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Contributor: MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
I didn't used to care about them way back when but then my first bf made it look like someone had punched me in the throat there were so many (felt super good, I was young and had no idea I bruised so easy). It was so embarrassing, I was definitely laughed at by most of my small school.

Since society seems to see them in a trashy way and I need to present myself in a someone respected manner due to my career path, I do my best to avoid getting them were people can easily see them.
12/11/2012
Contributor: HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Okay... I admit it. I give them easily. I bite a LOT without even thinking about it, and he has had to ask me to kiss further down his neck. When people parade them around, I think it's trashy. When people are obviously embarrassed about it, I find it funny. When people are like my Honey and just play it cool and pretend it's not really there, definitely more like ownership.
12/25/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I would not want to have one. My husband asked me and I said "no." I don't need a mark on my body announcing to the world that I've been made out with!
12/25/2012
Contributor: Bleu Bleu
Gave my boyfriend 3 one night, we didn't have sex but I was staying at his house and both his mom and his sister noticed them before we did. Honestly, someone was looking at his neck SUPER hard to notice because we didn't. It was an embarrassing accident but I don't see why people think they are "gross" or anything like that...It's blood pooling up at the skin like a bruise. What's gross about that? What's tacky about that? I gave them to my boyfriend completely on accident. Tackiness from having fun? I think people don't understand how big the neck is of an turn on spot for the both of us so we were completely lost in what we were doing when it happened.

I just think people get a little jealous they don't get that kinda attention or markings. I do think it's super embarrassing for the receiver though. I'm too dark to get hickies.
12/29/2012
Contributor: Kyle Hunter Kyle Hunter
imo something entirely different.....in the heat of the moment when im biting i tend 2 suck
12/30/2012
Contributor: StickySweetLeena StickySweetLeena
I once dated this much older guy. I ended up giving him a hickey at one point and remember him being so embarrassed. He said he felt like he was in middle school. I couldn't have disagreed with him more. A hickey is a result of lust and passion. It's evidence of being carried away in the moment. I personally like being carried away. I don't like to think during sex. You start to think and you become self conscious and disjointed. As a result of being scolded for my hickey-giving, sex and foreplay wasn't as good with this guy as it was before. It became methodical and redundant.. Two things sex shouldn't be.
12/30/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
Is it slutty to have a hickey? Is it a sign of ownership? Something else entirely?
Does not really matter to me.
12/30/2012
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
i think it looks trashy but that is my opinion. to each its own.
12/31/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
Is it slutty to have a hickey? Is it a sign of ownership? Something else entirely?
It's amusing to me.
01/05/2013
Contributor: 1001 Pleasures 1001 Pleasures
I'm not a fan of hickeys...on me or someone else. Put a metal spoon in the freezer and rub it on the hickey...that'll help lessen it.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Nympho88 Nympho88
I think they look trashy! Maybe when I was younger they didnt bother me, But as an adult I see no use for them. I know that I had sex and dont need a hickey to prove it everyone else..........
01/12/2013
Contributor: Hermosura21 Hermosura21
Quote:
Originally posted by sXeVegan90
I haven't ever seen anyone with a hickey on them before, but I wouldn't think anything about it. Honestly if I had one on me I wouldn't mind.
That's how I am
01/12/2013
Contributor: heartsandrainbows heartsandrainbows
Totally a sign of ownership, I'll stay away. or if its the size of a baseball then its trashy!!
01/12/2013
Contributor: nimr nimr
Not really my place to make value judgments like "trashy."

I like marks, giving and receiving; I have no problem with seeing other people's marks.
01/12/2013
Contributor: inkky inkky
I laugh. i know first hand that most times are accidents
01/12/2013
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
I've actually got a massive hickey right now. It's on my shoulder, which isn't that big of a deal, but I'm picking up my wedding dress on Friday, so that might be a problem...
01/15/2013
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
Is it slutty to have a hickey? Is it a sign of ownership? Something else entirely?
I laugh, knowing it was probably an accident and the person is so embarassed
01/15/2013
Contributor: table38792 table38792
I like seeing them, it's kind of subtle PDA. Better than people walking around all gruff and angry looking!
01/15/2013
Contributor: gorgeous gorgeous
I had a hickey one day and didn't know it. I went shopping at the mall and found it when I was in the dressing room and figured everyone had seen it already, nothing was hiding my neck. At least I wasn't in my home area, I was half way across the country lol.
01/15/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
I had one once as a teenager and I wasn't happy so it never happened again.
01/15/2013
Contributor: sweet&lush sweet&lush
It feels good when my guy puts them on my neck but I don't like the outcome. I don't like walking around with hickeys on my neck.
01/17/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
Is it slutty to have a hickey? Is it a sign of ownership? Something else entirely?
it amuses me
01/17/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I'd never actually SEEN one until I just now googled the word & saw pictures.

I don't find these types of bruises sexy or amusing, but that's only because I don't care one way or the other, not because I find it tacky or juvenile. However, I don't find them attractive looking & I'd probably cover it up if I ever got one, just like I'd cover a pimple.
01/17/2013
Contributor: Kirill1171 Kirill1171
I laugh, knowing it was probably an accident and the person is so embarassed
01/17/2013
Contributor: HB042 HB042
Can't stand the look of them. I'm a biter but I never leave a mark.
01/22/2013
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
I think they are trashy.
01/22/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
i laugh
01/22/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I find it funny when i see someone with a hickey.. i personally dont find it trashy at all.. cause someone bit that persons neck? ...not trashy to me.
01/22/2013
Contributor: mailroomorder mailroomorder
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
Is it slutty to have a hickey? Is it a sign of ownership? Something else entirely?
It depends where I am or who it's on...or if it's on me. Sometimes it feels so good to get a hickey.
06/25/2013
Contributor: mr115393 mr115393
I like hickeys. Obviously I wouldn't want a visible one because I work in customer service, in a very conservative environment, but I think they're sexy. And, yeah, I think they are kind of a sign of ownership and I like that a lot too.
07/01/2013