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How do you feel about your partner's past sexual experience?

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Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
We both had other lives before we met and honestly I wouldn't change a thing, it made us who we are and led up to our relationship. On the other hand, I wish we would have gotten over our inhibitions alot sooner than we did!!!
09/08/2011
Contributor: RTC RTC
I know most don't feel this way, but I wish my partner had more. I know it's natural to tend to compare a current sexual experience to past ones (not necessarily in a negative way) and I kind of don't like knowing that I'm being compared to one specific person as opposed to several people in a more general sense. It doesn't really bother me as much as it used to, though.
11/10/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
right now, I'm single, but when I'm with someone, I'm pretty indifferent about it. I don't even ask their numbers because I feel it's irrelevant.
12/20/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
I met my partner in 11th grade. She was my first and I was her second. After highschool we broke up and I have a few relationships afterwards. She didn't and when we got back together I had more relationship experience as well as sexual. I know sometimes she wished she did to but you can't change the past.
12/20/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
He has only had me, I'm happy about that from our religious standpoint, but I also wonder if our sex life would be benefited by more and wider experience.
12/21/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I honestly wish he wouldnt have stayed friends with some of his ex's it is slightly annoying..
12/21/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
The amount of partners they have had doesnt bother me, what bothers me is the amount of partners they had that they are still friends with.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I'd rather not know, I don't like talking about exes, it's just an uncomfortable topic to me.
12/29/2011
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
I don't know the actual number, but ultimately I benefit from the experience he had prior to me.
09/18/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
That is a don't ask type of thing.
09/18/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
(don't gag, guys!!) we were both virgins when we got together and it's been so fun to have all the experiences with him, and then still be with him to this day.
09/19/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
The past is the past.
09/19/2012
Contributor: AliMc AliMc
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I voted Other. I'm glad that he was experienced because it made our first time more pleasurable but I would have loved to have been his first.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
That number doesn't matter to me.
09/19/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
I am happy. She slept with one guy once before me. But I could care less.
09/19/2012
Contributor: lillmiss5054 lillmiss5054
The past is the past and we both have one. The only thing that upsets me is when he talks about his ex wife when we have just had sex. It bothers me so much when he says if she just hadn't cheated on him they could have had everything. That hurts, it makes me feel like I'm an option instead of his choice.
09/23/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I was 35 when we married - she was 24. As you would expect I've many more partners - but that was more than 25 years ago - we never 'compared notes'.
09/23/2012
Contributor: yummyos yummyos
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I didn't really care too much about his past sexual experiences, although I still wanted to hear about them. I didn't see it as something I wish/didn't wish I could change, just something I was curious about.
09/23/2012
Contributor: JessieDawg JessieDawg
I don't care
09/24/2012
Contributor: AwesomeAmanda AwesomeAmanda
I wish he'd had less.
09/25/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I'm personally glad that he's a skilled lover. I don't know how many he's been with--I've never asked. But there is something to be said about experience.
10/15/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I really don't like a guy with little or no experience. Now don't get me wrong I love my life partner and he was a virgin when I met him but I really prefer a partner with some experience.
10/16/2012
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
It's in the past..
10/16/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
The past is just that, the past. It shaped us into who we are today. The events both good and bad brought us together.
10/16/2012
Contributor: Alyona Alyona
The past is the past and part of who I am and I would not change any of it
10/16/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
Mine...X'D. Well he had a lot of girls at his beck and call. He even participated in a threesome. It don't bother me because he's perfect in bed and he knows how to do oral, so his past ones were experience for him against someone who had zip to none.
10/16/2012
Contributor: ID42 ID42
My husband and I never exchanged specifics on who or how many. I know his main two loves past me and he knows my main two loves past him. Past that I have no exact number of his partners and don't know any of them personally (except for the two) and he is the same with mine. I do know that while my number far outweighs his, this has never been an issue for us. I don't judge him for his lack of experimentation and he doesn't judge me for the abundance of mine.
10/16/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I'm the only one he's been with.
10/16/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
The past is the past and part of who I am and I would not change any of it
10/16/2012
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
i'm ok with it
02/10/2013