My husband is also the type that says he doesn't need toys. Here's what the situation is with him. He doesn't NEED them no, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't like them. He just doesn't see the point in spending money on them and he doesn't really get the time to use them alone much and together he likes to not be overstimulated so that sex lasts longer. I've bought him a toy before, he does use it in the rare instances that he takes care of business himself but he feels that's fine and doesn't want anymore. Also I've never reviewed his toy and I am not sure he'd want me reviewing men's toys because while he's fine with me reviewing couples things and things for me I don't know that he'd want his intimate details of how he liked something shared online. So, if he knows you're going to be reviewing the male toy maybe that's why he doesn't want/need it? I don't think you should take it personally or think that he meant that you DO need them or anything.

About the anal play. He might have liked the sensation itself but not liked the mess. He might have liked the sensation but not thought it was sexy. If he isn't comfortable with something then he might not want to do it again even though he liked it before..it could be something about anal play that he doesn't actually like. My husband has tried anal play before..he liked it, but it's something he's not 100% comfortable with yet. So, it's a really rare occurence and I know that if I was to pursue the issue it'd probably make him even more hesitant to try things.

Lastly some guys just like their hand for solo time. My husband does his solo play in the shower if he's going to do it at all. That way it's easy to clean up, he's guaranteed privacy and the hot water feels awesome. So, he doesn't need lube, he might use his sleeve but most times he's just fine with his hand..it's just easier and quicker I guess.