Yeah, I don't watch those kinds of shows either, because I agree - I feel like they just say a lot of stupid stuff and it aggravates me. lol

While I'm not polyamorous, I know people can have happy poly relationships that last a long time. It's like saying homosexuality isn't real and can't work just because I'm not homosexual. It's a goofy point of view. Some people are asexual too, and while I'm not, I know that some people are, and live happy lives that way. less

I believe they rarely research anything. It's all just them talking out their asses. I can't stand most female oriented programming so I've only caught it the few times my coworkers put it on in the break room. They never seem to know much about their topic of the day.

I see no issue with poly relationships. It would be my ideal situation to have both my husband and a serious girlfriend. Never quite been able to work that out. I do see that they would require a bit more work as keeping a group of three or more happy is harder than two since more people and those people's opinions, needs, and wants become involved.

I once knew (through a friend of mine) a poly trio. They had been together for over five or six years I believe. Most marriages between two people don't last that long these days. I think it's more dependent on the individuals than anything. less

Well I have been with my husband for 25 years and with my life partner for nearing 10 years. I know I love them both, I know they both love me, we three know that the guys care for each other deeply (albeit platonically). The problem is I can't PROVE that to anyone.
I can't prove that anyone who claims they only love one person and couldn't ever love another really DOES only love one person and can't love another...to me this is a foreign idea and rather frightening for various reasons, mostly related to life's nastier moments and death.
I would feel as though my life were irrepairably maimed if either of my guys were not in it. I think all happily monogamous couples can understand and agree with this sentiment.
I don't just love my guys but I am IN love with them and both my relationships are well past the whole 'honeymoon lust' period.

I cannot understand why people believe you cannot have a wonderful loving poly relationship, really I can't. I try to because like all the people so very interested in polyamory I am equally interested in how monogamy works so successfully for many people. I am curious too!
The thing is not all monogamous relationships last and are successful....in fact most aren't! Should I then judge that all of you who are happily monogamous are fools, self-deluded or simply not capable of having the relationship you say you have? How silly would that be? Obviously you are happy, you make it work and you choose everyday to love your partner as best you can...and be the best person you can be for them.

Honestly I don't know if I was 'born' to be poly...but I did make a choice to love my partners with all my heart, cherish the time I have with them and be the best person I can be for them. To share their dreams and desires and treat them as though they were as precious as my own and to demand the same in return. Sometimes in order to do this I have to simply ignore the nay sayers and totally deluded talk show hosts and just carve out my place in this world.

I have never had much respect for The Talk as they seem to preach those awful Cosmo articles that purport to tell you anything useful about your love life and partner....I mean honestly? You can keep your partner totally faithful by perfecting your blow job technique? Really? Just Blech... less