The New Intimacy

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
You hear folks in long term relations talking about how things grow "stale" or "comfortable". Others speak about how they feel they know their partner "better" and are thus more "unihbited" with a long term lover.

SO...truth. Is sex BETTER for you now in a long term relationship then it was in the "good old days" or, in ways "less exciting"?

What do you have NOW that you didn't then. What do you miss, that you did have "back then"?

Also, include if you are a man or woman answering. Might be interesting to see how the answers differ by sex...if they even do.

Thanks
07/19/2011
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Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
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Originally posted by Bignuf
You hear folks in long term relations talking about how things grow "stale" or "comfortable". Others speak about how they feel they know their partner "better" and are thus more "unihbited" with a long term ... more
A bit of both. It's "better" because we're more experimental and can do more things. It's not as good because it seems like some of the passion is gone. We're just comfortable.
07/19/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
yes, sex is 100 times better when you are with some one you trust with your life, because that is what you are doing when you have sex. Plus you are comfortable with each other, you communicate with each other, and it is not just about yourself feeling good.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i'm a woman and from my experiences, i have better sex in a casual relationship than a long termed relationship. but the long term partners i had were usually more sexually conservative and i just got sick with the lack of interest in my needs. i think it would be good if i was with someone who understood my need for experimentation in sex.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I've had more aggressive sex with casual partners, but more exploratory/interestin g experiences with long term partners. Both are valuable to me.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I am woman with a man, we have gotten better with sex as time has gone on. Sure at first we had a lot more sex, but not better. We have gotten to know each other and now are more comfortable with each other. I think that it just gets better as time goes. Sure it is exciting to have causal sex with someone. But having sex with someone you care about and feel things (more than a boner or wet undies) for is suppose to make things better.
07/22/2011
Contributor: jessterinthebed jessterinthebed
My sex life is getting better, because of communication and a deep understanding of him. Married woman.
07/30/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
Six of one, half a dozen of another. Learning each other was fun, but being comfortable is fun too.
07/30/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
The buildup isn't quite as good, but the act itself is almost always much more fulfilling with someone longterm than with someone new, for me.
07/30/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by Bignuf
You hear folks in long term relations talking about how things grow "stale" or "comfortable". Others speak about how they feel they know their partner "better" and are thus more "unihbited" with a long term ... more
I'm a woman with a man. For me, it's MUCH better. Things were hot in the beginning, but with time we've become more comfortable with each other, and have learned what each of us prefers. So now we can cater the experience to one another much better. I also feel more comfortable to explore other aspects of sex with him, such as anal play. I've never been with anyone else that made me comfortable enough to explore that, and it's very intimate. Things are definitely not stale for us, we both agree this is the best sex of our lives. As we talked about this, we both kind of feel that if your sex life gets stale, it may be a sign or something else going on in the relationship. We haven't been together as long as some of the couples on here though, so that's just our 2 cents.
07/30/2011