How long have you been together?

As a lady, I absolutely agree with you that it's the emotional connection that makes things hot and spicy. Being open with each other is the key lasting happiness. Another thing that really raised our relationship to a whole new level were actually sex toys. *Still working on getting him into p-spot massagers* less

In 2 weeks me and my boyfriend are celebrating our anniversary. Being together makes us both really really happy and it means a great deal to both of us!



So this post is not about choosing a perfect gift for your SO… This time I want to know how to keep your sexual relationship fresh and exciting after 2, 5, 10, 40 years of being together (kids, mortgage and all)?

I’ve listed major issues the long term couples may face. Please check the ones you personally had to deal with and share how you managed to keep the fire going with your SO?

What do you do to stay sexually active?
Do sex toys help? less

The key is 'listening like a laser'. The first clues are body language - what is making her wet, what is bring on the best orgasms, then looking for similar toys, ones that are just a little bigger or stronger to expand options.

Ex. fingering her when using a clit vibe worked much better than the vibe alone. Her comment was 'I need something to squeeze.' Right a way I ordered a rabbit vibe - and for a long time that worked great.

But a rabbit vibe is a compromise. Looking for a larger dildo with a g-spot curve and a stronger clit vibe led to endless combinations of dildos and vibes.

Sometimes she would like a larger dildo/vibe - other times not. So to make sure she would be ready, I found the tapered Tantus Champlett and Champ dildos. Those choices came in handy later when we started to experiment with pegging.

About this time I took a chance on the PureWand. This one was totally different. I researched all of the reviews and printed them out for her to read. Handing her the toy and the reviews I went off on a business trip and told her to figure out how to use it - and teach me. It was a brilliant strategy - she learned to gush with it and things have never been the same!

Once she got to enjoying anal sex - it got to be so important that she have anal stimulation - even when having vaginal sex. That led to finding some good quality silicon anal plugs - and her infamous triple-vibe orgasms; the Lovense vibrating butt plug, Fun Factory Big Boss (orange) vaginally and her favorite wand for clitoral stimulation. Now that's some serious toy activity!!

We've tried dozens of different types of dildos, large, small, hard & soft - but all silicone. She loves the softness of BD dildos - but they tend to have pointy heads. Although she likes the Vixskin Outlaw - it's not quite soft enough for something of that size. This lead us to the Vamp Carina - which is a massive 2.3" x 9" but the softness makes it awesome. The natural shaped bulbous head hits all the interior spots much better than the pointier DB dildos.

As you can see - we're on the large end of the spectrum. But we started with Johnny, moved to the Maverick - each of which had good long runs before moving up to the Outlaw and beyond.

Enjoy the journey and always try new things. Since you're a budding Dom - let me know if you want any info on how we found our way down that road! less

In 2 weeks me and my boyfriend are celebrating our anniversary. Being together makes us both really really happy and it means a great deal to both of us!



So this post is not about choosing a perfect gift for your SO… This time I want to know how to keep your sexual relationship fresh and exciting after 2, 5, 10, 40 years of being together (kids, mortgage and all)?

I’ve listed major issues the long term couples may face. Please check the ones you personally had to deal with and share how you managed to keep the fire going with your SO?

What do you do to stay sexually active?
Do sex toys help? less