Agree.

I am a firm believer that in every relationship in which you come to the conclusion that you are going to be "long term" enough to move in together, there's a "right time" but it's different for every relationship.

I think that's great advice, but everyone is different.

Funny...we STILL believe "living together" creates "false commitment and intimacy without legal or personal responsibility". Now our 21 year old daughter...a creature of the MODERN world, happens to feel the SAME WAY. She is waiting to say "I DO" later this year, before they move in together. We have friends, whose 20 something son and daughter feel the exact same way. VERY rare in this day and age, I suspect.

Wow..that would have been a tad more complicated.

We tell people the same...only not till the HONEYMOON PHASE is over...but the HONEYMOON.

A lot of couples who live together have TRUE intimacy and responsibility. My Man and I did end up living together before we got married, and honestly, the actual marriage ceremony was just a bump in the road. The relationship was EXACTLY the same before the wedding as it was after; committed, intimate and responsible.

Our oldest daughter has a similar relationship with her partner. They have no immediate plans to get married, but their commitment to each other is true and they are very responsible to each other.

I could list at least 50 other couples I know, all of whom lived together, who felt the same. Nearly every single one of my friends and every one of my older dd's friends have lived together in very dedicated and responsible relationships. But, I could name at least a few dozen married couples who didn't take their marriage seriously and were far from dedicated or responsible. If marriage equals "commitment and responsibility" then why do we have such a high divorce rate?

Just because someone hasn't said some words over you and handed you a "legal" piece of paper doesn't mean you and your partner are false and non-committed. I don't think the legality of getting married makes much of a difference in the relationship. Yes, it has legal and protective qualities, especially for the woman, but aside from that, being in love enough to want to live in the same place as a dedicated couple is the same whether someone has said some words around you or not.

This. totally agree especially concerning comfort level and honest conversations. I'm about to move in with my partner after dating for about a year. It's something we've seriously discussed and 'researched' (via friends, family) for several months.

I think it's different for every couple, no right answer

Depends on the couple and the situations. I started living with my current girlfriend after 11 months together, but we had been planning living together since about 5 months into the relationship.

i agree