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Balanced Back Rubs in Your Relationship?

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Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Are you more likely to give or receive a back rub in your relationship?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Giver
<3BF , Airen Wolf , Taylor , ECU Pirate , gorgeous , sexykiss , P'Gell , Jaimes , unfulfilled , Deeder , AliMc , amazon , pinkpottergirl , debo , Asstronaut , SadoMas , pyratess , snowyslut , cj89 , earthmama
20  (34%)
Receiver
Nazaress , amandaco2011 , switzerland , Tagmstr , Marcianpro , Mwar , butts , ginainohio , Ayogirl230 , KinkyKatieJames , Kallina , Chastity Darling , luv 2 sex , Septimus , never shy
15  (25%)
Balanced
TameTemptress , Stinkytofu10 , samanthalynn , ejrbrndps , pootpootpoot , kawigrl , mpfm , gsfanatic , mjtheprincess , Peggi , Howells , potstickers , Mitzuki , Sir , AU , stlouisxxx , roskat , Geography , Roshandala , twelve13 , HannahPanda , BlackCherry , redwolf , DreezzyyBabyy
24  (41%)
Don't do back rubs
Total votes: 59
Poll is closed
02/17/2012
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Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I am the receiver. It's not because I don't want to give my boyfriend back rubs. He just doesn't really like them. Plus, I NEED them. Periodically, he pushes on my back and rubs it in various spots. It's not actually pleasant, usually. But he does it because it helps with my chronic back pain. I'm only 22 and I live daily with pain that makes it hard to simply bend over and pick up a pencil or something without hurting.
02/17/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I am the receiver. It's not because I don't want to give my boyfriend back rubs. He just doesn't really like them. Plus, I NEED them. Periodically, he pushes on my back and rubs it in various spots. It's not actually pleasant, ... more
oi that can't be good. Have you seen a doctor?
02/17/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
oi that can't be good. Have you seen a doctor?
No, unfortunately not. I'm far too poor for that or else I'd have gone years ago for my chronic anemia, as well. Lol. I'm basically a wreck.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Are you more likely to give or receive a back rub in your relationship?
I am more likely to give but I have a realy bad nerve problem in my back that gets so bad that I cannot walk if certain muscles are manipulated and relaxed. Both of my guys have seen the effects and are understandably gun shy about doing a full back massage. Now leg, hand and arms they will do and I am so grateful!
02/17/2012
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
Boyfriend gives great back rubs.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I do probably 90-95% of them. I guess that's the perk to dating a professional massage therapist.
02/17/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
he ALWAYS rubs my back! and i mean always. no matter where, who, what, when. his hands are always touching me.

no complaining here.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Tagmstr Tagmstr
I always get them. My back is normally hurting from plumbing and lifting a lot.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I rub her she rubs me, we both enjoy each other's massages.
02/17/2012
Contributor: ECU Pirate ECU Pirate
I rub her back more often, but if I ever ask for one she 99% of the time will be sweet enough to.
02/18/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Are you more likely to give or receive a back rub in your relationship?
Balanced
02/26/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
It's balanced, but for unfortunate reasons! I suck at giving back rubs, and also don't like receiving them, so they just don't happen very often. I do love having my back stroked though, so if that counts then it's very unbalanced
04/01/2012
Contributor: Marcianpro Marcianpro
I'm a receiver! My guy is a massage therapiest
04/07/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
my gf makes me give her a massage before sex. idk why she loves it i guess
06/17/2012
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
was somewhat balanced
06/17/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I give way more than I get! Part of it is Service, which I don't mind.

Part of it is he's always asking for back rubs, I mean, every day, several times a day. If he sees me sitting watching TV in the evening, he'll position himself in front of me so I can massage his back and neck with my feet. He begs for them morning and night. OK, he doesn't "beg" he just moans and says, "OMG, could you rub my back?" Then, he usually falls asleep.

When I want a back rub, and end up getting one, it nearly always results in sex. He can't seem to rub me without getting turned on. Not that I mid.
06/17/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I give way more than I get! Part of it is Service, which I don't mind.

Part of it is he's always asking for back rubs, I mean, every day, several times a day. If he sees me sitting watching TV in the evening, he'll position ... more
this sounds familiar. I get big hints about giving a backrub if I am ever nearby with a hand to spare. And then I do often try to progress into sex after that lol.
06/18/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
We're pretty balanced, depends more on who is stressed at the time
06/19/2012
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I think he likes everything about massages more than me though...he's obsessed!
06/20/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I';m usually the giver, but I receive them sometimes.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
My husband turns into a purring kitten when he gets his back rubbed. I do it all the time. It recharges his batteries when he gets any sort of back attention, and because of the physical size difference between us, it's like I'm Calvin curling up to his big tiger. I occasionally get back rubs, but I'm okay with the imbalance of back attention. It makes him so much happier than it does me.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I end up receiving more. I'd say it's about a 3:1 ratio.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
Depending on my mood, I would say fairly balanced, with me receiving more. I do sometimes become uncomfortable with receiving them just because of the positioning.
06/22/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
Generally the giver. I'm the kind of person who feels obligated to do something if asked, and (as much as I love backrubs) whenever my hubby gives me one it's only for a minute or two.
06/22/2012
Contributor: AliMc AliMc
I'd like to say it's balanced between us but I'm usually the giver.
06/22/2012
Contributor: butts butts
My boyfriend loves giving them, he doesn't often ask for them back, even if I offer. Back pain runs in my family though, he doesn't seem to have that issue. His SHOULDERS though, I do try to give him periodic neck/shoulder rubs, he gets knots like crazy from stress.
06/22/2012
Contributor: AU AU
I'm terrible at them and have famously weak hands, so I started doing this more to get better. It's become such a habit that we do this more than other common signs of affection like hugging or kissing--but it's still maybe a once to thrice a day thing. I may do it a little more often than my partner. He has really strong hands and has to be careful!!
06/22/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I'm a great receiver, and while I try, I can never replicate the feeling
06/22/2012
Contributor: debo debo
I give them to him more often but he will give me one if I ask. I just love to touch him!
09/04/2012