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Would it bother you to have a young-looking partner?

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Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I worry about this from time to time. I'm a 22 year-old who is routinely mistaken for a high schooler, sometimes as young as 14. I think I look very pretty, but very few guys show any interest in me - and half of those that do are usually total creepers. I wonder if it has to do with my younger appearance.

Would it bother you to have a partner who looked young, even if they were of a legal age?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No, it wouldn't bother me.
42
Maybe a bit, but I'd get over it.
17
Yeah, I might have some trouble with it.
6
Couldn't do it, sorry.
1
I actually prefer younger-looking types.
3
I'm not really sure.
2
I look quite young myself.
16
Other.
1
Total votes: 88 (68 voters)
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I asked my Master that once, as people commonly mistake me for being fifteen years younger than I am (aka Barely Old Enough to Drink). He didn't have a problem with it at all and likes my 'freshness' but also likes that I'm not naive.

I often don't get approached by guys - it's usually when out shopping or in my college classes or whatever. People get funny looks on their faces when I tell them I was once married for ten years. Telling them I'm 34 makes for some very interesting facial expressions.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I asked my Master that once, as people commonly mistake me for being fifteen years younger than I am (aka Barely Old Enough to Drink). He didn't have a problem with it at all and likes my 'freshness' but also likes that I'm not ... more
At least you look old enough to drink. I can just about look my age if I dress just right, but it doesn't always work and my most comfortable outfits (involving tying my hair back and wearing looser shirts) make me look younger.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
At least you look old enough to drink. I can just about look my age if I dress just right, but it doesn't always work and my most comfortable outfits (involving tying my hair back and wearing looser shirts) make me look younger.
Some of my guy friends complain about looking too young, so they grow facial hair. We ... just don't have an option like that. So we have to dress 'older'.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Some of my guy friends complain about looking too young, so they grow facial hair. We ... just don't have an option like that. So we have to dress 'older'.
... Never thought I'd feel envious of the bearded lady. (No offense to any actual bearded ladies, of course!)
01/07/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
people very commonly mistakes me for 16, or around there. it's highly annoying - especially in the working world. i definitely feel that it is why some men look right past me. my boyfriend doesn't seem to have a problem though - maybe because he took the time to get to know me. i guess the guys that look past looks and age are the ones that are worth it.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by switzerland
people very commonly mistakes me for 16, or around there. it's highly annoying - especially in the working world. i definitely feel that it is why some men look right past me. my boyfriend doesn't seem to have a problem though - maybe because ... more
Indeed. I'm happy you have a boyfriend like that.

Ironically, fewer people guess me at being under 18 when I'm on the job. Since I work with live animals, I'd have to be at least 18 anyway, and most people are aware of that. It still happens from time to time, though.
01/07/2012
Contributor: EvilHomer EvilHomer
A qualified no.

I would not care if my existing partner appeared younger, but it might be a barrier to getting with them (assuming they were younger and not approaching them.)
01/07/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
Since my SO is almost 16 years younger than I am...I have to say no, not at all *lol*
01/07/2012
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'm 7 years younger than my guy, but he looks pretty young. I dress pretty young, so we get harassed a lot, and then we both laugh about it.
01/07/2012
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
I don't give a damn, as I like them looking youthful. My current partner, however, is 26 and looks like he's 18 or so.
01/07/2012
Contributor: LadyEarlGrey LadyEarlGrey
I often hear I look very young. It use to bother me but as I get older it isn't so bad. I have had a few issues working in schools. High school for the most part is really hard because a lot of the students and staff mistake me for a student. My husband isn't bothered by it at all.
01/07/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend is 23 and people sometimes say he looks 18 or 19. It doesn't matter to me. He doesn't look underage, and I'm only 21 anyways. If he looked like he was 14 I wouldn't be attracted to him. Even when I was 14 I was attracted to men in their 20's, and had no interest in other 14 year olds.
01/08/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I frequently hear that I look AND sound young. At the doctors office the other day, the nurse commented: "OH! Your file says you're 25..that has to be a mistake. You don't look a day over 17!" ..she continued to go on about how young I apparently look. ..That was annoying. More annoying is when telemarketers call me and ask "can I speak to your mom?" -- which used to happen ALL the time, but hasn't happened lately.


That said, I've never had anyone tell me that I look (or sound) too young to date.
01/08/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I worry about this from time to time. I'm a 22 year-old who is routinely mistaken for a high schooler, sometimes as young as 14. I think I look very pretty, but very few guys show any interest in me - and half of those that do are usually total ... more
I'm 2 years older than my fiance &she gets carded all the time &I never do. She doesn't look her age at all but it doesn't bother me
01/08/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
We both look quite young It doesn't bother either of us.
01/08/2012
Contributor: chibi1091 chibi1091
I don't think that's a problem....sorry though .
01/08/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
It wouldn't bother me. Look on the bright side, this is not a bad thing, you will appreciate it more and more the older you get!
01/08/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
my husband is younger than me, not really noticeable we both look young for our ages
01/08/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by MrWishyWashy
It wouldn't bother me. Look on the bright side, this is not a bad thing, you will appreciate it more and more the older you get!
I hear that a lot, and while I know it's true, it doesn't make it any easier to keep getting mistaken for a child now.
01/08/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
I guess it would depend on how young he looked. But I do appreciate a manly look.
01/08/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I worry about this from time to time. I'm a 22 year-old who is routinely mistaken for a high schooler, sometimes as young as 14. I think I look very pretty, but very few guys show any interest in me - and half of those that do are usually total ... more
well I look 18-20 but sum think i look younger my boyfriend is 43 and I'm 24
01/10/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
depends how young...lol
01/11/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Maybe a little, but I'd probably get over it if they were say 20 and looked like they were in their late teens. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't be with them.
01/11/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I'm with everyone else, I guess it depends on how young they look.
04/29/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i do notthink it would bother me
04/29/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Doesn't bother me. It did take some getting used to at first, but I was mostly attracted to her because she was a history nerd, so I adapted (I'm a slow changing person).
04/29/2012
Contributor: pitona pitona
it wouldn't bother me one bit. People will always stare but this shouldn't change how you feel about a person.
05/02/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by SMichelle
I frequently hear that I look AND sound young. At the doctors office the other day, the nurse commented: "OH! Your file says you're 25..that has to be a mistake. You don't look a day over 17!" ..she continued to go on about how ... more
LOL when a telemarketer calls and asks to speak to my Mom I give them her number...cause I'm nice like that!
My life partner is 27 and I am 41. As long as I have my hair colored and styled properly everyone assumes we are married since I wear a very large and showy ring...and we have a son who is old enough now to call us Mommy and Daddy.
He has a very short hair cut that befits a security guard but when his hair was down to the middle of his very long back we got some odd looks...then again he is this 6 foot built guy and I am a 5 foot rubenesque woman....could be the age question was not even on anyone's mind!
05/02/2012
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I guess it would depend on how young they looked. If they really looked like they were in their early to mid teens I think that might be a little weird for me. I've never been in that situation, though, so I don't really know for sure how I'd handle it.
05/02/2012