in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
Guys, what are dating turn-offs for you?
01/17/2013
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any guy help out there?
09/22/2013
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 cats can be an assault on the senses and a definite turnoff. Excessive swearing or negativity and constantly refering to your ex are three more unsavory traits.
09/22/2013
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a persons ex is a part of them. I would not make it all about your ex but be honest. what is a turn off. if the person has no job. if the person has a very bad credit score. if the person has no goals in life. if the person has no savings for his/her future. also if the person does not know how to budget there money and save. if they cant pay off there credit cards in full every month. this all screams I am not responsible. I am going no where.
Originally posted by
fly1212
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2
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Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 cats can be an assault on the senses and a definite turnoff. Excessive swearing or negativity and constantly refering to your ex are three more unsavory traits.
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11/16/2013
c'mon guys - need more responses here.
11/30/2013
I think it is not anything different from what turns off a gal. I know this is not a definitive itemized list but...
11/30/2013
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This blog page pretty much sums it ALL up:
Originally posted by
edeneve
c'mon guys - need more responses here.
12 Things Men Hate About Women
In my observation, most men do not like to put up with women who nag non-stop.
11/30/2013
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve?
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve?
11/30/2013
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I didn't want to duplicate this post, but wanted to agree with all of it but the cats I don't care how many pets someone has as long as they are very well cared for and loved!
Originally posted by
fly1212
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2
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Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 cats can be an assault on the senses and a definite turnoff. Excessive swearing or negativity and constantly refering to your ex are three more unsavory traits.
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11/30/2013
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That is one long list, girl!
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
I didn't want to duplicate this post, but wanted to agree with all of it but the cats I don't care how many pets someone has as long as they are very well cared for and loved!
11/30/2013
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She kept pressing for MORE answers, lol! And I am kind of embarrassed to admit I rattled those off right off the top of my head! But I have been thinking about and discussing this topic recently, so that might have something to do with it.
Originally posted by
Rossie
That is one long list, girl!
I guess I could be less specific and just say I am turned off by negativity, mean-spiritedness, immaturity and lack of character. That better?
Oh, I know it said for guys, but what the heck? I decided to write in anyway, so sue me!. Oh yeah, that reminds me, I am turned off by litigiousness, lol!
11/30/2013
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I agree with all of these. It's crazy how similar we are haha.
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
11/30/2013
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You and N can write a new Man's Bible! LOL
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
She kept pressing for MORE answers, lol! And I am kind of embarrassed to admit I rattled those off right off the top of my head! But I have been thinking about and discussing this topic recently, so that might have something to do with it.
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She kept pressing for MORE answers, lol! And I am kind of embarrassed to admit I rattled those off right off the top of my head! But I have been thinking about and discussing this topic recently, so that might have something to do with it.
I guess I could be less specific and just say I am turned off by negativity, mean-spiritedness, immaturity and lack of character. That better?
Oh, I know it said for guys, but what the heck? I decided to write in anyway, so sue me!. Oh yeah, that reminds me, I am turned off by litigiousness, lol! less
I guess I could be less specific and just say I am turned off by negativity, mean-spiritedness, immaturity and lack of character. That better?
Oh, I know it said for guys, but what the heck? I decided to write in anyway, so sue me!. Oh yeah, that reminds me, I am turned off by litigiousness, lol! less
12/01/2013
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I concur, for the most part. I'm perhaps been more tolerant of smoking and drinking though. Oh and by the way, one item that I would add for those women who believe that men are intimidated by intelligence. Please don't pretend to be dumb, it is not an endearing trait. I personally find smart to be very sexy and dumb a turnoff, no matter how pretty the package.
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
12/01/2013
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Hey, RonLee, nice to see you around!!
Originally posted by
RonLee
I concur, for the most part. I'm perhaps been more tolerant of smoking and drinking though. Oh and by the way, one item that I would add for those women who believe that men are intimidated by intelligence. Please don't pretend to be dumb,
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I concur, for the most part. I'm perhaps been more tolerant of smoking and drinking though. Oh and by the way, one item that I would add for those women who believe that men are intimidated by intelligence. Please don't pretend to be dumb, it is not an endearing trait. I personally find smart to be very sexy and dumb a turnoff, no matter how pretty the package.
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I'm allergic to smoke, so that influenced that turn off. I just can't abide mean drunks and that kind of thing is what I mean. That and a life centered around drinking because I can't drink -- yes, allergic to that, too (and very bitter about it, lol).
I am really glad you said that about playing dumb! And I think playing anything is dishonest and why would someone want to have to then hide who they really are for the rest of the relationship? (I considered dishonest as included under the lack of character)
Hey Edeneve, why not ask now for lists of turn ons, too?
12/01/2013
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for me. my turn off is a movie. I would want to do something to know you. not avoid you.
Originally posted by
edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
12/28/2013
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Good point, but a movie can also stimulate conversation about it later and help break the ice for people who are not sparkling conversationalists, right?
Originally posted by
imperialyellowdragon
for me. my turn off is a movie. I would want to do something to know you. not avoid you.
I will add more turn offs:
--Never returning calls or messages. You know, the person you can only speak to if you catch them answering the call or you run into them in person. (In other words, people make time for what, and whomever, is important to them!!!)
--Only interested in talking about himself and never asking any questions about you (other than a quick, "How are you?" with absolutely no follow through. For example: the woman replies, "I am fine now, but I recently was in the hospital" to which the man then says, "Awww" or worse, a and nothing else!!) I thought this was included under dismissiveness in my previous list, however I think this needed it's own place.
03/01/2014
So, Edeneve, can we just open this up to all people and relationships and their turn offs? I find this stuff so interesting and fun to read. I know, I already trampled all over the "rules" in the first place by answering as a woman. Oh well, I just couldn't resist! And I also wanted to keep your discussion getting answers because I hate good topics that get buried and few responses.
03/26/2014
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by all means - this is certainly open to everyone & any relationship & their turn-offs.
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
So, Edeneve, can we just open this up to all people and relationships and their turn offs? I find this stuff so interesting and fun to read. I know, I already trampled all over the "rules" in the first place by answering as a woman. Oh
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So, Edeneve, can we just open this up to all people and relationships and their turn offs? I find this stuff so interesting and fun to read. I know, I already trampled all over the "rules" in the first place by answering as a woman. Oh well, I just couldn't resist! And I also wanted to keep your discussion getting answers because I hate good topics that get buried and few responses.
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go ahead everyone, let's hear from you.
03/26/2014
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Well, if people want my laundry list (it's almost embarrassingly long and detailed, LOL!), take a gander at my posts above where I run off at the mouth, and I am sorry to say that was primarily off the top of my head! No wonder i am alone, eh? LMAO!
Originally posted by
edeneve
by all means - this is certainly open to everyone & any relationship & their turn-offs.
go ahead everyone, let's hear from you.
go ahead everyone, let's hear from you.
03/26/2014
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- Bad taste in clothing and culture
Originally posted by
edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
(Women in their 20's... not feeling jelly sandals... Jelly sex toys yes... jelly sandals NO! Wear what fits you, I don't want to think If I touch a razor blade to your ass your pants will shoot off and yes yes... I know you have breasts but you don't have to crush them and squeeze them out of your shirt to show me them. I respect you more with them in a nice T-Shirt then a v neck that goes down to your navel.)
- Bad taste in music
(I can respect most music but I cant hack those people who love whatever is popular because its popular. If you say you love Metallica you better fucking believe I am going to ask you about the albums before load.... .
- Bad Breath
(Seriously I don't mind tuna fish but on bread please)
- Inability to hold a conversation
(if we are talking and you dont know about something just tell me you don't know... Don't talk yourself in a hole then I am going to lose my respect for you.)
03/28/2014
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Ditto.
Originally posted by
Wicked Wahine
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual ... more
turn offs:
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
poor grammar
chronic indecisiveness
lack of character
no work ethic! and laziness
selfishness
irresponsibility (including financial)
self-absorption
no intellectual curiosity
chronic lateness
poor hygiene
bullying
mean-spirited teasing
unkind to animals!!!!!
bad teeth/bad breath
chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)
smoking
drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.
being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer
dismissing me (in any sense!)
poor conversationalist
---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve? less
07/21/2014
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@TexasBrat: Clearly, you are a discerning individual with good taste! It's nice that you and Sincerely Yours, N agree with me. I was afraid after listing all that that I was going to get reamed for being intolerant or something, lol!
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
Ditto.
@ The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secr etary: LMAO, good calls!!!
07/28/2014
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I personally like aggressive women, They do the chasing.
Originally posted by
edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options and they don't want any of them, WTF)
3. My Ex would get pissed off , for No apparent reason, but won't let me help, tell me whats wrong, fix it??
Thats why she's my ex, LOL. Now all her co-workers call me up
10/21/2015
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agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.
Originally posted by
NJ casanova
I personally like aggressive women, They do the chasing.
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options ... more
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options ... more
I personally like aggressive women, They do the chasing.
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options and they don't want any of them, WTF)
3. My Ex would get pissed off , for No apparent reason, but won't let me help, tell me whats wrong, fix it??
Thats why she's my ex, LOL. Now all her co-workers call me up less
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options and they don't want any of them, WTF)
3. My Ex would get pissed off , for No apparent reason, but won't let me help, tell me whats wrong, fix it??
Thats why she's my ex, LOL. Now all her co-workers call me up less
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy.
10/22/2015
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OH. you cynic....u are a pushover for these types of women , eh?
Originally posted by
OH&W, Lovebears
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
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Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
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agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy. less
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy. less
Yea...that hangman was easy.
10/23/2015
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She was TOO beautiful and I knew it from the start My Fav are spanish girls (most aggressive)/FYI- I'm white. Never seen a spanish girl as HOT as her, not even movies stars, hotter than eva mendes/longoria, sophia vegara, jennifer lopez. She actually looks alot like "Niki Skyler" my buddy sent me a vid and I thought it was her until I got a good pic of the ass/tits, my girl had less top/more bottom I didn't care if she was treating me like sh*t.
Originally posted by
OH&W, Lovebears
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co ... more
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co ... more
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy. less
Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?
Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy. less
As for the Co-workers... She was a bartender as a strip club, so when we broke up, all the dancer's I knew put their #s in my phone. I guess they were getting mean to her,She actually said "So are you going to get your girls to beat me up?" She got fired, so I go up when I know the girl(flavor) I want to see is working I made a youtube playlist to get psyched. It's ALOT less stressful, even thou I still miss that b*tch
10/23/2015
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Hey NJ c, sounds and appears you fit in well with the EF community. Why not complete your profile so members can follow you. Sounds like you have a lot to contribute.
Originally posted by
NJ casanova
She was TOO beautiful and I knew it from the start My Fav are spanish girls (most aggressive)/FYI- I'm white. Never seen a spanish girl as HOT as her, not even movies stars, hotter than eva mendes/longoria, sophia vegara, jennifer lopez. She
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She was TOO beautiful and I knew it from the start My Fav are spanish girls (most aggressive)/FYI- I'm white. Never seen a spanish girl as HOT as her, not even movies stars, hotter than eva mendes/longoria, sophia vegara, jennifer lopez. She actually looks alot like "Niki Skyler" my buddy sent me a vid and I thought it was her until I got a good pic of the ass/tits, my girl had less top/more bottom I didn't care if she was treating me like sh*t.
As for the Co-workers... She was a bartender as a strip club, so when we broke up, all the dancer's I knew put their #s in my phone. I guess they were getting mean to her,She actually said "So are you going to get your girls to beat me up?" She got fired, so I go up when I know the girl(flavor) I want to see is working I made a youtube playlist to get psyched. It's ALOT less stressful, even thou I still miss that b*tch less
As for the Co-workers... She was a bartender as a strip club, so when we broke up, all the dancer's I knew put their #s in my phone. I guess they were getting mean to her,She actually said "So are you going to get your girls to beat me up?" She got fired, so I go up when I know the girl(flavor) I want to see is working I made a youtube playlist to get psyched. It's ALOT less stressful, even thou I still miss that b*tch less
We ahh, I will be your first !
10/23/2015
stupidity, ignorance, self absorption, chronic laziness, habitual indecisiveness, bossy, selfishness, drug use (excluding prescription), excessive drinking, self entitlement, smokers, constant comparison to an ex boyfriend and a few other traits I can't think of right now.
10/24/2015
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Smoking
Originally posted by
edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
10/25/2015
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