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If your partner asked another person for nudes?

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Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one ... more
What do you mean "makes you". This sounds like D/s. If you have no safe word, it does not sound like a safe relationship
05/23/2011
Contributor: AOutrajus AOutrajus
i would be really mad...i wouldn't leave him. but if he did it again id beat his butt. lol
05/23/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
Watching porn is one thing, but personally asking for nude pics is another. If your relationship isn't built around being wild or open, than I would give him the boot. What else is he doing behind your back.
05/23/2011
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
All I'll say to this is 2 wongs don't make it right. If him looking at or asking for nude photos is out side your relationship agreement then it was wrong for him to look or ask. But it was wrong of you to look through his stuff without asking or having him there when you did it. It sounds to me like you 2 have bigger issues to deal with than some nude photos. Something like Trust issues.
05/24/2011
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one ... more
If I'm reading you right. It sounds like he is a control freak. Am I right? I can say that at times I am one as well but those types of actions are way over the line. Check your accounts? Do you mean bank accounts?
05/24/2011
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
Quote:
Originally posted by Vegan Silk
What do you mean "makes you". This sounds like D/s. If you have no safe word, it does not sound like a safe relationship
I don't think they are in BDSM type relationship...sounds more like a bad lifetime movie relationship. You know where someone gets dead.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
The choices here are so extreme. Get even? Forgive immediately? Leave the person? Personally, I would probably get aggravated and then confront them about it and tell them that I don't appreciate that behavior.
05/24/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I would be super upset with him, but I also wouldn't be dating somebody that read through all of my social interactions online.

Where's the option for you to get some more self-respect? That would help every aspect of your life.
05/26/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
If I don't switch the perspective only to think I did this and you found out: It wouldn't be much of a concern because it goes into the same category as porn. For me.

But if I changed the perspective and I caught my gf asking for nude pics from a guy online I'd be pretty pissed off.. I'd forgive her rather than leaving her instantly but my trust would be damaged after that.

It happened to me one time with my ex, she wasn't requesting nudes (that I know of) but she chat with him with WEBCAM while I was at her place. Turned out she had a kind of a soul mate from another country.. They've met since then but we already broke up.
05/26/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ... more
i would have had to consider the relationship. even out of boredom, asking another girl for nude pics isn't cool. i would constantly be wondering why he wasn't happy w/ just seeing me naked or watching regular porn after that.
05/29/2011
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
dead an explanation and it isnt good enough then fuck them, how could/dare they
10/02/2012
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I wouldn't be comfortable looking for info on my partner's computer and wouldn't be okay with them checking up on me like that. If I felt I couldn't trust my partner then I wouldn't want to be with them.
10/02/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
Honestly I would freak the fuck out!
10/12/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ... more
As usual, I am the odd girl out. I think this is cheating. Pure and simple. I have one simple policy about cheating. One strike, you`re out. Period. End of discussion.

With that as my "hard limit", life has been very clear for us both.

He has never cheated and I make sure he never wants or needs to!!! (the responsibility for keeping cheating and sexual boredom out of a relationship cuts both ways)!!!
10/12/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'd only get mad if I didn't shown the nudes, haha.
10/12/2012
Contributor: Wonderstruck Wonderstruck
My ex did stuff like that..that is why he is an ex.
10/12/2012
Contributor: SoloJoe SoloJoe
weve all made mistakes
10/12/2012
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Uhm, I'd be livid! No reason for him to ask someone else for naked pictures. So wrong. I'd definitely break up with someone over that.
10/12/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I wouldn't have been upset if I was looking at his personal information without his permission. In the past I would have been curious and after I had learned about my partners cheating ways I would have been pissed but I never went looking for ... more
Mostly this. At the same time, if I had found that out I would have asked for better communication about fantasies.
10/12/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I doubt I'd be pissed. I can't really see this as any different than looking at porn, being at a strip club, or watching a cam girl. It would matter what else is in that inbox.
10/12/2012
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
anything that has to do with jealousy or disclosure, all depends on the boundaries that have already been set in the relationship.

if it had not been discussed, nude pics are something that should obviously brought up before doing that
10/12/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Your bf needs to use incogontio mode lol
10/12/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
I would have been rather upset, asked for an apology and asked them to understand that I feel that this is cheating. I'd want for this to never happen again, it does equate to cheating in my mind.
10/12/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Myyearbook. Boy I thought I was the only one on there. That is messed up I would probably be heated as all hell. I don't think it is right bored or not.
10/12/2012
Contributor: Neotigress Neotigress
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ... more
For me, being in a relationship is trust AND honesty.

That means respecting each other's privacy and being open about what we are doing and not sneaking around.

Every person builds their own relationship model and I realize that mine isn't yours.
10/12/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would be slow to forgive him. There's something else going on here that needs to be addressed.
04/22/2013
Contributor: Rokmai Rokmai
That's some pretty shady shit.

Sure, we're guys, and sometimes we're very stupid. But he's still actively going to this site and actively sending messages to another girl, to try and get her naked. Presumably it's not the first time he's ever been to the site or contacted someone. If anything, he's at least shown that he'll put his own desires above the relationship.
04/22/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I wouldn't leave him, but that's crazy disrespectful to me. Possibly even more so if it was just 'out of boredom'.
04/22/2013
Contributor: Melan!e Melan!e
I'd be pretty upset. My partner is very monogamous so if he were to do something like that, it would break my heart. I don't know if I'd leave him for it but we'd have some serious talking to do and it wouldn't be very easy for me to forgive...
04/22/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I'd be unbelievably pissed..
04/23/2013