Oh lord, I am with you on being the "worst liar".. I used to when I was a teenager (to my parents and such) and it was so obvious when I lied. I don't do it anymore because its just pointless (and wrong)lol

Yea, I agree. I wouldn't mind if he really did have a bad feeling and suspected something like say if someone had told him I'd been cheating and he was curious, but when I posted this I didn't mention that the people I know who have this go on is very often and he actually forced her down on my bed right in front of me and checked her! He holds her down and it almost got me angry to see him holding her down while she said stop and take her clothing off. Thankfully she stopped him quickly, but when they weren't split up she used to tell me about him doing it all the time! Now in that case, I'd flip! I have serious problems with being forced down and stripped. I mean, unless we're doing it for fun, but when it's serious it'll make me crazy.

Oh my. Bless your heart. I imagine that was highly upsetting to go through. Right, when there's no trust ever no matter how good the person has been, the relationship cannot be a healthy one. Sometimes I have weird freak spells where I've just been overly stressed and exhausted and sick like lately, I will be kind of weird about things and when my partner does something sometimes it'll register as him not caring and with being sick and exhausted and stressed on top of it I might get a tiny bit paranoid and think what if he's cheating! Lol. That happened the other day because I had all that going on and being sick and I had read about men cheating and how they'll ALWAYS do it and I just let myself freak out. Lol. It never gets serious though. Later he told me he loved me and only me and I said "Really! You promise, right?" Lol. We've always trusted each other though so when I actually got some rest things were different and I didn't feel so low anymore. Those small things, I understand, but I am not comfortable being held down and stripped, especially on more than one occasion. I'd flip! I haven't ever had it happen, but once he left a hickey on my behind and later saw it and said "OMG! You have a hickey!" I was like uh, you DID it! Ha Ha. He said "Oh yea."

Bottom line I couldn't be with someone I didn't trust. It would have to be miserable.

Yes, that's true. It would be easy to become suspicious so often when you've been cheated on before. That's one reason I could not stay with a partner who cheated. Even if for some crazy reason I wanted to stay with a person who cheated, I would NEVER be able to put that behind me. I would feel so bad about myself that I would be paranoid of him doing it again. Its simply just not worth it to stay or to cheat, but then again if you really consider cheating then it's probably not best to stay with the person. I think for some people (including the one I know who was doing this frequently to his partner) there's just no satisfying them. No matter what they are not going to be able to believe the person is innocent. That same day he checked her he also questioned her about her seat in the car being laid back and a piece of silver wrapping from a pack of smokes he insisted was a condom wrapper! I couldn't go through that if I was innocent.

Very well said

Oh my goodness! How awful! The whole 'the guilty dog barks first' thing can be true sometimes. I've noticed some people who cheat become overly suspicious that their parnter is cheating too and it can turn into paranoia! I guess they think if they are cheating then their partner MUST be doing it too. Or maybe it's the guilt getting to them and they start thinking it. I'm glad you moved on from that though. That takes a very strong person.

Wow! That does sound awful! I'd probably have gone insane! I too have anemia so I totally know what you mean about bruises like that. I used to use male's deo in the past because a specific brand smelled so good so you're right those things are not sure signs of cheating. I guess we all have gotten a bit suspicious at some point, maybe not to the point of follwing our partners or checking up on them, but I think a time or two of the thought 'could he be cheating?' isn't totally uncommon. I've wondered if my partner cheated before mostly because he's the only man who ever treated me like an actual person so at first I was suspicious of a lot of things. When he done things for me it felt un-normal to me. I didn't know of anything but nasty treatment. It did take time getting used to and now I know for sure he wouldn't ever cheat. Still we all have wondered at some point in time I think, even if it's simply from reading something in a magazine that causes a bit of curiousity.

You're right. It is absolutely a sign of abuse and thing is, it's happened before in this particular case.

Right. Good thing is the person did leave him that same day!

Wow! So glad you got out of that relationship. I can understand reassuring a person that you do love them from time to time. I mean everyone gets insecure and I certainly ain't one to talk about someone who has some insecurities, but there's a fine line between needing a bit of reassurance and holding someone down to check them. I don't blame you for leaving in that one and it's probably for the best.

Lol great answer. I don't carry pepper spray around for no reason! Ha Ha. Lol JK.

What a lack of trust that would show!