Flirting with others while in a relationship

Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I do not do this but I have friends who do. Do you flirt with others while in a relationship, or would you just feel too much guilt? Discuss!
06/02/2012
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Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
This REALLY depends on the boundaries of your relationship. In me and my boyfriends relationship it really wouldn't be okay to flirt, but I know for a lot of other people it would be. It's all between you and your SO!

On the other hand, I know of couples who find it okay to sleep with other people, so I think that as long as you discuss it at the beginning of your relationship and set boundaries and expectations you agree upon it's a-okay to do whatever you want.
06/02/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
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Originally posted by Ryuson
This REALLY depends on the boundaries of your relationship. In me and my boyfriends relationship it really wouldn't be okay to flirt, but I know for a lot of other people it would be. It's all between you and your SO!

On the other ... more
Exactly! As long as the people in the relationship are okay with what's going on, its alright!

Personally, I don't like it, and I certainly don't flirt with other people while I'm in a relationship. I also don't like it when people flirt with someone who they /know/ is in a relationship - it just seems so disrespectful!
06/02/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I don't flirt, it shows disrespect for my husband--in my opinion. However, I do have friends who flirt heavily and remain faithful and their relationships are great. I think it depends on the person.
06/02/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
Depends on the relationship. I'd never do it personally and I wouldn't tolerate it if my partner did it.
06/02/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
Absolutely! My SO thinks something is wrong when I *don't* flirt with other guys! He doesn't mind it.
06/02/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
It all depends on the particulars of your relationship. So long as it's something that's discussed and agreed upon beforehand, I say flirt away!

I don't know if I'd do it, but I'm no good at flirting to begin with. I wouldn't mind if a guy I was with flirted, and might even be fine with any "fun times" that might occur - so long as I was invited to watch/join!
06/02/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I do not do this but I have friends who do. Do you flirt with others while in a relationship, or would you just feel too much guilt? Discuss!
It depends on several things. For instance how will it benefit US...and I say US because everything I do is to benefit my household. So if the man at the counter is gonna give me something free or a discount just to bat my eyes and giggle then SOLD. I have sat in the car when my husband went someplace because the cashier liked him and always gave him a discount or something. Our relationship is very strong and open though, so we talk about everything. This makes it a lot easier and keeps our trust levels up. I will send him over to comment on this one.
06/03/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I do not do this but I have friends who do. Do you flirt with others while in a relationship, or would you just feel too much guilt? Discuss!
I think flirting is just fine as long as you always respect your partner.
06/21/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
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Originally posted by Ryuson
This REALLY depends on the boundaries of your relationship. In me and my boyfriends relationship it really wouldn't be okay to flirt, but I know for a lot of other people it would be. It's all between you and your SO!

On the other ... more
Well said! It's okay in my relationship, but it varies for every couple or group. There is no set, universal model for whether or not flirting is okay.
07/08/2012
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
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Originally posted by js250
I don't flirt, it shows disrespect for my husband--in my opinion. However, I do have friends who flirt heavily and remain faithful and their relationships are great. I think it depends on the person.
agreed.
07/08/2012
Contributor: gorgeous gorgeous
I try not to flirt with other people while in a relationship. But right now I am doing it and the guy is in a relationship too. But I am happy with my current boyfriend, I just like the extra attention I get from it.
08/31/2012
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
As people have already pointed out, whether or not flirting while in a relationship is okay depends on the particular boundaries that the people in the relationship establish. But for me? Na, I don't flirt while in a relationship and neither does my SO.
08/31/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
We have established a boundary for ourselves of not flirting with anyone else since we are together. Like others have said, it will differ from relationship to relationship - as long as both people are on the same page and working together, I don't think there's a wrong answer here.
09/01/2012
Contributor: Vaginas Vaginas
nope I don't try to flirt with anyone. he's all the man I ever need to flirt with.
09/01/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
It really depends on the people in the relationship and what they are comfortable with.
09/01/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I do not do this but I have friends who do. Do you flirt with others while in a relationship, or would you just feel too much guilt? Discuss!
I have always flirted but my husband and life partner don't mind and we have a great time sort of watching each other. So much joie de vivre!
09/01/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
As long as the people in the relationship are fine with it I'd say it's alright.
I'm usually a notorious flirt with my friends online myself actually, but out of respect for my boyfriend I stopped. I don't know if he'd be alright with it, and even if he was I wouldn't want to make him feel inferior somehow.

But flirting with him is just as much fun anyway. :3
I especially love saying things that make him blush...it's adorable.
09/01/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't think it's okay. It's giving others a false impression that I'm available or interested in them. I'm 100% taken, and refuse to even flirt with another person. My husband is a friendly/flirty person and it bothers me sometimes...I don't want him to ever feel that way about me.
09/01/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
I don't think it's right to flirt with someone else when you're in a monogamous relationship. I'd feel too guilty, if you feel the desire to flirt with someone else then maybe that's a sign you shouldn't be in the relationship
12/08/2012