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How many is too many to date at once?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
We know a couple young folks dating multiple partners at once. In one case all of the "others" know they are a multiple. In another case, it is "don't ask, don't tell"...and no one of their dates likly knows there are "many" others.

How many others do you think it is okay to date at the SAME time ?(not all in the same date..of course).
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
1 other
2
MeliPixie , potstickers
2
3
Rocky LaFemme , playtimeohsofun
2
More? Explain
Sex'и'Violence , Ansley , P'Gell , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Airen Wolf , Pixel
6
Zero...you should ONLY date one person at a time!
MaryExy , married with children , Pixie5 , Ryuson , Dusk , Shellz31 , I'mNotYourToy , potstickers
8
Total votes: 18 (17 voters)
Poll is closed
07/14/2011
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Zero for me personally, though I don't care whether other people date more than one person at once.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
It depends how far into the relationship they are and how she feels about each of the partners but ultimately I think until it's been decided that she and a partner want to be mutually exclusive the only real limit should be based on her own ability to manage her time.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Echoing Sex'n'Violence.
07/14/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We know a couple young folks dating multiple partners at once. In one case all of the "others" know they are a multiple. In another case, it is "don't ask, don't tell"...and no one of their dates likly knows there are ... more
It depends on the person and the relationship. If you are in an exclusive relationship, then two people is too many. If you are single or in an open relationship then whatever you can handle without it turning into a sit com plot!

I've dated 3 guys in the same time period. It was a bit unnerving, (mostly because when one guy was over, my mother (who is crazy, I mean that literally) would suddenly say from the living room, "Oh, Hi, D. why don't come in?" when I was in the kitchen with R. Scared the crap out of me (even though D and I were in an Open Relationship, he didn't need to SEE me with an other man) and nobody was even there.

Did I mention she's nuts, my mother?
07/14/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
Personally, I would only date 1 person at a time. Since you asked how many it's okay to date, I think it's okay to date as many people as you want as long as everyone knows you're seeing other people.
07/14/2011
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
In the beginning, as many as my schedule and patience can accomodate. As things get more serious, the number decreases as I begin to focus on the one.
07/20/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I hate dating, so I never date more than one at once.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
For me, only one at a time.
But I guess if all parties know that they are in an open dating situation, then go for it.

It's just not my thing and I don't think I'd appreciate someone doing that to me. If they can't allow a few weeks (to just date me) to see if they are interested enough in me, then chow!
07/21/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Personally I only feel comfortable dating one at a time.
07/21/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
It's too many when you feel like it's too many. Emotionally, morally, whatever.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We know a couple young folks dating multiple partners at once. In one case all of the "others" know they are a multiple. In another case, it is "don't ask, don't tell"...and no one of their dates likly knows there are ... more
When the 'dating' starts to negatively impact your life then it's too much. For some that's more than one partner for others the number could be much higher. It becomes about time management and how quickly you handle adult processing.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I think that as long as you're capable of maintaining a healthy relationship with each, the number of partners you have shouldn't really matter. I'm currently dating two people seriously, as well as seeing two others in a more casual (but still a step or two above friends with benefits) way.
07/21/2011