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Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Ladies! For those of you in a long term relationship, what will get you in bed faster? Him to bring you flowers or for him to have the house clean when you arrive home? I wrote an article once about my observations on romantic "domestic" gestures that lead to getting your partner in bed! Would love to see if you gals agree with me

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Flowers will get him laid!
Ansley , tickle me pink , MaryExy , Pixie5 , playtimeohsofun
5
A clean house will get me between the sheets!
anonymouse58 , Sapphire Pet , Ajax , Pixie5 , Ivy Wilde , Bignuf , zeebot , KsPlaything , Graniteal
9
I need both!
I'mNotYourToy , Sammi , Howells , darthkitt3n , Miss Anonymous , potstickers
6
Total votes: 20 (19 voters)
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07/14/2011
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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Ladies! For those of you in a long term relationship, what will get you in bed faster? Him to bring you flowers or for him to have the house clean when you arrive home? I wrote an article once about my observations on romantic "domestic" ... more
I have sex with him because I love him and I love sex. I'd rather leave the dirty dishes in the sink and get down than have him do the dishes while I wait.

My Man takes care of most of the Man's Work, painting the house, cutting the grass, etc. We do some sharing, he cooks, he can do dishes. He never ever does laundry. Nor cleans a toilet. He brings in most of the income. That's how our dynamic works.

Flowers are.... nice, but I don't need bribing to get me into bed. All he needs to do is say, "Wanna fuck?" That's romance to me.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
Changing the sheets on the bed would do it. Mostly because that's a huge gesture from someone who can't stand doing that, but knows how much I LOVE fresh sheets. My guy gets laid for creative sweetness all the time.
07/14/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Jaimes
Changing the sheets on the bed would do it. Mostly because that's a huge gesture from someone who can't stand doing that, but knows how much I LOVE fresh sheets. My guy gets laid for creative sweetness all the time.
My Man has never changed sheet! I doubt he'd know how. LOL! I can see if it's one of those chores you hate.

I still have an issue with him having to "do things for me" in order to "get rewarded with sex." We don't use sex as a reward, nor do we withhold it as a "punishment" so I can't wrap my head around this concept.

Maybe it's just me.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Sapphire Pet Sapphire Pet
My Sweetie does things for me because he knows it helps me out seeing as I work 3rd shift in a factory and I'm tired when I get home. Most definitely I would mess the sheets up with him if the house was clean when I got home!! Not as a reward but because it would be one less thing to worry with and I would have time and energy! Flowers are nice but a clean house and piece of mind wins out every time!
07/14/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
Most of the time all he really has to do is ask, but flowers wouldn't hurt. I'm never too worried about him cleaning the apartment, but I know if I'm the one trying to get sex out of him I make sure everything is clean when he gets home. That always puts him in a good mood.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
I'd take a clean house over flowers Any day.

My man's home all day because he doesn't work so if I have to come home after my shift is done and clean the house myself he's probably not getting laid. It's not that I'm withholding sex as punishment if he doesn't do it, I'm usually just exhausted and not in the mood. If he does clean the house then it frees up time and makes me happy. If I've got time to relax there's no where I'd rather spend it than in the bedroom.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man has never changed sheet! I doubt he'd know how. LOL! I can see if it's one of those chores you hate.

I still have an issue with him having to "do things for me" in order to "get rewarded with sex." We ... more
I'm with you! Sex isn't a bargaining chip.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
This is tricky to answer. He cleans the house all the time, and brings me flowers "just because". I certainly don't withhold sex for either, but I do love having both
07/14/2011
Contributor: playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
flowers since he already does dishes he never has gave me flowers
07/15/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man has never changed sheet! I doubt he'd know how. LOL! I can see if it's one of those chores you hate.

I still have an issue with him having to "do things for me" in order to "get rewarded with sex." We ... more
Neither my husband nor I use sex as a reward or withholding it as a punishment. But sometimes when he does something nice -- like cleaning the litter boxes -- it makes me feel good. The litter boxes are clean and I didn't have to do them. YAY! I'm happy. And because I'm happy, I feel more amorous. I have sex with him.

In a way, it is a reward for him cleaning the litter boxes. But I didn't ask him to clean the litter boxes, he just did it to be nice. And I certainly wouldn't withhold sex if he didn't clean the litter boxes.

So I really don't see what's wrong with having sex with your partner because s/he did something nice and it made you feel like having sex.
07/15/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Ladies! For those of you in a long term relationship, what will get you in bed faster? Him to bring you flowers or for him to have the house clean when you arrive home? I wrote an article once about my observations on romantic "domestic" ... more
Him just being there when I am cooking, or cleaning. Him having the house cleaned up...oh my. He buys me flowers and cards all the time, but he knows that it is the "being a helpful" hubby that gets MY juices flowing.
07/15/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Jaimes
I'm with you! Sex isn't a bargaining chip.
We are both (husband and wife) sitting here...we laughed when we read this. If it is not a bargaining chip, then it has no "value" (since you CAN barter and bargain ONLY with things of value). We both agree...if it is good enough to serve as a GIFT to your lover, then sure as heck it IS a "bargaining chip" and let the barter begin!!!!
07/15/2011
Contributor: KsPlaything KsPlaything
For some reason, my sex drive goes WAY up wheni come home to a clean house or after I've done it myself! It must be the pheromones....
07/15/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We are both (husband and wife) sitting here...we laughed when we read this. If it is not a bargaining chip, then it has no "value" (since you CAN barter and bargain ONLY with things of value). We both agree...if it is good enough to serve ... more
Love it!!!!
07/16/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I would have to say BOTH! lol
07/16/2011