My SO has always had female friends, he's always been a bit of a ladies man and garners female attention (of the friendly sort, usually) quite easily. But those relationships have usually been in group settings or casual keeping in touch on facebook, etc. There are a few exceptions of long time friends that he may meet up with for a drink if they're in town, or stop in to visit without me, but generally he doesn't hang out with women alone. I think because of that, if he were to meet a new female friend and want to hang out alone with her, it'd send up red flags for me and I wouldn't be too comfortable with it. Only because it's not his usual behavior, or they way he generally carries on friendships with women. I know he feels the same about me - I have a few casual male friends but no real close ones that I tend to spend a lot of time with, or ever did - so I know if I suddenly met a man I wanted to hang out with alone, he'd be uncomfortable with that as well.


I suppose though, as long as I got to know her and I was included at times, over time I'd feel more comfortable with the idea, maybe. But if he just came home one night and said "I met suzy Q at the office last week, we're going for drinks on Saturday night just the two of us" I'd have a tough time with it.

I think that everyone should have friends of both sexes, if they want. My only issue is when my bf tells me that they know personal, sexual issues about him. yes, I get jealous.

It's just about having boundaries in place with friends of the opposite sex.

I have always been the girl who has had tons of male friends...I was raised with all boys around me so it just happened that way...but my boyfriend would mind if I was going to meet up with them alone for no reason....I mean he has had female friends and I havent always seen eye to eye with but as time played out they were always out for something else so it all depends on the relationship

It really wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Honestly, I'm just thrilled that he has lots of friends (outside of our group of shared friends).

It would depend on the relationship and how much I know the person. The better I know them--the more comfortable I would be with the friendship.

Neither of us is straight (we're both attracted to ladies, dudes, and non-binary-identifiers ), so it wouldn't make much sense to feel threatened by my SO hanging out with members of the opposite sex. If the worry is supposed to be that my SO will fall madly in love with someone else, then that worry should extend to her interactions with EVERYONE, since everyone is a "potential threat" under that logic. But obviously, that's a silly, stressful, unhealthy, and ultimately untenable way to live and maintain a relationship, so we don't do that.

That is a loaded question. I think for both of us, it completely depends on the person and how their relationship is or developed.

My boyfriend and I are totally okay with each other having friends of the opposite sex. We do discuss certain people who make us uncomfortable though. Out of respect, we do not spend time with those people alone.

it would depend on the relationship & how that person was friends w/ me too.

It depends on the relationship, but almost always I'll be entirely cool with it

It all depends on the kind of relationship they have.

It doesn't both me in the slightest. I trust him.

I don't see the issue but as both myself and my boyfriend are bisexual it's a little different for us!

It does not bother me because I fully trust my boyfriend. He has an all-girl group he is working with right now in his college class and I think nothing of it. Like I said, I trust him.