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Getting a Tattoo Of Partners Name?

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Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
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Originally posted by Elaira
I had an ex tell me he got a tattoo of a rising sun on the back of his neck for me . . . because of my name and all. To me, that's perfectly fine.

A friend of mine, however, got her boyfriend's name tattooed on her chest over her heart ... more
wow ...yes thats very lucky
08/11/2011
Contributor: Endocott Endocott
It would have to be close to "forever," -- together awhile, and at least married.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Without giving away my idea, I have kinda thought about getting a partners name tattooed on a certain part of my body if I married them. I have quite a requirement for marriage and I'm not sure anyone would be able to meet it. I highly doubt I'll ever marry and so no tattoos of any kind for me.
08/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by IslandGoddess
I would really love to hear peoples opinions on this topic
My husband has a tattoo with my name on it. In fact, we were discussing this last night. He was playing softball and one of the guys starting going on about how "stupid" it was to get your "girlfriend or wife's name on a tattoo" and My Man rolled up his T Shirt sleeve and said, "You mean like THIS?" It stopped conversation, I can tell you that.

When he got the tattoo the artist said, "And if you break up with her, I can turn it into an 8 ball or something." My Man said, "NO. She'll still be the mother of my children, and the love of my life. She stays there. NO matter what."

The tattoo figures my name in capital script letters, with the children's names in smaller letters under it. He loves that tattoo, and I adore it.

Nothing says love like INK!

There are a lot more significant things to worry about when breaking up with an other person than "OMG, his name is on my arm!" It's a minor thing, I think. IMO, the effect of divorce on children, the emotional fallout, financial ruin etc all trump a little bit of ink. BUT, people get into supposedly permanent relationships and make life altering decisions for all kinds of reasons, yet seem to think that a tattoo is "too permanent."

People buy property together, merge their money, bring children into the world, change where they live and even what they do for a living for their partners, but a tattoo is "too permanent?"

I don't know. I didn't go into my marriage already thinking of ways to get out and how to escape unscathed. Yet, I see people who claim they are totally in love "forever" ripping love tattoos like these were really, in the long run MORE important than bringing children into the world together or melding your lives. I'm stumped.
08/11/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
I am not interested in any tattoos
08/11/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
It could create pressure for them to do the same for you or they don't "really" love you.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I would never get a tattoo of a partners name just in case there was a bad break up somewhere down the road.
08/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
I had an ex tell me he got a tattoo of a rising sun on the back of his neck for me . . . because of my name and all. To me, that's perfectly fine.

A friend of mine, however, got her boyfriend's name tattooed on her chest over her heart ... more
I'm glad your friend is still with her husband, but I can assure you (being with the same man for over 20 years) that "luck" has nothing to do with it.
08/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Eucaly
It could create pressure for them to do the same for you or they don't "really" love you.
Huh? I don't have any tattoos. My Man has never put "pressure" on me to get a tattoo of his name anywhere. He respects my choice to do what I like with my body. He got my name on a tattoo because HE wanted to. He isn't the kind of person (as he is an adult) who says things like "If you don't do this, you don't love me." He's a grown man and beyond this kind of adolescent manipulative action.

In fact, most of the people I know who do have a lover or partner's name on a tattoo do NOT have their partner with the same tattoo.

I have not seen any of this kind of "pressure" you are referring to.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
Never never never. You never know what is going to happen. Hell I didn't know my ex was going to cheat on me and leave me until recently when i caught him, and i was going to get us matching jewelery and all at some point, or even promise rings, and that went right out the window. I want a tattoo of wings, and I was going to get them this year, but I don't want to remember getting them right after my extremely bad break up, so now I'm waiting at least another year before I get them.
08/11/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My husband has a tattoo with my name on it. In fact, we were discussing this last night. He was playing softball and one of the guys starting going on about how "stupid" it was to get your "girlfriend or wife's name on a ... more
Awwwww thats so sweet
08/11/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I'm glad your friend is still with her husband, but I can assure you (being with the same man for over 20 years) that "luck" has nothing to do with it.
thats real love
08/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by IslandGoddess
Awwwww thats so sweet
Thank you.

Yeah, it's real love.

It isn't always easy (hell no) but with the right guy, it is worth the effort. He cares and that's obvious. I actually had NO idea he was going to do it. He said he was going out one night (shortly after our last baby was born) to "get something that we will both like, a little expensive, but will last." I thought he was going to come home with an outdoor hot tub! LOL! (That's before the economy tanked and thinking of buying such things was even possible.)

He came in and looked... guilty. I asked him what he did, and he didn't answer me. Then, he said, "I hope you don't get mad at me." And I'm thinking, "WTF, was he at a strip club?" (He was sweaty and flushed, so I didn't know why.) So, he took off his shirt and I saw the bandage and I still didn't know what he had done.

He showed me and I started to cry, it was so sweet. OMG, did he get laid that night! (Well, I did too, obviously. I was quite horny.) Every time I looked at the tattoo I got turned on. I still do.

It may not be the best thing for everybody. But, for us, it was really a good choice.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I am a bit torn on this. On principle, I wouldn't suggest doing it, because more often than not, the relationship ends and the person ends up regretting their tattoo. However, I think in some cases (such as P'Gell described), it's totally fine. I think it depends on the relationship.
08/11/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
never ever... no
08/11/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
The tattoo I have in mind are two pumpkins with the commedia and tragedia faces carved into them. My husband and I met as romantic leads on stage, got engaged at the end of a show, and we got married on Halloween. I prefer symbolism over text.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
NEVER. If you're determined to get a tattoo relating to your partner, get some art that holds significance to both of you, or representing something you've been through together. Then, if it doesn't work out between you, you'll still have an awesome tattoo.
08/11/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
My boyfriend has talked about getting my name tattooed on him. I like the idea, but most likely would not reciprocate. He knows this and is fine with it. Although I know that once marriage hits I may reconsider.
08/11/2011
Contributor: NuclearTeapot NuclearTeapot
While there are risks, I do not think getting someone's name tattooed on you "stupid". Personally, I would not get my husband's name tattooed on me, but that is just because I am not big into text tattoos.
08/11/2011
Contributor: virgomama616 virgomama616
My husband is a tattoo artist and I would never let him do that to me. or him!
08/13/2011
Contributor: EvilHomer EvilHomer
I would never get a tattoo, partners name or else.
08/17/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
No way
08/18/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Whether we're together five months or fifty years, I would never tattoo someone's name on my skin. You just never know if one day they won't be part of your life anymore, and sometimes you... Just. Don't. See it. Coming. You know?!
08/18/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I did, I went small and simple on my wrist. This is my hand writing. This can easily be covered with a bracelet. I do have a cat with the same name so I have a back up. However I did my so small that it is an easy cover up. If we do split I will just design a bracelet tattoo and go to town on myself. I have my own tattoo gun, this is our hobby. I do not see us splitting we love to love and hate each other. I know you never know, but we are meant to be together at least for now. If it does not last, then I will just cover it up.
08/25/2011
Contributor: DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
i'd get initials somewhere discreet !
08/25/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I have Property Of Potter tattooed on my lower back. Potter is my husband. I'm comitted to him, I like that his name is on my body!
08/25/2011
Contributor: mcl272 mcl272
i would do this. something small like our initials with a heart.
08/25/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
I would do something symbolic like an animal, or symbol but nothing like a name. Symbols can easily take on several identities, names well... Unless you just keep hooking up with someone with the same name doesn't really work out so well.
08/27/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Right now my husband and I have matching ring tattoos, and we're both on the same page with the name tattooing. To us, that's something that's totally cool on like, a 50th wedding anniversary, so I think I know what we'll be doing if we're both alive in 50 years lol.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Nora Nora
I'm not a huge fan of tattoos that are "on me"...they look really good on some people, but honestly, the name thing (anyone's name...my sister has her 2 oldest kids first names on her legs) is a little creepy.

I can't imagine when my nephews get older trying to explain to a significant other why they should or shouldn't get a matching tattoo to his Mother! Beside that, it is expensive and painful to have them removed! Covering it up is cheaper, but depending on how much you originally spent, it seems like a waste of money to hide it once it is there!
08/31/2011