How do you feel about simultaneous dating?

Contributor: petname petname
Would you date two or more different people within the same time period (but not together on the same date), or would you think of that as inappropriate or cheating? If you would do so, would you tell each about the other(s)? I've noticed that there seems to be a generational difference with this a lot of the time.
03/04/2012
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Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I don't think it's inherently wrong, but in this culture, I feel it would be right to tell the people involved. It could be very problematic to keep it a secret - and if you're doing nothing "wrong", why should you ?

If that's what you want to do, find people who are okay with it and will consent that that kind of thing.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by Chirple
I don't think it's inherently wrong, but in this culture, I feel it would be right to tell the people involved. It could be very problematic to keep it a secret - and if you're doing nothing "wrong", why should you ?

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I agree. It's not wrong if you date multiple people but only if they know. Otherwise, it's cheating. They may be under the illusion that you're exclusive and you are just being dishonest and could potentially break their heart. There are plenty of people who are into open/polyamorous/etc. relationships so finding someone like that would be much preferred if you like dating multiple people.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
It's not something I would do.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I'm not made for serial dating (or "simultaneous submissions" as we'd call it in publishing), but it's an acceptable practice as long as everyone involved is aware of it.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I also agree that there's really nothing wrong so long as all parties involved are aware that there's no exclusivity. That being said, I don't think I'd be ok with doing it myself, or being one of a few people that somebody is dating.
03/05/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I am dating two people, but they're aware of that and are also dating each other. We're more polyamorous than just casual daters.
06/06/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I've not done this (seems like too much work to me! lol) but I know people who do. As long as you haven't promised to be exclusive I don't see it as being wrong. If there is an expectation of exclusivity with someone though, I do think it would be inappropriate.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
I'd let at least a day pass, otherwise I'd feel like it was... cheapening it? Not cheating, but making it less of a 'thing' for myself.

I'd also tell 'em.
06/06/2012