Do you find that you and your partner continually fight over the same things? I find that often times when we fight they are of a similar topic. Anybody else find this?
Do your fights reoccur?
07/22/2012
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Not really, although we don't fight often really. When we do, it's over little things anyway, so they're pretty easy to resolve. In previous relationships fights tended to be about the same thing over and over again, though, and it drove me off the wall! The worst type of fights are the ones where no matter what you say, your words get changed around! I used to hate that! And it happened often...
07/22/2012
for years, always the same shit. He has finally learned not to bring up the old "trash"
07/22/2012
We are often guilty of this. He doesn't like to resolve anything, he just wants to pretend stuff didn't happen and move on. Well, when the same thing that went unresolved happens again, obvious it's going to cause yet another issue. Tends to be very frustrating.
07/22/2012
We had the same old fights the first 10 years of our marriage. We didn't fight often, but when we did they were predictable. Then we got smart and learned how to resolve the big issues. Life's much better now.
07/22/2012
We fight over the same old issues for many months to a couple of years. Once the attacker decides to overcome the issue and get our relationship back--we usually let it drop. We do go in stages, though. Depends on the issue.
07/22/2012
We'll have a few fights over the same issue, and then one of us will realize what the root problem or the misinterpretation is, and it gets better. I'm also bad about being too proud about being right
07/22/2012
Yes, but mostly those are housekeeping issues. Because I usually remind him nicely, bottle up and then we fight because all I want is bite his head off.. But I love him.
07/23/2012
I'm horrible with bringing stuff up over and over and over again until I feel it has been completely resolved.
07/25/2012
Our fights reoccur all the time because we don't really resolve it initially, especially if we're really emotional about it
02/03/2013
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Yes but it is pretty easy to be aware of which fights are going to occur again and you have to decide whether you care enough to fight that battle. Ultimately the only way that battle ends is one person has to decide that unless the issue is resolved the relationship cant continue, at which point someone has a choice to make.
Originally posted by
Zandrock
Do you find that you and your partner continually fight over the same things? I find that often times when we fight they are of a similar topic. Anybody else find this?
02/03/2013
No - we don't do that. We rarely fight and when we do disagree, we state our opinions and move on - life's too short - get over it!
02/04/2013
Yup, generally there's just those one or two things that bugs me or my partners and they come up in every fight. This has happened in all my relationships.
02/04/2013
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