This is an issue with my wife - she conquered it by simply letting me know when its time to stop massaging and start foreplay.

I like hubby to massage everywhere but "those" places to start with...I find he also concentrates better on massaging (lol) if we save those for last and then go from massage to foreplay.

I usually give the relaxing part of the massage and then when she is nice and relaxed and "warm" all over, I start moving to the pleasure points and other erotic zones with light touches and some kisses. Slowly teasing and building the arousal then I usually start in with some oral and breast fondling. It usually seems like a smooth transition to me anyway .

id say before anything set mood, make all the light you need come from candles, light some incense maybe, purchase some really good oil. While it happens give of some hints to not only how good it feels with him touching you. if your man knows you enough he should not not notice