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Contributor: CSEA CSEA
Please I need advice or recommendations something to keep my relationship having a sex life!!!


My boyfriend and I are finishing school and therefore both still live with our families. In the past, we would go over his house at night to have sex. Time to time, he would cover my mouth or throw me a pillow because I was too loud. This is true and his parents would complain or comment by explaining that this type of behavior was disrespectful to those in the house who are sleeping, not to let it happen again. Well lately he hasnt been inviting me over and I was wondering why. Well, he told me. He says I'm too loud and I'm going to get him thrown out of the house. That I am looking bad and we are getting into trouble for no reason, not to add fire to the flame. I try and try to be quiet but I do not know how! I've held it in and there are times were it is uncontrollable. I want him and his family happy and that they continue to like me while still having some sort of sex life! Pleaseeeeee, give me options, advice, steps on things I can practice or do to be quiet!!!!
04/18/2012
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I had to get an actual gag because I am loud too sometimes
04/18/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Go over when his parents are not there or find another place ?
04/18/2012
Contributor: nanamondoute nanamondoute
Could you do it in your house? Would your parents mind as much?
04/18/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Cars, parks, hotel rooms, friends places...there are opportunities, you just have to be creative.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
As suggested - find someplace else.

My family laid down the law when I was a teenager: I was not to have sex in their house. Ever. Even now in my mid-30's. You learn to find other places and not give up just because it's inconvenient.

(Although I did my lose my virginity at home with my best guy friend, but my parents weren't there and didn't know.)
04/18/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Ansley
Cars, parks, hotel rooms, friends places...there are opportunities, you just have to be creative.
I agree. I think it's disrespectful to have sex in ones' parent's house. (This is coming from a parent with two sexually active adult children and one who was sexually active myself when I lived in my parents' house.) Our children were NOT allowed to have sex in our home when they lived here. Neither My Man nor I were allowed to have sex in our parent's homes while we lived with our own parents.

It's common courtesy to respect the rules of the person who OWNS the home.

There are places to have sex. Your place, if it is allowed. Hotel rooms are always available, and often by the hour, hell, I've had sex in cars when I was younger, because having sex at either my home or the dude's house was out of the question.

I understand your frustration, but I know I would not allow my kids to have sex in our house. It's rude and disrespectful, not to mention embarrassing, especially if everyone knows what you are doing.

I'm loud so before My Man and I had our own place (and years ago when I had other lovers) we simply had to get creative when it came to where to make love.

I know needing a place for us to be alone was on of the many reasons My Man did get his own place shortly after we started dating. That, and he knew he was getting too old to live with his parents, even though he was paying rent. Even with that, we still respected his parents and didn't have sex in their home. (At least while they were home, and his mother was almost always at home.)
04/18/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Go to a park where there's several miles of hiking area, find a secluded road out in the boonies that noone travels and park, go to a motel-hotel, ask a friend if you can use their house. Buy a small ball gag that forces you to keep your mouth shut.
04/18/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
Go to a park where there's several miles of hiking area, find a secluded road out in the boonies that noone travels and park, go to a motel-hotel, ask a friend if you can use their house. Buy a small ball gag that forces you to keep your mouth shut.
I agree with everything but the gag. You can still make a LOT of noise with a gag.
04/18/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
If all else fails, have sex in one of your cars.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I agree. I think it's disrespectful to have sex in ones' parent's house. (This is coming from a parent with two sexually active adult children and one who was sexually active myself when I lived in my parents' house.) Our children ... more
Right! My mother refused to allow us to even spend the night together, let alone have sex together in her home and I was in my late 20's. I understand her point of view and I didn't want to disrespect her.

Though I wonder how mortified she would have been if we'd ever been arrested during one of our trysts by the pool after it was closed. It might have led to an "ok fine, you can have sex here but only if I'm dead asleep and you're extremely quiet". Hahaha
04/18/2012
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
How much longer do you have until you're out of school?

I have to agree, I'd certainly not want to hear my (nonexistant) kid's sex noises in my own house. I'd suggest either taking turns paying for a hotel room now and then, making good use of one of your cars, or maybe looking into a way to pay for an apartment for one of you, if possible. Free rent from the parents is awesome, but unfortunately it comes with certain trade-offs when it comes to freedom.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Raigne Raigne
After reading everyone's posts, I feel kind of out of place here. My mother had a few very bad experiences when she was a teenager, and as soon as I hit puberty she told me if I wanted to have sex, bring the guy home, don't go to a hotel. She said she'd buy me condoms and go out for a few hours. She wanted to make sure if I was going to do it, I was safe. That being said, if I was being loud at night that would have been a problem.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by Raigne
After reading everyone's posts, I feel kind of out of place here. My mother had a few very bad experiences when she was a teenager, and as soon as I hit puberty she told me if I wanted to have sex, bring the guy home, don't go to a hotel. She ... more
I don't think every parent objects to their child having sex in their house. The general understanding in my home was that I could have someone sleep over if I wanted to, but being discreet and quiet was mandatory.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Calla Calla
Me and my boyfriend also both live at home until we graduate from college next year. We only have sex at my house when my parents are not home because I don't feel comfortable with the possibility of them hearing or knowing what we're up to. We have sex at his house when his Pattens are home and asleep because his room is in the basement and they're 2 floors away. If I did think that they might hear us I would not feel comfortable having sex with them home. I would feel incredibly awkward if I knew they had heard me, so it wouldn't be worth it.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Hiking trails are a girl's best friend.
04/19/2012
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I agree. I think it's disrespectful to have sex in ones' parent's house. (This is coming from a parent with two sexually active adult children and one who was sexually active myself when I lived in my parents' house.) Our children ... more
While I agree that she should respect their rules, not everyone feels the same about this. Some people would rather their children have sex at home, for instance, than in the back of a car. I would personally duct tape my mouth shut before having sex in a car, but I suspect most people wouldn't.

I guess I wasn't sure if the issue was the noise or the sex itself.
05/09/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I'd go with either wait until they're gone or find alternative places. A lot of places have cheap hotel rooms, and you can work out a few weeks worth of stress.
05/09/2012
Contributor: hro789 hro789
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Originally posted by CSEA
Please I need advice or recommendations something to keep my relationship having a sex life!!!


My boyfriend and I are finishing school and therefore both still live with our families. In the past, we would go over his house at night to ... more
I would suggest finding a place by yourselves (ie house sitting or parents not at home) the gag might not work if your as loud as my gf at times, i have tried duck tape over my gf mouth as a suppressor(seems to work decently at least in my case) and adds a little bdsm to the bedroom to spice things up.
05/14/2012