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Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Kissing on a first date?
With most of my long term relationships, we had sex in one form or another on the first date.
06/24/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I've had drunk make outs (back in the day) but I didn't consider those "dates". For someone I was interested in a serious relationship with, it was definitely more than 3 dates in for making out. I've gotta get that mental fire burning before I get to that point with someone.
06/24/2011
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
I don't really LIKE tongue kissing >.>
06/24/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I'm not really sure if I'd want to tongue-kiss at all. I've only ever done closed-mouth kissing, and even that feels very strange to me (I enjoy being kissed on the cheek much more ). I tend to go back and forth as to whether I find tongue kissing to be appealing or not. If lip-kisses feel strange, I can't really imagine tongue-kissing to be all that pleasant. But like I said, I've never done it, so perhaps it does feel good?

Though if I was going to, I'd still wait until well after the third date, most likely. Love-shyness causes me to go at a very slow pace, so I'm always amazed at the idea of kissing on a third date.
06/26/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
It would take more than 3 dates
06/26/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm not a big fan of tongue kissing in the first place so it would take quite some time to go there. I won't even normal kiss before the 3rd date!
06/26/2011
Contributor: shentel shentel
Definetly after i know the person for a while.
06/26/2011
Contributor: TheeGirlNextDoor TheeGirlNextDoor
I really don't enjoy kissing. I mean a like short kisses but making out really isnt something i enjoy unless its with someone i really love.
06/26/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
depends
06/27/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Depends on my chemistry with someone. I love kissing, so if the chemistry was there, I'd kiss before a date or on a date. If it weren't there, I may never kiss a person.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
The way a man kisses with his tongue can tell you a lot about him.

I was really attracted to my husband the first time I laid eyes on him. Within hours of meeting him I was kissing him. I learned in a matter of minutes that my husband was an ... more
I was told this long ago by a woman and it's true, you can tell a lot from the person you are about to be with by how they kiss. And you should listen to it.
06/27/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Would you feel comfortable sharing "tongue" with someone you just met? Is that something you wait till you are in a "deeper relationship" before doing? What is the group think on this?

I will be happy to share tongue on the.......
I dont even have to date to tongue kiss
06/27/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I don't like rules. Depends.
Isn't that the Outback Steakhouse slogan..."no rules....just right"? I love the spirit of it!
06/29/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
If the chemistry is there no reason not to
06/29/2011
Contributor: lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
It all depends on the person.
07/02/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
My poly family and I take fluid bonding pretty seriously, so no open mouthed kissing for or from me until I know their STD status.
07/04/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
It depends on the chemistry and situation.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
Well, this is hard to answer accurately because I haven't had a first date in a long time since I've been in a long term relationship for a while. However, I can say that prior to this kissing was something that happened spontaneously whenever I felt chemistry with someone, regardless of whether or not I was dating them. Some relationships I was in in the past began because of spontaneous kissing events. ;3 So yeah, I kiss on and before the first date.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ID42
To me, kissing is something very personal. I can be very attracted to someone and have no wish to kiss them until we have some sort of bond. I dunno, it's just more intimate than most other casual contact.
Very well said.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I would have to feel a great connection with them, so probably third date, or maybe longer.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
Call me old fashioned but I would do a lingering kiss on the first date but a tongue kiss I think should be saved for a second or third.
09/04/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Would you feel comfortable sharing "tongue" with someone you just met? Is that something you wait till you are in a "deeper relationship" before doing? What is the group think on this?

I will be happy to share tongue on the.......
Kissing probably turns me own more then anything else to get my motor running. I have cum from a good makeout session and a little dry humping. Most of the hook-ups I have had include passionate kissing. I figure if I plan on putting their cock in my mouth and letting them go down on me I shouldn't pass on a good tongue kiss makeout session to go along with it
09/04/2011
Contributor: EnMH EnMH
E and I were full on making out within hours. We went out to a movie on my birthday for our first date and came back to my house to hang out. Next thing we know, our tongues are talking that fine language.

The sexual attraction between us was strong from the start. Four and a half years, a wedding and a gorgeous two year old daughter later, we haven't changed. I doubt we ever will.
09/04/2011
Contributor: cheetahpita cheetahpita
It really depends on how well the date is going, but I probably would wait a couple dates in. If it's just a fling - well, then there wouldn't even be a first date
09/04/2011
Contributor: cocomo cocomo
it depends on how well u know them n stuff how bad teir breath is
09/12/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I've only ever kissed my boyfriend. And we tongue kissed before we were technically dating.
10/04/2011
Contributor: socceras socceras
deff not first date unless i already knew the person. I would have to feel comfortable with them so first or second time seeing them is a no.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
Depends on the person but mostly, yes, first date
10/10/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
people are comfortable having sex on the first date. and oral sex and whatevs, you know?
I feel like if the moment is right, why not?
Be safe about it, and make sure that person isn't a serious biter, but go for it! It's your body, it doesn't matter what other people think. It matters that you're safe, and comfortable.
11/02/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Would you feel comfortable sharing "tongue" with someone you just met? Is that something you wait till you are in a "deeper relationship" before doing? What is the group think on this?

I will be happy to share tongue on the.......
Whenever it feels right.
11/13/2011