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If you could change one thing about your partner sexually what would it be?

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Contributor: Risque Risque
As much as we love or partners they are not perfect. Is there anything you wish was different about them such as a little longer, a little more girth, could be more gentle, more rough, etc?

I love just about everything that happens in the bedroom with me and my partner. The one thing I wish is that he would try to have the slow more passionate sex more often. We definitely have the rough and crazy, in the heat of the moment, and the energizer many hour sessions down pat. Sometimes it's nice to have a complete variation. So what is missing in your bedroom?
09/19/2012
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Contributor: Seductive Dream Seductive Dream
I think I would change similar to what you said. I want really rough and really gentle. Also wish it was a little more spontaneous at times. My biggest gripe outside of the bedroom is his temper and doesn't look at things from others point of view when he sets his mind on something....he's right and everyone else is wrong grrrr
09/29/2012
Contributor: Risque Risque
It's funny I know a lot of people that think they are always right and know everything. lol Yes, it can be very frustrating to have a conversation with someone like that. Sorry to here about the temper stuff I know what that's like and depending on the person can be down right scary.
09/30/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
My husband is a big fan of cock rings which make it so he lasts forever. I'm multi-orgasmic so after so many times cumming I get exhausted. Plus all the friction starts to hurt. So I guess I wish sometimes we could have non-marathon sex. lol Everything else I'm happy with.

I also second the temper outside of the bedroom. He's quite a grumpy person and goes off the handle at people a lot. It causes him problems at work that I wish it didn't. He's gotten a lot better over the years, but I wish he could at least control it at work and when he's driving.
09/30/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
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Originally posted by Risque
As much as we love or partners they are not perfect. Is there anything you wish was different about them such as a little longer, a little more girth, could be more gentle, more rough, etc?

I love just about everything that happens in the ... more
I wish he didn't have E.D. because it is true that if you don't use it, you loose it. I hate that my toys give me more attention then he does.
09/30/2012
Contributor: Risque Risque
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Originally posted by - Kira -
My husband is a big fan of cock rings which make it so he lasts forever. I'm multi-orgasmic so after so many times cumming I get exhausted. Plus all the friction starts to hurt. So I guess I wish sometimes we could have non-marathon sex. lol ... more
Wow a lot of that was like reading my own thoughts . The anger thing is something we have been battling since almost the beginning. I can get angry too but I will say what I feel (maybe) and then walk away. Not throw a fit or yell and scream. It really solves nothing only thing it accomplishes is causing issues all the way around. Driving is one of the worsts here too, it gets down right scary at times. Here's to wishing us both good futures with diminished angry outbursts form our partners

The marathons I also have that issue. Once in awhile I like the marathons just as much. most the time though I just lose all desire to even continue. Plus the friction even with lube sometimes is a killer. Lube or no lube when your not completely into it things aren't as relaxed and can get real uncomfortable. Glad to hear it's not just me.
10/04/2012
Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
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Originally posted by Risque
As much as we love or partners they are not perfect. Is there anything you wish was different about them such as a little longer, a little more girth, could be more gentle, more rough, etc?

I love just about everything that happens in the ... more
more sex drive!!!
10/05/2012
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by LunaLuthor
more sex drive!!!
To have A sex drive.
10/08/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I wish that his desire to please me was as strong as my desire to please him. We lack the passion we used to have, and he seriously lacks the desire to bring me pleasure. He's a little selfish in that respect and I wish his goal would be to please me, like it's my goal to please him.

I love his size and shape, I love that we're intimate often, I just wish it wasn't always the same.
10/08/2012
Contributor: Big Dog Big Dog
New brain. She's just not sexy in a mature way. When she get's flirty it's in a boring school girl manner.
10/08/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
i wish he had a higher sex drive!! he does really try tho, he knows how high mine is and wants to keep me satisfied, just seems almost like i'm burdening him sometimes tho LOL i want it like all the time tho so i guess it can be alot to handle
10/08/2012
Contributor: Risque Risque
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Originally posted by Dixiemomma
i wish he had a higher sex drive!! he does really try tho, he knows how high mine is and wants to keep me satisfied, just seems almost like i'm burdening him sometimes tho LOL i want it like all the time tho so i guess it can be alot to handle
It is definitely hard to have the same drive as our partners. I know there are times he wants it when I don't and vice versa!
10/16/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
I love my hubby and he has been tolerate of my increase sex drive (with menopause) but I wish he would be more willing to try new things and take the initiative to use our toys and things
10/16/2012
Contributor: Risque Risque
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I love my hubby and he has been tolerate of my increase sex drive (with menopause) but I wish he would be more willing to try new things and take the initiative to use our toys and things
I feel ya on that one. I have been in that boat and it is very frustrating. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel. Maybe if he knew that it bothered you he would be willing to try some things.
10/17/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
I think i would like rougher sex, and letting me have control more
01/29/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I wish he was bigger (not his junk, but overall) because I outweigh him by like 60 pounds and I feel like I'm crushing him all the time. :p
01/29/2013