I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
First dates: WHO PAYS?
07/20/2012
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Whoever does the asking
Originally posted by
LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
07/20/2012
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I've heard that's the new standard.
Originally posted by
mpfm
Whoever does the asking
07/20/2012
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My gentlemen training dictates I pay. I have not run into too many that object.
Originally posted by
LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
07/20/2012
The male normaly pays
07/20/2012
I think it depends on each situation, who invited who out and such, but normally it's rude for the guy to expect the girl to pay.
07/20/2012
When I was dating, the guy asked, but I was always prepared to pay my share just in case.
07/20/2012
I usually expect the guy to offer to pay if it's not too expensive, if not I'd be prepared to pay for my share.
07/20/2012
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depends on who asks
Originally posted by
LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
07/20/2012
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agreed!
Originally posted by
mpfm
Whoever does the asking
07/20/2012
I think it's fair to split the bill. I've never been on a date other then with my hubby and that is our money. If I was asked out on a date and I would expect to pay for myself and them the same. I wouldn't accept them paying for my meal unless they truly insisted. Then I would insist on paying for the next one.
07/20/2012
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Makes sense.
Originally posted by
mpfm
Whoever does the asking
07/20/2012
Typically whoever does the asking. If it's a more casual quasi-date, splitting it works, but it's usually polite for the person who asked to offer
07/20/2012
Where i'm from the boy does the gentleman thing and pays
07/20/2012
I think it's totally ok to split, not an individual check. I'll pay for dinner and they can pay for coffee or dessert or something, or vice versa.
I think it's sexist to expect the guy to pay.
I think it's sexist to expect the guy to pay.
07/20/2012
I think the person inviting should pay. However I am always prepared to pay or help pay when I am invited out.
07/21/2012
I am a guy and I expect to always pay
07/21/2012
I think it's usually the person who did the asking - I either go with that, or split it. I'm queer, though, so there are fewer gender role standards to contend with.
07/22/2012
Usually the guy, but be prepared to pay your half if it comes up.
07/22/2012
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I think that this is the best way to go about things. If you want to take someone out, take them out. Gender doesn't have anything to do with that.
Originally posted by
mpfm
Whoever does the asking
07/23/2012
Both split it.
Its not fair that the person who asks be forced to pay for both, because the other person willingly agreed.
Its not fair that the person who asks be forced to pay for both, because the other person willingly agreed.
07/23/2012
I ALWAYS try to pay for my meal no matter who invited who. I hate having others pay for things
07/23/2012
On a first date I expect the man to pay, especially if it was their idea.
07/23/2012
I think the man should but always offering to pay anyway is a really nice gesture.
07/23/2012
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I agree, although I still always offer to pay my half if he's the one who asked.
Originally posted by
mpfm
Whoever does the asking
07/23/2012
We kind of "fought" on who would pay or even allowing me to pay half, he won and so he paid for the whole night. But we went to get a midnight snack later and I wore him down so I was able to pay
12/06/2012
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agree, but that is some brownie points if the guy still pays and the girl asked him out!
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
agreed!
12/07/2012
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