We're pretty open about our pasts. I don't think he would care.
Do you worry your S/O might find out?
09/11/2011
I am not worried, even though he knows very little of my past. He says it does not matter, so it does not. It is not like I did something to him, so I have nothing to worry about.
09/12/2011
I don't really have a sexual history before my S/O
09/12/2011
I don't worry about it. He doesn't know all the details, but we have a weird past. He was my first, I was far from his first (he's older.) (Bear with me or skip this, those of you who know me and are sick of hearing this. ) After a while together, we decided to engage an Open Relationship. That went on for years, as I had virtually NO experience before I met him, and I needed to know what was out there and he wanted to sow some wild oats before we decided if we were right for each other.
After several years of dating each other and other people, while I was in college, we decided to close the relationship and we got engaged, I moved in part time with him, bought a house, planned a wedding and I then found out I was pregnant. Wedding moved up, and baby made three. So, I do have a "past" but it was mostly after I met him.
We never go into the details of our pasts, in terms of "what we did" with other people. He knows about how many men I was with, but not their names (although he found a picture of a guy I was fuck buddies with in college. He showed me the picture and said, "You fucked him, didn't you?" He was smiling, and how he knew I don't know. I just laughed and said yes, and that was as far as details go. I DID throw out a hand made gift an old girlfriend made him as well as her picture. I made it clear to him, "DO NOT leave shit that pertains to her where I have to see it." I consider his underwear drawer, as I do ALL his laundry and put it away, "where I can see it" after running into her picture several times, I disposed of it. Same with the handmade gift. I have nothing of those other lovers, (except that picture that I didn't even realize I had, and it wasn't in a place where he would run into it) so it works out.
After several years of dating each other and other people, while I was in college, we decided to close the relationship and we got engaged, I moved in part time with him, bought a house, planned a wedding and I then found out I was pregnant. Wedding moved up, and baby made three. So, I do have a "past" but it was mostly after I met him.
We never go into the details of our pasts, in terms of "what we did" with other people. He knows about how many men I was with, but not their names (although he found a picture of a guy I was fuck buddies with in college. He showed me the picture and said, "You fucked him, didn't you?" He was smiling, and how he knew I don't know. I just laughed and said yes, and that was as far as details go. I DID throw out a hand made gift an old girlfriend made him as well as her picture. I made it clear to him, "DO NOT leave shit that pertains to her where I have to see it." I consider his underwear drawer, as I do ALL his laundry and put it away, "where I can see it" after running into her picture several times, I disposed of it. Same with the handmade gift. I have nothing of those other lovers, (except that picture that I didn't even realize I had, and it wasn't in a place where he would run into it) so it works out.
09/12/2011
Double Post, sorry.
09/12/2011
I'm not worried. he knows it all..
09/12/2011
My wife and I are completely open about everything regarding sexuality with each other, so I am never worried about posting certain things in the EF community.
09/12/2011
Not to hijack this thread, but dude, I wish I didn't know half as much as I do about my boyfriend's past.
09/12/2011
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i'm not worried. one of my partners prefers to know about my past and knows pretty much everything there is to know. my other partner doesn't care or want to know everything, but wouldn't be shocked if he found something out. i'm pretty open about my past.
Originally posted by
Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have
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09/12/2011
I'd tell them if they wanted to know, but at this point, I haven't said much. The past doesn't matter much to me, and I hope it's the same for them.
09/12/2011
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We've been married for 18 years. We also do not have items linked to our exs stashed away. We've concurred not to mention about our past relationships, since we are both slightly possessive in nature. That's why it'll be awkward to have him to learn about my overly unexciting sexual past, by accidentally reading some of my responses on EDEN. He's probably not going to make a big deal about it, but I'll still be embarrassed.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I don't worry about it. He doesn't know all the details, but we have a weird past. He was my first, I was far from his first (he's older.) (Bear with me or skip this, those of you who know me and are sick of hearing this. ) After a while
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I don't worry about it. He doesn't know all the details, but we have a weird past. He was my first, I was far from his first (he's older.) (Bear with me or skip this, those of you who know me and are sick of hearing this. ) After a while together, we decided to engage an Open Relationship. That went on for years, as I had virtually NO experience before I met him, and I needed to know what was out there and he wanted to sow some wild oats before we decided if we were right for each other.
After several years of dating each other and other people, while I was in college, we decided to close the relationship and we got engaged, I moved in part time with him, bought a house, planned a wedding and I then found out I was pregnant. Wedding moved up, and baby made three. So, I do have a "past" but it was mostly after I met him.
We never go into the details of our pasts, in terms of "what we did" with other people. He knows about how many men I was with, but not their names (although he found a picture of a guy I was fuck buddies with in college. He showed me the picture and said, "You fucked him, didn't you?" He was smiling, and how he knew I don't know. I just laughed and said yes, and that was as far as details go. I DID throw out a hand made gift an old girlfriend made him as well as her picture. I made it clear to him, "DO NOT leave shit that pertains to her where I have to see it." I consider his underwear drawer, as I do ALL his laundry and put it away, "where I can see it" after running into her picture several times, I disposed of it. Same with the handmade gift. I have nothing of those other lovers, (except that picture that I didn't even realize I had, and it wasn't in a place where he would run into it) so it works out. less
After several years of dating each other and other people, while I was in college, we decided to close the relationship and we got engaged, I moved in part time with him, bought a house, planned a wedding and I then found out I was pregnant. Wedding moved up, and baby made three. So, I do have a "past" but it was mostly after I met him.
We never go into the details of our pasts, in terms of "what we did" with other people. He knows about how many men I was with, but not their names (although he found a picture of a guy I was fuck buddies with in college. He showed me the picture and said, "You fucked him, didn't you?" He was smiling, and how he knew I don't know. I just laughed and said yes, and that was as far as details go. I DID throw out a hand made gift an old girlfriend made him as well as her picture. I made it clear to him, "DO NOT leave shit that pertains to her where I have to see it." I consider his underwear drawer, as I do ALL his laundry and put it away, "where I can see it" after running into her picture several times, I disposed of it. Same with the handmade gift. I have nothing of those other lovers, (except that picture that I didn't even realize I had, and it wasn't in a place where he would run into it) so it works out. less
09/12/2011
We've both been open and honest with each other about our pasts. It's never been a "ok let's sit down and talk about our sexual histories" but there have been questions and they have been answered. I know we both still have things from exes, but they're things like jewelry that we wouldn't want to have to repurchase. He knows what jewelry of mine came from exes, and he doesn't mind if I wear them when we're out since a ring is just a ring and a bracelet is just a bracelet and as long as I'm not taking off my wedding rings to wear anything, it's no big deal. He's got a watch that his ex gave him that he wears on occasion if we're going somewhere nice. Honestly, it's a nice watch that I certainly don't want to go spend the money on replacing. All I asked was that he not wear it to our wedding, which he had no opposition to.
09/12/2011
My SO and I have told each other stories about our past sexual escapades, but don't dwell on them. What is the worry? It happened before him and has nothing to do with him. If he asked me anything I'd share it with him, I've done lots and lots of crazy stuff (including some very irresponsible things) but I'm not ashamed. It doesn't imply anything about who I am as a person.
09/12/2011
I don't think there's anything I haven't told my boyfriend. We don't think it's good to keep secrets...
09/13/2011
My husband knows pretty much everything. If there is something he doesn't know, I'm not at all worried that he might find out.
09/26/2011
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my Master knows all my history and partners and past sexual experiences.
Originally posted by
Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have
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My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have such worry?
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09/26/2011
i've told him alot about my past but not everything. he's not interested in or shady enough to go looking through what i post on here, or anywhere for that matter. he trusts me, and realizes that the past did not include him, and the present, which is all we have, and all that matters, does.
09/26/2011
Nope, she knows everything she wanted to know. She doesn't know everything, but that's because she doesn't care
10/22/2012
He knows, but I would never go into great detail about what happened. I think this is one time where honesty is good, but too much honesty could bite back!
10/23/2012
I don't have an S/O currently, but I believe in being honest about these things. If they asked I would answer truthfully. But I would feel uncomfortable if they read through everything I posted.
10/23/2012
He know that I was wild but we don't talk about specifics. We had been married for something like 12 years when I got summoned to go to court on a cold case murder trial that an X boyfriend was convicted on. He wanted to know why I had never told him about this guy and I explained that it was from 1989 and that it didn't matter and I had actually even forgotten about most of it.
10/23/2012
not at all
10/23/2012
MY husband knows my past history, or really my lack thereof. I know parts of his, but not details such as total number of others, etc. He's not hiding the information from me, it's just never come up.
10/23/2012
My partner knows my past. Every little nook and crany. Why? I don't really know. But I know he still gets a kick our of reading all my posts.
10/24/2012
We are both pretty open about our pasts, so it isn't a worry. He also doesn't visit this site, so it's kind of a moot point. I'll show him stuff here from time to time, but he really isn't all that computer savvy, so he's not online for much other than necessities.
10/25/2012
I don't get jealous in regards to my SO's sexual past. In fact, it's quite the opposite. I'm a rather curious person. Additionally, it's the past. So when turning the tables on my past, I don't feel ashamed of it and I'd never try to hide it.
11/01/2012
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My SO and I don't share everything about our past sexual experiences (because it's not important and there's really no point in reminiscing about past lovers when you've got a really good one in the present), but it wouldn't worry me if he learned something new or something I hadn't mentioned before. We're comfortable with each other and not knowing every single detail of every sexual encounter we've ever had.
Originally posted by
Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have
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My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have such worry?
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11/01/2012
He doesn't know everything, but I doubt he cares any more than I care about his.
11/01/2012
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My S/O doesn't know all about my sexual past, but I am not worried.
Originally posted by
Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have
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more
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have such worry?
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11/01/2012
I'm not worried, we have shared our past.
11/01/2012