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Contributor: Booktease Booktease
I had a boyfriend once who really loved incredibly dirty language, complete with pretty outrageous, intense fantasy description. For awhile, I got pretty used to hearing words like 'cock' or 'fuck' in the bedroom, as well as really dirty fantasies, but now I can't imagine saying the things I used to say to him. Part of the reason, of course, that we were so verbal in expressing things, is that we lived really, really far apart. So language was really all we had.

Are there any things that you feel are off limits in the bedroom? Are there things you really like to hear or talk about? How does language in the bedroom affect your arousal and does it get you going? Are there certain words or things your partner says that you really like to hear?
08/12/2011
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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I engage in a lot of "dirty talk." Sometimes our lovemaking is wordless, other times it's rife with curse words, sharp tongues and even things some might consider "offensive language."

We both enjoy this kind of stimulation, and it is completely consensual. If you do not enjoy it, first investigate yourself, internally and try to figure out why. If the reason is sound (meaning it isn't just a knee jerk "That's offensive!") then make sure you talk to your partner about things you enjoy or don't enjoy in the bedroom.

Everyone has different likes, needs, dislikes and desires. The best we can do is hope they align with our partner's likes and desires.
08/12/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man and I engage in a lot of "dirty talk." Sometimes our lovemaking is wordless, other times it's rife with curse words, sharp tongues and even things some might consider "offensive language."

We both enjoy this ... more
I really like both, though I think that my previous relationship was so... troubled, that I somewhat associate that sort of language with dysfunction. Which I know is incorrect. We still say pretty dirty things in bed, but I find it difficult to really step up and make it as dirty as I did in the past. I get all giggly and nervous, which is so interesting to me! I'm not sure why I have a hard time getting it out now, when I previously had no problems what-so-ever. The 'over the phone' bit might have something to do with it.
08/12/2011
Contributor: meitman meitman
My wife and I do enjoy "dirty talk" but I know the words she likes and the ones she doesn't really care for. Sometimes we don't use them but most times we do. It makes us both a little more turned on.
08/13/2011
Contributor: PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
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Originally posted by Booktease
I had a boyfriend once who really loved incredibly dirty language, complete with pretty outrageous, intense fantasy description. For awhile, I got pretty used to hearing words like 'cock' or 'fuck' in the bedroom, as well as really ... more
Professor Girlfriend and I are both rather quiet aside from the occasional direction, 'Suck it.' ,'Get on top.' stuff like that. I would enjoy her to be more verbal but Ive personally been silent for most of my sex life.
08/18/2011
Contributor: DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
bedroom language arousing me. i love it when my partner questions me or asks me to say his name. i especially love hearing him or her moan
08/19/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by DeliciousDrip
bedroom language arousing me. i love it when my partner questions me or asks me to say his name. i especially love hearing him or her moan
Ooh, yes. The question asking bit is always fun.
08/19/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I'll second (or third, I guess really) the question asking! I love it when he asks me "you like that?" or "you want a little more/a little faster?" Oof, that's hot!
08/19/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
I'm actually really bad at dirty talk but I love it when he begs me to let him come. I also like it when he calls me a good girl when I respond well to flogging/spanking. So light talk is okay. Moaning is good. I would love it if he asked me to say his name!
08/26/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by Booktease
I had a boyfriend once who really loved incredibly dirty language, complete with pretty outrageous, intense fantasy description. For awhile, I got pretty used to hearing words like 'cock' or 'fuck' in the bedroom, as well as really ... more
I always say dirty stuff like fuck me- cum in my pussy- fill me with that big hard cock-etc. I have been asked if I was a dirty or naughty little cock whore or cum slut before and do I want it in me... its all just fun and kink. I dont mind at all and I don't take offense. Sometimes we have passionate sex and sometimes its pure bed wrecking stunt fucking so its all good.
10/05/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I like some dirty talk I thinks it's fun I'm yet to experience anything I would say is off limits
10/05/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
We love to talk dirty. Calling me "little girl" as in "dirty little girl" is absolutely off limits, though. I'm good with being called a "dirty little slut" though. I'm weird, I know.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
We aren't fans of dirty talk. I just laugh the whole time. It sounds so fake and ruins the mood for me.
10/10/2011