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Proposing to a male partner [with a sex toy]

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Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
My fiance and I got engaged at the end of last summer, but because he's in the military and we could not foresee a possible time in the future to actually come together and get married, we cooled things down a lot. Very recently things came together and we're getting married this fall, though we had talked about him proposing to me again (why exactly I am not sure, it was his idea).

But now, I'm secretly really wanting to propose to him with a metal cock ring. I know there are others on here who have proposed to their male partners, some even with a cock ring. But anyway, I'm just needing some advice as I don't really know how I should go about it.

-I know that I don't want to go down on one knee and truly fulfill the stereotypical male role in a proposal.

-I don't want it to be sexual, though I am proposing to him with a sex object.

-I don't want to possibly embarrass either of us, so if it is in a public space I want us to be alone.

Any stories/advice/tips/su ggestions you can give would be great.
04/29/2010
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Lithaewyn
My fiance and I got engaged at the end of last summer, but because he's in the military and we could not foresee a possible time in the future to actually come together and get married, we cooled things down a lot. Very recently things came ... more
It is hard to make this un-sexual lol.

I would say something like that you are promising to give yourself to him for life if he does the same for you.

I gave my bf a promise ring because I actually think it makes more sense for the girl to promise to say yes, than for the guy to promise to ask in the first place.

It is a cute idea and I wish the best for you. But, if it were me...I'd let him propose again
04/29/2010
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
It is hard to make this un-sexual lol.

I would say something like that you are promising to give yourself to him for life if he does the same for you.

I gave my bf a promise ring because I actually think it makes more sense for the girl ... more
I would say something like that you are promising to give yourself to him for life if he does the same for you.

Of course it's sexual, but I guess what I mean is not making it overtly sexual, like how "making love" can be considered a passionate act versus something "dirty". But I like how you put that. We are both monogamous and so actually it has a lot of meaning, especially with troubles that we have faced in the past.

At this point, there's no sense in a promise ring since we're getting married shortly. I will be buying his ring in June when I see him again.

I suppose this is just me wanting to do something similar in return, and as I said it would mean a lot. And I can't work out the technicalities of him proposing to me again, since I'm wearing my engagement ring and have the band too. I suppose he could propose without it or I could give it back to him temporarily, but that totally ruins the surprise.
04/29/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Lithaewyn
I would say something like that you are promising to give yourself to him for life if he does the same for you.

Of course it's sexual, but I guess what I mean is not making it overtly sexual, like how "making love" can be ... more
You could write out what you are feeling, which would give you time to say EXACTLY what you feel. Then either present him the written message in a card with the ring in a pretty box or use it as the jumping off point of an intimate talk. Maybe have a nice dinner and then sit beside him (so you aren't kneeling, which could seem a bit tacky given the type of ring you are giving him). If you have an engraving tool and metal ring you could engrave a lovely message on it to sort of make it more special.

This is actually a lovely idea and thoughtful gesture. He's a lucky man
04/29/2010