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Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
so it's over. a year and a half of a good bit of magic, a good bit of sweat, alot of good sex, several tears and several months of roller-coaster struggling and we're parting ways.

if you've wondered why i've been so inactive, i've been dealing with this. on top of other things.


it'll be good to spend my therapy sessions discussing the shit that's still eating at me via the little girl inside of me who still ain't healed, instead of focusing precious therapy hours on what's going so wrong in my relationship.

a tear, a deep breath, and a step forward.


welcome back to the world, kid.
03/01/2012
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Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
so it's over. a year and a half of a good bit of magic, a good bit of sweat, alot of good sex, several tears and several months of roller-coaster struggling and we're parting ways.

if you've wondered why i've been so inactive, ... more
I missed ya!
Your gonna be one kick ass single lady to have on the market ; )

Giving me hope! *_-
03/01/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
*hugs* It happens. Glad you came back to us, though. We're always here for you, hon.
03/01/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a


Welcome back, and I'm glad you're doing what you feel you need to to make yourself happy.
03/01/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Aw, sweetie, I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm glad you're getting appropriate help, it will really be one of the best things to help you.

Take good care of yourself.
03/01/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
03/01/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
I'm so sorry to hear about that, but things happen for a reason. Take some time for yourself! It's good to have you back. I miss reading your reviews and seeing you on the forums!
03/01/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We all missed you and are happy to have you back. Good luck with your therapy. We are always here for you.

03/01/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled


I'm sorry you're going through this.
03/01/2012
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Really missed you, welcome back hun. Take good care of yourself and as my mother always says, "better sooner then later".
03/01/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
im sorry and happy for you. you make yourself sound so strong.
03/01/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'm sorry, but I hope it turns out to be for the best. Best of luck with your therapy. It sucks to waist those precious hours on drama when there are other things that could be worked on.
03/01/2012
Contributor: karay123 karay123
Sorry! Seems like you have a good, realistic grasp of the situation. That's priceless. GL with therapy. I admire your get up and dust it off attitude!
03/01/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I'm sorry to hear that, but it does sound like you have a healthy attitude about it. I wish you the best of luck as you spend some time focusing on yourself for a change! A weird feeling, isn't it? But it's an important thing to do.
03/01/2012
Contributor: Buttercup Green Buttercup Green
I am very sorry to hear that, but I have said it before and I will say it again- You are a strong woman. You will get through this.
You were definitely missed, and I am so glad you are back.
I hope your therapy goes well.
03/01/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Let me just say that I commend you for having the strength to break away from a relationship that was going nowhere, fast. And the maturity to have a good attitude about it. Good luck with your therapy, and do take care of yourself.
03/01/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I hope you're doing ok! It's good to have you back though.

If you ever need a chat buddy, I got your back!
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
thank you so much to everyone for your support. it's very important to me! you're my little cyber support group, and you're all great people.

thank you.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
*hugs* It happens. Glad you came back to us, though. We're always here for you, hon.
thank you chilipepper! good to know 'i'll get by with a little help from my friends.'

03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a


Welcome back, and I'm glad you're doing what you feel you need to to make yourself happy.
thank you! that is exactly what i'm doing. deep down, i know this is what will make me happiest, in the long run.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Aw, sweetie, I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm glad you're getting appropriate help, it will really be one of the best things to help you.

Take good care of yourself.
thank you, and you're right. my therapist is like my little tom riddle diary. i write things in her, and she shows them back to me, but with a little more clarity.

it's already been helping me alot, i just need to get over this stumbling block of a distracting relationship and get down to business... scooping out oldest wounds and healing them.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
I'm so sorry to hear about that, but things happen for a reason. Take some time for yourself! It's good to have you back. I miss reading your reviews and seeing you on the forums!
thank you! i've missed writing reviews. i've probably got about 30 products i could write on right now! maybe i'll start doing that again... lord knows i'll be using sex toys even more now. single and sexy, you know.

ps. ryuson! a friend of mine was talking about moving to albuquerque to teach at some art school and i said oh! i know a hot chick who lives there. they said oh yeah? how old? i said, 19 i think. and they said, aw damn.



too young for him. but still. its a small world.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
We all missed you and are happy to have you back. Good luck with your therapy. We are always here for you.

thank you very much beck. you're always good for my self esteem.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled


I'm sorry you're going through this.
me too, as it definitely sucks in some ways, but will certainly make me stronger. its weird, being single for the first time in a while. i feel like i deserve a badge or something! ready to paint that town red.

may not be the healthiest thing... (whoring around as an emotional distraction...) but at least it will feel good for the moment. until i'm strong enough to work it out the good way.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Really missed you, welcome back hun. Take good care of yourself and as my mother always says, "better sooner then later".
that made me smile. you're right. your mother was right.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
im sorry and happy for you. you make yourself sound so strong.
thank you! i do what i can. it may be a little defense mechanism, but it works.

i AM strong though. i am a strong woman. sometimes it doesnt feel that way. but i am. thank you for pointing that out to me again. it's good to remember that strength in ourselves.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I'm sorry, but I hope it turns out to be for the best. Best of luck with your therapy. It sucks to waist those precious hours on drama when there are other things that could be worked on.
no joke. it got to where i just threw my hands up and screamed at my therapist 'i am TIRED of wasting therapy sessions talking about him!'

there IS much more important matters at hand.

it will turn out for the best. thank you for your kind words.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by karay123
Sorry! Seems like you have a good, realistic grasp of the situation. That's priceless. GL with therapy. I admire your get up and dust it off attitude!
i do at certain moments! of course there'll be times i miss him rull bad. but these strong moments get you through.

thank you for your kind words.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
I'm sorry to hear that, but it does sound like you have a healthy attitude about it. I wish you the best of luck as you spend some time focusing on yourself for a change! A weird feeling, isn't it? But it's an important thing to do.
it is a weird feeling, but a good one. when i'm single i am one inspired, strong, independent mother fucker. when i'm in a relationship i've tended to be the opposite. i'm trying to work out really deep shit so that many things in my life will grow to a healthier place, including the aforementioned dependence.

my kitties will love their new and improved mommy time.
03/01/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Buttercup Green
I am very sorry to hear that, but I have said it before and I will say it again- You are a strong woman. You will get through this.
You were definitely missed, and I am so glad you are back.
I hope your therapy goes well.
thanks pretty lady. its good to be back. i really appreciate all the kindness you've shown me. it's really important to have that! thank you for your kind soul.
03/01/2012