I was married for 14 years to a man that, although girth and sheer size lacked none to par, was very selfish in bed. Along with other things I will not dive into here, he and I were not compatible to say the very least. I was only 19, fresh out of high school, when I met him. He was 10 years older and I was in a new state 10 hours from my home town.
Young and naive, I knew very little about my body and what I liked and long story short we decided to split. At the age of 30, I was thrown out into the world with nothing to show for it except a strong will to survive and a lot more knowledge of the type of relationship I never wanted to be part of again.
I now know, without a doubt in my mind, that I do not want to be tied down to another jealous lover and tormented by the jealous behavior which left me in solitude for many years without a single friend and without any time away to just have fun and enjoy life. That being said, I also know that I am still learning how to be an adult and take care of things like finances and taxes. The things he took care of and I didn't know how to do, after all, I was a stay at home mom and a master of household chores.
The things that I found myself oblivious to have bit me in the ass. Financially I have had a hard time digging myself out of this hole I was left in without some kind of support and monetary compensation a partner would usually help with. So I asked myself, "how can I get the help I need, without losing my individuality and self sufficiency", I had found for the first time in my life.
This is where the SD and SB arrangement relationship comes into play. I had always kind of looked down per say at that type of thing. Everyone seemed to consider it a taboo and unorthodox way of life or means to financial stability. But this time around, instead of being so critical of something I didnt know anything about, I found myself quite curious of this mysterious lifestyle and wondered how well the benefits outweighed the shame.
I joined a few of the SB dating sites where you basically post your picture and bio online for the wealthy men to browse through and if they found interest in you, they would send you a message about the possibilities of meeting and foregoing this conquest.
A lot of the men were very straight forward and schooled on the ways of the SD . Like, it seemed for most, this was surely not their first rodeo , nor would it be their last. Instead of flirting and being nervous constantly wondering what the other was thinking or what the other was really wanting , the first convos are mainly to make some sort of deal regarding how , when, allowance, needs and degree of attachment. Dos and Don't and raw understanding of how this was going to play out and that was that. It was like signing a contract for a job you bid for and ironing out the details so everyone is happy.
When I sat back and thought of it, I realized how this was exactly like a normal bf / gf or husband/ wife relationship... minus the feelings, attachments, jealousy, love, uncertainty, among other emotional aspects that were understood to be left at the door and understood that this was best for both parties. Once agreed upon the first date is made for meeting. I won't say if I did or didn't partake in the steps that follow, that is my business alone and no one else has the right to judge me either way I chose. But I would like to know what your stance is regarding this relationship of sorts. Have you ever been involved on either side of this arrangement before? Or know someone who has?? And do you think its okay to do this or is this something that should not be accepted among us in our society ?? I would love to hear what you think please take time to respond to me. I Promise I will read every comment and try to respond accordingly. Stay sweet SUGAR babies or not
Young and naive, I knew very little about my body and what I liked and long story short we decided to split. At the age of 30, I was thrown out into the world with nothing to show for it except a strong will to survive and a lot more knowledge of the type of relationship I never wanted to be part of again.
I now know, without a doubt in my mind, that I do not want to be tied down to another jealous lover and tormented by the jealous behavior which left me in solitude for many years without a single friend and without any time away to just have fun and enjoy life. That being said, I also know that I am still learning how to be an adult and take care of things like finances and taxes. The things he took care of and I didn't know how to do, after all, I was a stay at home mom and a master of household chores.
The things that I found myself oblivious to have bit me in the ass. Financially I have had a hard time digging myself out of this hole I was left in without some kind of support and monetary compensation a partner would usually help with. So I asked myself, "how can I get the help I need, without losing my individuality and self sufficiency", I had found for the first time in my life.
This is where the SD and SB arrangement relationship comes into play. I had always kind of looked down per say at that type of thing. Everyone seemed to consider it a taboo and unorthodox way of life or means to financial stability. But this time around, instead of being so critical of something I didnt know anything about, I found myself quite curious of this mysterious lifestyle and wondered how well the benefits outweighed the shame.
I joined a few of the SB dating sites where you basically post your picture and bio online for the wealthy men to browse through and if they found interest in you, they would send you a message about the possibilities of meeting and foregoing this conquest.
A lot of the men were very straight forward and schooled on the ways of the SD . Like, it seemed for most, this was surely not their first rodeo , nor would it be their last. Instead of flirting and being nervous constantly wondering what the other was thinking or what the other was really wanting , the first convos are mainly to make some sort of deal regarding how , when, allowance, needs and degree of attachment. Dos and Don't and raw understanding of how this was going to play out and that was that. It was like signing a contract for a job you bid for and ironing out the details so everyone is happy.
When I sat back and thought of it, I realized how this was exactly like a normal bf / gf or husband/ wife relationship... minus the feelings, attachments, jealousy, love, uncertainty, among other emotional aspects that were understood to be left at the door and understood that this was best for both parties. Once agreed upon the first date is made for meeting. I won't say if I did or didn't partake in the steps that follow, that is my business alone and no one else has the right to judge me either way I chose. But I would like to know what your stance is regarding this relationship of sorts. Have you ever been involved on either side of this arrangement before? Or know someone who has?? And do you think its okay to do this or is this something that should not be accepted among us in our society ?? I would love to hear what you think please take time to respond to me. I Promise I will read every comment and try to respond accordingly. Stay sweet SUGAR babies or not
