A lot of marriages/long term relationships end today due to financial issues. However, I want to see what majority of people, if any, have ended their relationship due to sexual circumstances.
Has a lack of sex/intimacy or a lack of fulfilling sex ever caused a split between you and your partner?
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Mine had several reasons, which could all be narrowed down into three categories:
Living situation
Personality conflict
Celibacy
A friend suggested I could get the marriage annulled instead of going through a divorce because it was never consummated, but there was more than just the lack of sex involved, and I wanted it clear that I did spend ten years of my life working on it. I could never explain away ten years of my life as "it never happened". It did happen, and it shaped many of the rules and standards I have now.
But, yes, I'll admit, the celibacy was the biggest resentment I had during the whole thing - more so than finances, his passive-aggression, and my wrong choices.
Living situation
Personality conflict
Celibacy
A friend suggested I could get the marriage annulled instead of going through a divorce because it was never consummated, but there was more than just the lack of sex involved, and I wanted it clear that I did spend ten years of my life working on it. I could never explain away ten years of my life as "it never happened". It did happen, and it shaped many of the rules and standards I have now.
But, yes, I'll admit, the celibacy was the biggest resentment I had during the whole thing - more so than finances, his passive-aggression, and my wrong choices.
02/13/2012
It wasn't a marriage, but I did break up with a boyfriend over it. I cared about him a lot but felt I needed to explore. I still question whether I made the right decision sometimes though.
02/13/2012
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Thank god no, it has not.
Originally posted by
dbm6907
A lot of marriages/long term relationships end today due to financial issues. However, I want to see what majority of people, if any, have ended their relationship due to sexual circumstances.
02/13/2012
Yes, when I was younger, and I did leave him for it. His lack of interest in sex with me caused my to find comfort with one of his friends- it wasn't the smartest decision on my part, but I was angry and sexually frustrated.
What made it worse was that he would blatantly check out other women and make explicit comments, which usually never bothers me. However, it got to the point where I would be fishing for comments and I would get nothing except maybe, "why are you wearing a dress?" I didn't understand what I did wrong, and I felt so insecure about it.
Our sex drives were completely off, I wanted it close to every day, where he would want it only once a month. There's nothing wrong with that, if that's what satisfies you, but it didn't make me happy at all. If anything, I felt unattractive and miserable- I felt the rejection was my fault.
Of course, from hindsight, it wasn't at all, and I should have figured out within the first few weeks our compatibility was off and I should have left him, instead of trying to "fix him."
What made it worse was that he would blatantly check out other women and make explicit comments, which usually never bothers me. However, it got to the point where I would be fishing for comments and I would get nothing except maybe, "why are you wearing a dress?" I didn't understand what I did wrong, and I felt so insecure about it.
Our sex drives were completely off, I wanted it close to every day, where he would want it only once a month. There's nothing wrong with that, if that's what satisfies you, but it didn't make me happy at all. If anything, I felt unattractive and miserable- I felt the rejection was my fault.
Of course, from hindsight, it wasn't at all, and I should have figured out within the first few weeks our compatibility was off and I should have left him, instead of trying to "fix him."
02/13/2012
I think it's really the other way around. If you're distancing yourself from your partner, it'll negatively affect your sex life with them.
02/13/2012
Better to say there was a chance because of it, but then it got worked out with even more patience, and the reason to break up with anyone in my life was never that kind...
02/13/2012
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