I am curious to hear how all off you feel about this issue, and what you have experienced in your own relationships.
How long does the average relationship make it until things start to get a little boring?
02/18/2012
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I do think it always depends on the participants...
For example it depends if you have been living together for all that time or not, also, how you are in general, always fun and goofy, or somebody who doesn't really know how to enjoy everyday life...
With enough fun and loveful affection in a relationship every single day can feel like heaven, and not too great things are needed to make you smile all the time... It can be learned, it IS mostly learned, and with that intentional way of life things never get boring, ir is just the question of your taste, your needs, and of course how much you can and are willing to do to prevent stuff from getting boring...
For example it depends if you have been living together for all that time or not, also, how you are in general, always fun and goofy, or somebody who doesn't really know how to enjoy everyday life...
With enough fun and loveful affection in a relationship every single day can feel like heaven, and not too great things are needed to make you smile all the time... It can be learned, it IS mostly learned, and with that intentional way of life things never get boring, ir is just the question of your taste, your needs, and of course how much you can and are willing to do to prevent stuff from getting boring...
02/19/2012
Not boring yet...and it's been years. We are actually more open now and it's more exciting because we are doing different things now.
02/19/2012
True, depends on the people and what you mean by boring. Boring sexually or conversations wise, etc. But so long as you can enjoy each other's company with little effort, I think things are fine.
02/19/2012
We've been living together for almost the whole 3 years. It feels like we are an old married couple sometimes. The problem isn't so much with sex as it is with the general relationship. I just feel like we have seen each other in the worst ways.. and that things are more like we are college room mates than about to be getting married. He never really wants to do anything fun together. It kind of stinks
02/19/2012
I say about 1 year of having regular sex. However, the kinkier you are, the longer that will take.
02/19/2012
I don't have all that much experience, but I am 2 years in and still not bored at all
02/19/2012
6 months or less.
02/19/2012
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1-2 years
Originally posted by
kittycatgirl
I am curious to hear how all off you feel about this issue, and what you have experienced in your own relationships.
02/20/2012
The good ones have all made it well over a year or longer. In my experience it takes me about 6 months to realize that someone isn't all that I'm looking for and I will never be able to a) change that or b) really get past it. It's not so much that I get bored, rather it takes me that long to take the rosy glasses off and be objective about a relationship.
02/20/2012
It really depends on how much time you've spent together just being around each other and stuff.
02/20/2012
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It realy depends on the participants in the relationship and what you consider to be boring, I guess. If you go into the relationship knowing you are going to have to work to keep things exciting and fresh the fresh new feeling lasts a bit longer...but if all the people in the relationship are living full lives and learning and growing then there is always something new to try or a slight twist on an "old favorite".
Originally posted by
kittycatgirl
I am curious to hear how all off you feel about this issue, and what you have experienced in your own relationships.
I noticed that we tend to slip into a rut if we aren't communicating well or the stress is WAY high and we're having trouble coping.
There really isn't an easy answer to this question is what I'm trying to say in way too many words.
02/20/2012
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Ouch...sorry to hear that. Have you tried asking him what he thinks is fun? Maybe you could find something you both like to do to sort of build a bridge back to sharing things again. This is what Sigel and I did and do to reconnect to the reason we are together. Like I told him I never signed on to this to be in a platonic or stagnant relationship...I really hate having to be the one to bring up that things are a bit stale though so sometimes we still have a bit of friction. It's worth the effort to reconnect to your partner and marvel at how they've grown and changed as a person...provided they have of course!
Originally posted by
kittycatgirl
We've been living together for almost the whole 3 years. It feels like we are an old married couple sometimes. The problem isn't so much with sex as it is with the general relationship. I just feel like we have seen each other in the worst
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We've been living together for almost the whole 3 years. It feels like we are an old married couple sometimes. The problem isn't so much with sex as it is with the general relationship. I just feel like we have seen each other in the worst ways.. and that things are more like we are college room mates than about to be getting married. He never really wants to do anything fun together. It kind of stinks
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02/20/2012
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Thanks Airen Wolf, it helps to know others have gone through this. I know what he thinks is fun, but we completely disagree on that subject. He would sit around and watch movies all day if he could and that bores me. We are really different people in general. We try to meet halfway but it's been difficult. I am trying to really work on becoming closer again, and we seem to be making some progress, so that's good. I hope it continues! Also, we do spend most of our time together, so it's pretty easy to get bored/annoyed!
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Ouch...sorry to hear that. Have you tried asking him what he thinks is fun? Maybe you could find something you both like to do to sort of build a bridge back to sharing things again. This is what Sigel and I did and do to reconnect to the reason we
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Ouch...sorry to hear that. Have you tried asking him what he thinks is fun? Maybe you could find something you both like to do to sort of build a bridge back to sharing things again. This is what Sigel and I did and do to reconnect to the reason we are together. Like I told him I never signed on to this to be in a platonic or stagnant relationship...I really hate having to be the one to bring up that things are a bit stale though so sometimes we still have a bit of friction. It's worth the effort to reconnect to your partner and marvel at how they've grown and changed as a person...provided they have of course!
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02/20/2012
Judging by when women break up with me around 2-3 months
02/20/2012
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