I'd like to try and get my GF to try anal. Myself I've experimented with some prostate stimulation and liked what I've tried so far. She doesn't really like the idea of anal... what would be the best way to start and ease her up to the real thing?
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12/09/2010
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Wine.
12/10/2010
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Hahahaha! You could start with wine....
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
Wine.
I'd say get her a small, pretty, vibrating toy. Also lube. never, ever skimp on the lube.
12/10/2010
Well lets say that I whined for 21 years - to no avail. But interestingly I've used the EF Forum to stimulate her interest. I took (copy & paste) posts (quotes) from various discussions about anal experiences in the Forum and put them in a letter for my wife to read while I was on a business trip.
The posts were mostly from women who had a negative view of anal - then learned to like - even love it - with the guidance of a loving partner.
Not only has her prostate stimulation technique for me improved, but she has begun to allow me to use my fingers with her - presumably with idea of working toward anal sex at some time in the future.
I can't say I recommend waiting 21 years - but at the same time, you have to find a way to get her to agree to experiment with you - even then it's a slow process - but I'm ecstatic to finally get the process started.
The posts were mostly from women who had a negative view of anal - then learned to like - even love it - with the guidance of a loving partner.
Not only has her prostate stimulation technique for me improved, but she has begun to allow me to use my fingers with her - presumably with idea of working toward anal sex at some time in the future.
I can't say I recommend waiting 21 years - but at the same time, you have to find a way to get her to agree to experiment with you - even then it's a slow process - but I'm ecstatic to finally get the process started.
12/11/2010
You might not want to start out bugging her for "full" penis-anal sex, because she probably has a pretty good idea of how big your penis is and might be a bit worried. Start off trying some anal play (outside, and do talk about it first) and see if she likes it or can learn to like the sensations. Then see where things go from there (find out what her worries are as well).
Even on the outside use lube.
Even on the outside use lube.
12/12/2010
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Thanks, this is encouraging - good luck to you!
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
Well lets say that I whined for 21 years - to no avail. But interestingly I've used the EF Forum to stimulate her interest. I took (copy & paste) posts (quotes) from various discussions about anal experiences in the Forum and put them in a
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Well lets say that I whined for 21 years - to no avail. But interestingly I've used the EF Forum to stimulate her interest. I took (copy & paste) posts (quotes) from various discussions about anal experiences in the Forum and put them in a letter for my wife to read while I was on a business trip.
The posts were mostly from women who had a negative view of anal - then learned to like - even love it - with the guidance of a loving partner.
Not only has her prostate stimulation technique for me improved, but she has begun to allow me to use my fingers with her - presumably with idea of working toward anal sex at some time in the future.
I can't say I recommend waiting 21 years - but at the same time, you have to find a way to get her to agree to experiment with you - even then it's a slow process - but I'm ecstatic to finally get the process started. less
The posts were mostly from women who had a negative view of anal - then learned to like - even love it - with the guidance of a loving partner.
Not only has her prostate stimulation technique for me improved, but she has begun to allow me to use my fingers with her - presumably with idea of working toward anal sex at some time in the future.
I can't say I recommend waiting 21 years - but at the same time, you have to find a way to get her to agree to experiment with you - even then it's a slow process - but I'm ecstatic to finally get the process started. less
12/14/2010
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heh that might be a start, but I don't want to just get her drunk and then have her wake up with a sore bum =P
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
Wine.
12/14/2010
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Is there a particular lube you recommend? I've mainly used astroglide and ID Glide when needed... any ideas on silicone lubes, haven't used them and not sure but read in some posts they are good because they stay slick longer...
Originally posted by
ScottA
You might not want to start out bugging her for "full" penis-anal sex, because she probably has a pretty good idea of how big your penis is and might be a bit worried. Start off trying some anal play (outside, and do talk about it first)
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You might not want to start out bugging her for "full" penis-anal sex, because she probably has a pretty good idea of how big your penis is and might be a bit worried. Start off trying some anal play (outside, and do talk about it first) and see if she likes it or can learn to like the sensations. Then see where things go from there (find out what her worries are as well).
Even on the outside use lube. less
Even on the outside use lube. less
12/14/2010
For water based anal lubes, you probably want to go with something a little thicker. Maximus is a great option, but Ride H2O is a more natural option as well. Ride also makes a silicone version, and I really enjoy Eros Original Bodyglide and Toko Silicone was good for us as well.
12/14/2010
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Most silicone lubes are rather thin for anal use, and they are also a bit harder to clean up after. I'd say start with a thick water based lube or an oil-based lube. I use Probe Thick and Rich because I have chemical sensitivities, but Maximus is fondly remembered, and a new review of Doc Johnson's Anal Lube says it's a pretty good product beneath that potentially embarrassing label.
Originally posted by
muffles
Is there a particular lube you recommend? I've mainly used astroglide and ID Glide when needed... any ideas on silicone lubes, haven't used them and not sure but read in some posts they are good because they stay slick longer...
12/14/2010
I have attempted to have anal with my partner twice, as I knew it was something he wanted to try. I feel as long as she knows its something that you are interested in, feels comfortable with you, and loves you she would be willing to try. However, if it doesn't work DONT force it, just say its ok and if she wanted to you could try again at a different time. That's what my partner told me and Im always willing to try again. Also as horrible as it sounds if you happen to plan a romantic weekend during her time of the month she may try to repay you for the favor in a different way. That's what convinced me to try again
03/18/2011
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agreed!!
Originally posted by
Lucidity
Hahahaha! You could start with wine....
I'd say get her a small, pretty, vibrating toy. Also lube. never, ever skimp on the lube.
I'd say get her a small, pretty, vibrating toy. Also lube. never, ever skimp on the lube.
03/29/2011
if she doesn't want to, than don't push it. it's her body.
04/13/2011
I would not try to pressure her any at all. If you like it that's great, but if you keep on at her about it, it could only lead to resentment or her giving in just to please you and her ending up hurt. I don't like the idea of anal and my BF respects that. He's never asked me to do it. I don't want to and he leaves it at that. I think she probably has a good reason not to, but she could well change her mind, but she certainly won't do it with your pressuring her, not want to anyway. I think you should tell her that you'd like to try it and let her decide. Just drop it after that & either she'll come around to the idea or she will not ever be ok with it and if you'll have to choose whether or not she's important enough to you to do with out.
04/13/2011
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Yup
Originally posted by
Curves
if she doesn't want to, than don't push it. it's her body.
04/19/2011
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when you s find guy away to have anal and enjoy it let me know
Originally posted by
muffles
I'd like to try and get my GF to try anal. Myself I've experimented with some prostate stimulation and liked what I've tried so far. She doesn't really like the idea of anal... what would be the best way to start and ease her up to the real thing?
04/20/2011
Don't. Bother. Her. About. It.
But let her peg you a lot, if she wants, it's a great way to express vindictive feelings sexually and she'll see that you like anal.
But let her peg you a lot, if she wants, it's a great way to express vindictive feelings sexually and she'll see that you like anal.
10/23/2011
Mmm)
02/13/2012
I wouldnt pressure her in anal either. But its good to talk about it because u never know what her point of view is about it.
03/08/2012
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Or whine. That always worked for my ex.
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
Wine.
03/12/2012
I would say if you could convince her to try a small plug that she could wear while doing other stuff it might make her introduction a little less focussed on her butt... which may be a hang up for some.
05/22/2012
I suggest have her play with her anus on her own to get the feel for it. Maybe buy her a beginner's anal kit so she can experience what it may feel like to have objects in her anus. Be patient though it may take a while for her to get comfortable with playing.
05/22/2012
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Just try a little lick or light finger play while your eating her out and remember to keep it very vet so it wont hurt her.
Originally posted by
muffles
I'd like to try and get my GF to try anal. Myself I've experimented with some prostate stimulation and liked what I've tried so far. She doesn't really like the idea of anal... what would be the best way to start and ease her up to the real thing?
06/25/2012
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