The New Intimacy

Would you end a relationship because you were unhappy in the bedroom?

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Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
For me, sex is the cement that holds a relationship together. There is nothing much worse in a relationship than being sexually frustrated and your partner just not giving a shit how you feel.

I'd give a partner some time to improve, but ... more
I agree completely. If you're with someone who really cares for you they should be willing to figure out the sex. Sex is key (at least to most of the folks on Eden :-P)
02/05/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
If we tried and tried again and it became a serious problem, then yeah.
02/05/2013
Contributor: MightyFine MightyFine
I would consider it. First I would talk to the person and try to improve things. If they were unwilling, then I'd be gone.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Hoshigetsu Hoshigetsu
Absolutely not. If the relationship was good then the sex wouldn't mean anything to me at all. If I needed it that bad then I have my toybox to pleasure myself with.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Mos def.
02/05/2013
Contributor: noway noway
Extremely tough question...depends on if everything else is good enough to make up lack of a good sex life. But sex is super important! Argh....crappy situation
02/05/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
maybe
02/05/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
it would depend on how both of our needs are being met.
02/05/2013
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
If I am not completely involved in the relationship and the sex it that bad then yes I would.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Just a simple question. If everything else was fine and you cared for the person but the sex sucked, would you leave just for that? Let's say you've tried talking already...ad nauseam.
I'm not sure I would end a relationship over not being satisfied in the bedroom but I certainly wouldn't allow the situation to continue. I would discuss it with my partners and see if there was something we could do to improve the situation.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Nickki Hard Nickki Hard
No the relationship I am in we live together share a bed and what not, but it's a good year if we have sex more then 10 times a year.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Munko Munko
I've found the way someone is in bed, is a pretty good indicator of how they are in other aspects of the relationship. A selfish lover is often a selfish person in general, a lazy lover, lazy over all...etc, etc. So chances are if I find the sex is bad, there are other personality traits I dislike about the person too and it would be a combination of things all around. But, I'm a very affectionate, physical person (not just sex, but intimacy in general) and I do need sex to be happy in a relationship. It's important to have that time to connect physically and emotionally and make each other feel good. If I dreaded sex, or endured it with someone because it was terrible, it would end up affecting other parts of the relationship...and if they weren't willing to work with me to improve our sex life, then that says a whole lot about them, too.
02/05/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I would want to talk and try as many new things as he is willing to first. There are too any years between us to just throw away because sex is't what I expect des not feel right. I'd rather ave a kind, caring partner who thinks about me than an abusive one whose great in bed or one that runs around cheating on me. Compassion for one another is tops for me. Besides I still have my toys and as long as he does't object and even wants to share them with me, how could I dismiss that?
02/06/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Just a simple question. If everything else was fine and you cared for the person but the sex sucked, would you leave just for that? Let's say you've tried talking already...ad nauseam.
For sure. Depending on how unhappy I was
02/06/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
No, I would be fine with just companionship. There is more to life than just sex for me.
02/06/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Just a simple question. If everything else was fine and you cared for the person but the sex sucked, would you leave just for that? Let's say you've tried talking already...ad nauseam.
If you are not happy try and get happy. If you can't get happy its time to get out.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
I guess not. I have been into sexually very unhappy relationships and didn't end them because of that. Maybe I should have, I don't know.

I survived because I have two healthy hands and a ton of fantasy.
02/07/2013
Contributor: 1001 Pleasures 1001 Pleasures
Unless I was at a point in my life where sex wasn't that important, I would definitely consider ending a relationship if the sex slump was more than a passing thing.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Pandwhora Pandwhora
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
It depends. If my partner is willing to try harder and learn how to please me, then no I wouldn't. But if they are not trying, then I see no point in continuing the relationship. Sexual frustration in a relationship will only cause more problems ... more
This.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
Sex can be a deal breaker. I personally feel it is important for a couple to both be on the same page when it comes to sex.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Possibly...if its never going to get better.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Rainbows Rainbows
No. I'm currently in a three year relationship and our sex life isn't exactly in existence at the moment, but I'd certainly never leave her for that. Of course I'd like for it to be better, but I'd never pressure the person I love into doing anything she didn't feel like doing, especially not sexually. There's a lot more to our relationship than orgasms.
02/07/2013
Contributor: DixieDoo DixieDoo
I voted maybe because it does depend on the situation, and by that I mean the whole picture. Why is the sex bad? Is it because neither of you are into it? Do you need to spice it up? If there are quirks that need to be worked out to make the sex better, then instead of simply talking it over, go try something new, go sex toy shopping together to allow the other partner to help make those intimate decisions and heat things up... If the sex is bad because your partner is lacking then I'd find a solution to the problem. If the sex is bad because the sexual spark that we once shared is gone, maybe we would need to rethink things in our relationship. We could have the best relationship in the world but sexual intimacy is a big factor in a relationship and if that is missing then something needs to change.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Rainbows Rainbows
And honestly, it bothers me that a lot of the replies here are "if they really care about you, they should be willing to have more/better sex with you!" Like I understand if that's just something that's important to you personally in a relationship, but you shouldn't assume that anyone who has issues with sex just doesn't love their partner enough. You can love someone with your whole heart and still have issues with it.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Aishiteru Aishiteru
No, I'm perfectly fine with pleasing myself. As long as they like to cuddle.
02/07/2013
Contributor: petlove0311 petlove0311
Maybe, if he didn't care enough to try and improve
02/07/2013
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
It depends. If that was the only or one of the few areas lacking in the relationship then I would definatly stay in it. On the other hand if their were all kinds of other problems the bad sex would only compound it.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
nope
02/07/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
I had an ex that was so small... well lets just say I was continually frustrated to the point that I had to leave him. My man must satisfy me... and he does.
03/09/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Maybe. Only if my partner was not willing to work for our relationship. There are other ways to satisfy each other.
03/15/2013