How many of you were sleeping with someone else when you met your current partner?

Contributor: Trillian Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I was
24  (43%)
Yes and still am
2  (4%)
No, I can only focus on one person at a time
25  (45%)
Other (answer below)
5  (9%)
Total votes: 56
Poll is closed
06/29/2011
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Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
That was a LONG time ago, like 25 years! However, when we met we were both seeing other people. We were exclusive within a month.
06/29/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
I was dating and sleeping with my first husband when I met my Master in college. We were best friends though at the time. We did date briefly in 1991 but broke up and got back together in 1997. I was married at the time that we got together but it wasn't a very happy one. We divorced a year later and I've been with my Master ever since.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
My boyfriend and I both had casual partners when we met. We both just told our current "friends with benefits" that it had to end and were exclusive soon after.
06/29/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
i had a fwb when we met
06/29/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I knew my guy as a friend before I dated my ex. Then I dated my ex, then broke up with him and started talking to my guy again, then we got together a while later.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I did meet my wife while dating someone else - and she was engaged to someone else. It was complicated - but we got through it and have been very happy for the past 21+ years.
06/29/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
I can focus on more than one person at a time. I am capable of being Polyamorous. But, I choose to remain Monogamous for the time.

But, when I met My Man, I was a virgin and didn't have a lot of dating experience. I was not dating or sleeping with anyone else. He was my first.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I was sleeping with someone else when I first met my current bf, but I didn't start dating him til 5 months after we met. So by the time I started sleeping with my bf I hadn't been with my previous partner for a couple of months.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
I was, of course, still sleeping with Sigel when I met Arch. We chose to open our marriage mainly because monogamy really never worked for us, no matter how we tried to make it work. We are much happier with most aspects of our life now...just really hate living in two countries.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
i was
06/29/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I had a FWB when I met my wife, it was two months before we started dating. By then my FWB was gone to college so it worked out just fine.
06/29/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
I was with my x when i found my fiancee we were friends first my bf at the time wasntr eally bf material more friend material igot drunk told my current boyfriend i wanted him all of him and then broke it off with my bf at the time saying ic uldnt get nakied with him any more wa slike dating my brother
06/30/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I was single, and had been for quite a few years, when I met my man. He had been single even longer than I had been, but had had a few casual flings during that time. We became exclusive about 2 months after meeting, and the rest is history!
06/30/2011
Contributor: M.H1 M.H1
When I met my bf I had a couple of FWB and he knew about them. He had no problem with them because he had FWB too. We like to keep an open relationship at times, but only if we both agree.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
We both were. When she met me she did a photo shoot of me fucking another girl. When I met her it was between me and some guy from the bar.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Nope, I am a one woman girl!
07/05/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I've had very little dating experience and my man is the first person I've slept with, so I was a single virgin when we met.
12/22/2011
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
We were both married to other people. We cheated for a while before divorces happened and we moved in together.
12/22/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
I was sleeping with my best friend and we were pretending that we were going to stop because of feelings and such, I started dating my current girlfriend and once I decided I wanted to really date her, that was that. I stopped sleeping with my friend the moment I started talking to her. My friend still tried to sleep with me everytime he saw me but I just stopped hanging out until he understood that he missed out and I have found someone that I dont want to cheat on. (If my girlfriend was so special, I would have continued sleeping with him, as I am not the type to commit to one person)
12/29/2011
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
Honesty is best. I've never cheated, never would.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And how long before you stopped and became exclusive? How did you break it to the other person or persons?
I met my fiance 3 months after I broke up with my ex. I don't think it's right to cheat on someone.
12/29/2011
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Other.

When we met, my husband was single with no girlfriend and I was engaged to someone else. I broke the engagement before I began dating my husband.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
No, I'm a one man girl.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystSmoke
Other.

When we met, my husband was single with no girlfriend and I was engaged to someone else. I broke the engagement before I began dating my husband.
My wife was engaged to someone else when we met - too many coincidences!

I was dating but not engaged. We both gracefully ended the prior relationships before getting serious - i.e. sexually involved.
10/12/2012