attempting monogamy.
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
08/31/2011
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How did the polymourous conversation with your partner start? Were there any hurt feelings (like love me and have sex with me but don't get obsessed with the sex and why am I not enoug?) How much sex is enough?
Originally posted by
ac0313
Currently starting one. We met in a non-traditionsl setting; she has always desired a polyamorous relationship, but had always tried to fit within a monogomous one...an obvious mis-match. We have had many discussions about the importance of open and
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Currently starting one. We met in a non-traditionsl setting; she has always desired a polyamorous relationship, but had always tried to fit within a monogomous one...an obvious mis-match. We have had many discussions about the importance of open and honest communication with EVERYTHING and have been able to do so since we first met about 3 months ago. With keen awareness of the stumbling blocks of a poly relationship, we plan to keep our communication open and check each other's feelings as we continue to grow our relationship.
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09/13/2011
no i dont think i could do it
09/13/2011
It intrigues me, but I really don't know if I have the time to be with more than one person. I like to spend all my free time with my partner, and trying to split my time up and work it around what I already have to do...so I think its just not for me.
09/13/2011
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Me and my fiance are both Poly. Been together a year and a few months ago realized were both not one meant for commitment so we both went to being open.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
09/19/2011
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What a lovely realization and a lucky partner you have! Time really is the issue here and, for us, the worst problem we have had to overcome. It is the root of our jealousy issues as well.
Originally posted by
ToyBoy
It intrigues me, but I really don't know if I have the time to be with more than one person. I like to spend all my free time with my partner, and trying to split my time up and work it around what I already have to do...so I think its just not
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It intrigues me, but I really don't know if I have the time to be with more than one person. I like to spend all my free time with my partner, and trying to split my time up and work it around what I already have to do...so I think its just not for me.
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09/21/2011
Nope, never been in one, and haven't ever had the desire to.
09/21/2011
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AGREE!!! I can understand having multiple (not too many!) committed relationships at the same time, but what I can not understan is sharing anyone. If I did not have a 2nd person that I was sexual with and in a 2nd loving relationship with, it would tear me apart if my parnter had another loving relationship. I guess I would rather not know any details.
Originally posted by
ghfriedel33
i just get too jealous
09/21/2011
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How do you feel about your husband having sex in front of you with other men and/or women? Just curious.
Originally posted by
CreamySweet
About 5 or 6 years ago my husband and I were in an adult toy shop in Reno. The girl at the counter said that if we were looking for something fun to do that we should go check out a local bar that turns into a swingers club a couple nights a week.
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About 5 or 6 years ago my husband and I were in an adult toy shop in Reno. The girl at the counter said that if we were looking for something fun to do that we should go check out a local bar that turns into a swingers club a couple nights a week. Having never been to anything like that we decided to go and see what it was all about. It was both shocking and amazing to say the least. We were sitting at a table, visiting with a couple we had just met. The wife was a hot tall blond about 40. As we were talking she reached over and undid her husbands pants and began giving him a blow job right in front of us and the conversation never missed a beat except when she went fully under the table and her now bare butt was extending out between my husband and I because her dress had hiked up.
We decided we would come back again and maybe try to have a little fun with other folks watching. We had a great time and actually I rode my man off in front of a bunch of total stranger s. We still didnt open up and swap or include others though. After a year or so of my husband sugesting that maybe i should try a threesome with a friend of ours i finaly said what the heck and did. This was a mfm by the way and it was one of the best experiences i ever had. Having two guys at the same time giving you total and undivided attention is an awesome experience. Since then I have had several threesomes with my husband and other guys. He says he really enjoys watching me getting it on and getting totally serviced in every way possible. We have also opened that up for me to have fun on my own. I have had a couple of super hot pool boys now and no... I dont have a pool darn it -but you can get way naughty in a hottub or the back of a ford excursion. My husband has even limo driven me around now a couple times while I am playing in the back with a friend. Also a huge thrill! I have never had feelings beyond friendship and just sex between any of the guys ( or the couple gals) i have played with. I love my husband and our understanding is we both have to know and agree if its someone I want to play with. It lets me have a little fun on the side while giving my husband the pleasure of knowing, watching or playing too. It also has brought a great level of trust between us and made our sex life off the hook. I know its not for veryone but for us it works. less
We decided we would come back again and maybe try to have a little fun with other folks watching. We had a great time and actually I rode my man off in front of a bunch of total stranger s. We still didnt open up and swap or include others though. After a year or so of my husband sugesting that maybe i should try a threesome with a friend of ours i finaly said what the heck and did. This was a mfm by the way and it was one of the best experiences i ever had. Having two guys at the same time giving you total and undivided attention is an awesome experience. Since then I have had several threesomes with my husband and other guys. He says he really enjoys watching me getting it on and getting totally serviced in every way possible. We have also opened that up for me to have fun on my own. I have had a couple of super hot pool boys now and no... I dont have a pool darn it -but you can get way naughty in a hottub or the back of a ford excursion. My husband has even limo driven me around now a couple times while I am playing in the back with a friend. Also a huge thrill! I have never had feelings beyond friendship and just sex between any of the guys ( or the couple gals) i have played with. I love my husband and our understanding is we both have to know and agree if its someone I want to play with. It lets me have a little fun on the side while giving my husband the pleasure of knowing, watching or playing too. It also has brought a great level of trust between us and made our sex life off the hook. I know its not for veryone but for us it works. less
09/21/2011
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Do you just have to inform your partner or do you need the stamp of approval? Do you both have the power to veto one's desires and how does it feel to be told "no"?
Originally posted by
CreamySweet
About 5 or 6 years ago my husband and I were in an adult toy shop in Reno. The girl at the counter said that if we were looking for something fun to do that we should go check out a local bar that turns into a swingers club a couple nights a week.
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About 5 or 6 years ago my husband and I were in an adult toy shop in Reno. The girl at the counter said that if we were looking for something fun to do that we should go check out a local bar that turns into a swingers club a couple nights a week. Having never been to anything like that we decided to go and see what it was all about. It was both shocking and amazing to say the least. We were sitting at a table, visiting with a couple we had just met. The wife was a hot tall blond about 40. As we were talking she reached over and undid her husbands pants and began giving him a blow job right in front of us and the conversation never missed a beat except when she went fully under the table and her now bare butt was extending out between my husband and I because her dress had hiked up.
We decided we would come back again and maybe try to have a little fun with other folks watching. We had a great time and actually I rode my man off in front of a bunch of total stranger s. We still didnt open up and swap or include others though. After a year or so of my husband sugesting that maybe i should try a threesome with a friend of ours i finaly said what the heck and did. This was a mfm by the way and it was one of the best experiences i ever had. Having two guys at the same time giving you total and undivided attention is an awesome experience. Since then I have had several threesomes with my husband and other guys. He says he really enjoys watching me getting it on and getting totally serviced in every way possible. We have also opened that up for me to have fun on my own. I have had a couple of super hot pool boys now and no... I dont have a pool darn it -but you can get way naughty in a hottub or the back of a ford excursion. My husband has even limo driven me around now a couple times while I am playing in the back with a friend. Also a huge thrill! I have never had feelings beyond friendship and just sex between any of the guys ( or the couple gals) i have played with. I love my husband and our understanding is we both have to know and agree if its someone I want to play with. It lets me have a little fun on the side while giving my husband the pleasure of knowing, watching or playing too. It also has brought a great level of trust between us and made our sex life off the hook. I know its not for veryone but for us it works. less
We decided we would come back again and maybe try to have a little fun with other folks watching. We had a great time and actually I rode my man off in front of a bunch of total stranger s. We still didnt open up and swap or include others though. After a year or so of my husband sugesting that maybe i should try a threesome with a friend of ours i finaly said what the heck and did. This was a mfm by the way and it was one of the best experiences i ever had. Having two guys at the same time giving you total and undivided attention is an awesome experience. Since then I have had several threesomes with my husband and other guys. He says he really enjoys watching me getting it on and getting totally serviced in every way possible. We have also opened that up for me to have fun on my own. I have had a couple of super hot pool boys now and no... I dont have a pool darn it -but you can get way naughty in a hottub or the back of a ford excursion. My husband has even limo driven me around now a couple times while I am playing in the back with a friend. Also a huge thrill! I have never had feelings beyond friendship and just sex between any of the guys ( or the couple gals) i have played with. I love my husband and our understanding is we both have to know and agree if its someone I want to play with. It lets me have a little fun on the side while giving my husband the pleasure of knowing, watching or playing too. It also has brought a great level of trust between us and made our sex life off the hook. I know its not for veryone but for us it works. less
09/21/2011
I'm not sure that I could handle it, personally.
09/21/2011
I would be unable to go through with a poly relationship. Over time I honestly want to know that there is someone there for you.
10/10/2011
I was in a poly relationship for about 4 and a half months. It wasn't bad while it lasted.
10/28/2011
It would really depend. I would want a say in the women and I know he would not want me to sleep with any men. So it would not work out. I would like to but only if I could sleep with men and women as long they are ok by him and would expect the same in return.
10/28/2011
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I couldn't have real feelings for either of them. Maybe I'm a little jealous, but I just wouldn't be able to deal with the thought of sharing someone I truly care about and being shared myself.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
10/31/2011
Tried it once or twice, didn't work out. I dated a guy and a girl at the same time and he got upset when I didn't spend time with him, she got upset when I didn't spend time with her and I got sick of both of them. I mean, we all hung out and had fun together, but it's so much effort to be with one person that a second wouldn't work. As for a guy having a second gal, I'm way jealous and can't handle open relationships. My current boy and I nearly broke up because we tried the "open" thing. One time he had sex with someone else and I was jealous, another I ended up drunk and half naked at a party and that's when we decided that we just couldn't do it.
11/01/2011
We are thinking about getting into one right now. We have met a person who seems as if she would fit in... we are taking it really slow though. Hubby and I have talked about this from every aspect we can think of extensively. I think we have a pretty good handle on how it would be, the potential problems and the like. I will definitely post around here if it actually happens.
11/23/2011
So far, it's never felt like something that would work well for me. I like the one on one dynamic of a monogamous relationship quite a lot!
11/25/2011
I am in a steady relationship with one man now. While I like women as well I am uncomfortable with having another woman in the relationship. We also have a D/s style relationship, both of us switch but he is predominantly Dom and I sub. We have recently been discussing adding a new person to our relationship to satisfy my dominant needs. The idea of a woman is pleasant but I worry a woman may expect more than we are willing to give. There are many submissive men that seem to be okay with the idea so that is what we are currently contemplating.
11/25/2011
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Sorry I took so long to respond to this. I just saw tonight that you had asked me something in this post. We each have mutual power of veto or approval. If I say I don't want to or he says no then thats the answer - no fight or sadness. Its totally fine when its a no - there are always other opportunities later for someone else.
Originally posted by
arewehavingfun?
Do you just have to inform your partner or do you need the stamp of approval? Do you both have the power to veto one's desires and how does it feel to be told "no"?
11/25/2011
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He doesnt have sex with other men at all. And so far he has only done it with one other woman in a couple swap. Totally fine with it! Good for him!!
Originally posted by
arewehavingfun?
How do you feel about your husband having sex in front of you with other men and/or women? Just curious.
11/25/2011
Not sure how people make this work once they have kids.
12/01/2011
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I have never been in one, I think its amazing that people can do this but I think I would get jealous too easily.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
12/02/2011
I have for around a year or so. It takes strong commitment and confidence to maintain such a relationship. I would never judge others in that kind of relationship but I've tried it and it didn't work out for me.
12/02/2011
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It works just fine with kids...I have two teenage daughters with Sigel and a 2 years old son with Arch.
Originally posted by
AndromedaJane
Not sure how people make this work once they have kids.
12/03/2011
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I would like one a lot. I have always found monogamy to be nice but not exactly what i want and so ive wanted to try a polyamorous relationship for a while now.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
12/05/2011
Have I ever been in a polyamorous relationship? Yes, I have a hodgepodge of a family right now, with essentially two husbands, a relationship with one of my husband's submissives, and another submissive that I'd like to see gone because of her age.
In reading through prior responses, I'm surprised at how many people equate having a polyamorous relationship with having sex with another person outside of marriage. Or how many people say that polyamory isn't "serious". I think a lot of people are confusing polyamory with swinging.
Relationships developed through polyamory are just like relationships developed any other way... you meet someone, you're attracted, you flirt, you go on a date, you wonder if she'll ever call you back, you get giddy when she does. You wear a stupid, happy expression that makes your husband chuckle and start unpacking double ended dildos to have them handy, just in case. Your life becomes a hectic whirlwind of time management nightmares.... ugh. You start feeling closed in by a house of 3000 sq feet and start dreaming of more bedrooms and an even bigger bed.
Polyamory is not swinging. There is nothing wrong with swinging. It's super fun, but short term and commitment free. Just good old sex with other partners. NOT polyamory.
Polyamory is having multiple loves. Multiple relationships. Multiple people in your life on a consistent basis. You have personalities to juggle, jealousies to overcome, and never, ever enough time for everyone. Ever. Scheduling helps, and being flexible about the scheduling helps even more. With a positive attitude and a lot of patience, polyamory can be a very rewarding choice for many families.
In reading through prior responses, I'm surprised at how many people equate having a polyamorous relationship with having sex with another person outside of marriage. Or how many people say that polyamory isn't "serious". I think a lot of people are confusing polyamory with swinging.
Relationships developed through polyamory are just like relationships developed any other way... you meet someone, you're attracted, you flirt, you go on a date, you wonder if she'll ever call you back, you get giddy when she does. You wear a stupid, happy expression that makes your husband chuckle and start unpacking double ended dildos to have them handy, just in case. Your life becomes a hectic whirlwind of time management nightmares.... ugh. You start feeling closed in by a house of 3000 sq feet and start dreaming of more bedrooms and an even bigger bed.
Polyamory is not swinging. There is nothing wrong with swinging. It's super fun, but short term and commitment free. Just good old sex with other partners. NOT polyamory.
Polyamory is having multiple loves. Multiple relationships. Multiple people in your life on a consistent basis. You have personalities to juggle, jealousies to overcome, and never, ever enough time for everyone. Ever. Scheduling helps, and being flexible about the scheduling helps even more. With a positive attitude and a lot of patience, polyamory can be a very rewarding choice for many families.
12/07/2011
I haven't been in one but my fiance and I are interested in possibly being in one. Unfortunately where we live not many believe in that life style.
12/08/2011
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It would be interesting to try, I wouldn't mind trying it out too see how it was.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
12/09/2011
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Even though this is my favorite fantasy, I don't think I would do well sharing.
Originally posted by
callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
01/08/2012