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Women, do you really expect guys to buy you drinks?

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Contributor: authorzero authorzero
We've all been told that buying drinks is the best way to break the ice. The girl gets a free drink, and the guy gets the girl's attention, but does this really work? Do you actually use this as an ice breaker, or do you take the drink and run?

It seems to me that in 2011 the "aren't you going to buy me a drink?" tactic is outdated, and any girl that automatically expects a drink from me is probably someone I don't want anything to do with; long-term or for a night.
12/09/2011
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
When I was younger, we called it 'cheap-skate whoring'. Prostitutes got paid more for the same services the guys were expecting from the girls at the bar while only paying for an over-priced drink.

It's fallen out of disfavor because of that reason.

Good for you for not buying into a cliche.
12/09/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I don't expect it, but I don't turn the drinks down. I never go to a bar expecting others to buy me drinks, so it doesn't leave me in a situation asking or denying company to get free drinks. If I am at a bar with my girlfriends or with a group I usually do get free drink offers, so it definitely isn't a dead tradition.
12/09/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I don't expect it, but I don't turn the drinks down. I never go to a bar expecting others to buy me drinks, so it doesn't leave me in a situation asking or denying company to get free drinks. If I am at a bar with my girlfriends or with a group I usually do get free drink offers, so it definitely isn't a dead tradition.
12/09/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
When I was younger, we called it 'cheap-skate whoring'. Prostitutes got paid more for the same services the guys were expecting from the girls at the bar while only paying for an over-priced drink.

It's fallen out of disfavor ... more
i don't go to bars nor do i drink. pretty sure everyone's meeting on facebook these days.
12/09/2011
Contributor: clp clp
^ I'm not on facebook.

I usually DO turn drinks down, unless the person asking is my date that I came to the bar with beforehand. I probably won't ever trust strangers enough to take a drink blindly. I usually avoid this upfront by offering the guy a drink first--guys are hardly ever asked and its a pretty clear way to signal interest. Some guys don't like it, of course, seeing it as a question of manhood but that's good for me, as it clears the closed-minds out upfront.
12/09/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Do you pay when you take a girl out on a date? I guess I wouldn't expect a guy to buy a drink for me, and it isn't the pass in the door, but I do expect a man to pick up the tab on dates. I'm old fashioned I guess!
12/10/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
Um this is kind of an unfair generalization that all women are pretty much free loaders. I don't mind when someone buys me a drink, and of course I'll stick around to at least talk, but I can pay for my own drinks (and food).

and just so you know, I know men that buy women drinks just so they can get into their pants (or so they think that's how it works). so the using goes both ways.
12/10/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
When in Rome.

You go to places where this is the norm, you're going to look like a cheapskate ass if you try to "enlighten" everyone.

You go to places where it's not, you look like an ass for trying to be a chauvinistic pig and trying to buy a chick with a drink.


But in the end, it's a bar. Maybe I'm not old-fashioned enough, but I don't expect a deep relationship based on intellectual stimulation to occur at a bar. Sure, it can happen, but at least where I live most people are just looking for temporary fun.
12/10/2011