Whoaa---which one? I think one of the most challenging and hardest situations was being physically abused by my husband. I called the cops on him after pointing a gun at him, then pointed it at the floor and shot. I told him that would be him the next time....We split for a bit and then worked really hard together to get past the abuse. He has not touched me for about 7 years now.

The Child Issue - C wanted kids, I didn't. We split, believing that we couldn't ever work it out. I finally worked through some things, and I agreed under certain terms, which he has accepted (although he's still trying to get me to agree to more than one). We're engaged and going to marry next year, but I'm certain that we'll still have to negotiate this as things happen.

The thing that's damaged and changed our relationship the most was when his mom passed away. When she died, it was like a piece of him died along with her. He closed himself off to me, and acted like I was stupid for crying while he tried burying his emotions. We were SO CLOSE before she passed, but he became bitter and very angry and took a lot of it out on me; pushing me away when I needed him, and refusing to allow me close enough to support and care for his emotional needs. This was over two and a half years ago and we're still trying to get back on track. We've had about a million things happen since then, including several more deaths, mental illness, medical issues, and the stress of life in general; but his mom passing was what seem to set the rest of it in motion.

Probably when I was suffering depression. I'm still not sure how I overcame it, but I'm a lot happier and healthier these days. My boyfriend was really supportive which helped a lot.

Mine was when his parent was very ill. I was there for him, through everything.

Learning to communicate after 26, almost 27 years of marriage. You would think by now we'd have it down cold but it just doesn't work that way, at least for us. Its easy to take one another for granted day in and day out. Its constantly a work in progress!

Right now distance is taking a toll on us.

The year of long distance, definitely. It was hard to keep going with only limited chances to interact

The most challenging thing we have encountered is my past. I have quite the wild past and at first he wasn't really comfortable with it but over time he has come to see that my past does not define who I am now but instead served as a lesson.

Honestly I'd have to say having our daughter. While it has been the most amazing experience for both of us to be parents, it has been a stress on our relationship. We were together for 7 years, just the two of us, before she came along so it was hard to adapt to being 3 after so long of being only 2. I have had physical problems since delivery that have affected our sex life in a not so great way, we've had job changes that have added to the stress - and we will ALWAYS be parents so this is something we will always have to work on. We are lucky, she's been an amazing little girl from the moment she came out. She herself has never been a source of stress, but just the changes that come along with parenting.

We are still over coming these new obstacles. The nature of children is constant change, so we are constantly having to change and adapt with her and ourselves. Things are much better than even 6 months ago - 6 months ago I didn't want to be touched and I wasn't even sure I still wanted to be in a relationship. But we've worked on it and we are getting there. We just have to remember there is still US somewhere in there, as well as parents.