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Contributor: mtlm39 mtlm39
... a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, laughed and told me. "No one calls it 'making love' anymore."

So has any man ever said it to you? I admit I've used it a few times in the heat of the moment.
Is it just semantics to say %&*$# or making love? Is there a difference between how you %&*$# someone and how you would 'make love' to them?
Opinions ladies, pls!!!!
12/25/2011
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Contributor: Subbi Subbi
Quote:
Originally posted by mtlm39
... a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, ... more
To me it sounds kinda funny to hear it that way. My guy NEVER says make love....I think I would laugh a bit if he did!
12/25/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I tend to know poetic types that would, so it wouldn't faze me in the least. It all leads to the same thing.
12/25/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I don't find anything wrong with using the term 'making love', it's just a more loving and romantic way to say it.

By the way, please email Kristi at kristi@edenfantasys.c om and ask her to remove your doubled post, or else it'll be flagged.
12/25/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I don't personally like it, but I'm more of a kinky type. That would be a quick way to throw me out of the mood. Maybe once every four or five years it would be the right thing to say. *shrug*
12/25/2011
Contributor: prttynink prttynink
It kind of comes off as though you're trying to hard to be charming and romantic. Which is unfortunate, because it really is a cute, infrequently used phrase.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
It really depends on context and the person.

Affected modes of speech are like crazy hats - you can pull them off with the right charisma.
01/02/2012
Contributor: CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
I find it cheesy beyond belief.
01/02/2012
Contributor: mtlm39 mtlm39
Thanks for the replies everyone, very interesting! Conversely. Do you ever ask your partner to...
"Make love to me"?
01/04/2012
Contributor: Holly Hox Holly Hox
I hate it. It turns me off 110%. I prefer just "have sex" honestly. And f#ck if the mood is right.
01/04/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I might not be the right person to post here, but I figure I'd offer my input anyway.

I don't find it cheesy at all, and I do find myself saying to my girlfriend, "Make love to me, please." Always please, because a good subbie always says please. -^^-

I find to be more connection-y.
01/04/2012
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
For me it's cheesey but I like things on the far kinkier, edgier, side. In most of my relationships, my partner usually asks permission to touch me, eat me, fuck me, etc. but that's just my personality and typical dynamic.
01/04/2012
Contributor: LoveTies LoveTies
Quote:
Originally posted by mtlm39
... a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, ... more
I think it's cute sometimes, other times cheesy.. really depends on the context I think lol
01/04/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
There are so many ways to say it. My Man and I use "Make love" "fuck" "screw" "Do it" and everything in between. He gets silly and says things like "I wanna... ya know, hump you."

As long as both partners are happy with the words, I don't see any problem with "make love." I guess there should be some love involved to use this phrase, but I don't think it's necessary. I love My Man, so it isn't a problem.
01/04/2012
Contributor: mtlm39 mtlm39
OK, good answers! As a followup...Do you think it's possible to 'make love' anally? My old girlfriend said no, as it's considered a more raunchy act. She's fairly traditional (missionary,etc...) so wouldn't go there at all. What do you think? Thanks!!!
01/28/2012
Contributor: Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
I think it probably depends on the situation and who's saying it.
01/28/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by mtlm39
... a man says, " I want to make love to you."?

At my work Christmas party a few nights ago, I was semi-drunkenly discussing seduction techniques with a few female co-workers. When I mentioned the phrase, they looked at eachother, ... more
It would depend on the man, the situation/mood, and the tone and way in which it's said but with the right conditions met it could be pretty arousing to hear it worded like that.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
It's not my favorite phrase, but hell, if it gets me from point A to point B, then we can call it whatever we like.
01/31/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
I used to actually like the phrase, until watching some ridiculous soap opera with my mother some years back where this silly air-headed girl and her boyfriend had finally done the act and she kept simpering at him and asking him to make love to her again. Talk about turning something romantic into an utter turn-off.

My husband still uses it though, and I'm good with that, since it's my own damn hangup and doesn't change the meaning behind his words. He's very sensual, so it comes off just as intended rather than being cheesy.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
It would depend on the precise context and how it was said, but generally speaking it sounds pretty cheesy to me. That might be because "making love" was the #1 euphemism for sex that I would hear growing up. It was all over the place on television. Never knew it had gone out of style.

Way worse is the phrase "prove my love to you." That just sounds really messed up to me.
01/31/2012